Euthanasia: Do You Really Need It? This Will Help You Decide!
Our Experience of Life and Death is tightly connected with our childhood experiences and our Unmet Needs. Awareness helps us to take back our responsibility.
How do you feel about Euthanasia?
Death and dying always intrigued me and Euthanasia has long been an ethical issue for me as a physician. Who was I to assist you to end your life? Euthanasia is a huge territory, and by delving deep into this matter we might discover a great deal about our relationship with the cosmic principle of life and death.
Do you remember a moment where you wanted to die, and after profound deliberation you chose to live?
In this article we wonder if we really need Euthanasia?
In order to assist you to deicide, we first define euthanasia and then connect it with our unmet needs.
What is Euthanasia?
Euthanasia is the right to die painlessly, when you suffer from an incurable, often painful, disease or condition.
Some countries, like Belgium, have detailed and far-reaching policies around Euthanasia.
It is remarkable how Belgium creates the possibility to have meaningful conversations around difficult issues such as euthanasia.
Underlying these policies lies the desire to give the responsibility back to the individual person who has the possibility to consider Euthanasia. And the pitfall of regulating Euthanasia is that through the complexity of the procedure people often feel lost, overwhelmed and powerless.
What makes Euthanasia such a complicated issue? Euthanasia is about death and dying. Death and dying are intrinsically connected with our soul’s purpose.
Whatever happens and has ever happened to you and around you will affect how you live and how you die.
Let us return to the developmental steps we all take in our lives and how they can create unmet needs (you can read more about these developmental steps in: How our Childhood Stories can Bridge our Soul’s Purpose). Those unmet needs will clarify how we handle death and dying and help us decide whether we need Euthanasia!
- A lack of safety and a desire to return to the spiritual realm, versus creating safety within your body-mind
- Unbearable pain of emptiness as a reason to die, versus achieving inner recognition
- Trying to control the ‘inevitable’ versus a balanced inner authority with regard to death and dying
- Unmet needs around giving and receiving love, choosing death in order not to be a burden versus compassion for self and others
- Taking responsibility for your death and dying from a place of failure and burnout versus taking responsibility in deep connection with all that is.
Unmet physiological needs
During your stay in the womb until the age of six months, you are very vulnerable and depending on your primary caregivers to have your basic physiological needs met ¾ food, warmth, comfort and rest.
If those physiological needs are not met sufficiently, it creates a lack of safety and a feeling of insecurity. You develop a high sensitivity. This sensitivity freezes you, and you perceive life as harsh and unsafe.
The spiritual being that you are has difficulties to incarnate in this human reality. A part of you always wants to return ‘home’ to your spiritual family. You have a natural tendency towards suicide and Euthanasia.
Euthanasia is normal for you. You flirt with dying.
For your soul there is only safety in the spiritual world. Your body-mind will experience fear to die and your decisions will depend on which feeling is stronger.
You can become alienated from your body-mind. This body-mind can move for instance through a process of dementia and your soul wants to leave. Nobody has to decide in your place.
When your soul achieves safety within your body-mind, your gift is your natural ability to connect with the other world and guide other people through their dying processes.
Unmet needs of approval and recognition
You start to develop your sense of self from the age of six months until two years. You explore what you like and dislike, and you have a huge need for approval and recognition.
We are all damaged in our sense of self. Sometimes we are extremely dependant on external approval and recognition. We easily search for distraction through addictive behaviour.
Your sense of self can be so low that you go into a huge depression and experience unbearable psychological pain where you can only see the possibility of dying as a definite way out of your misery.
Who can decide in your place? Not many of us realize that anybody who has the totality of your circumstances will react in the same way.
Euthanasia is the escape of this huge emptiness inside of you, this place of deep despair.
When you learn to accept the despair and find your own inner recognition, your gift is that you have been there and if you choose to live, you are an amazing gift for others in comparable circumstances.
Unmet needs for control and power
At the age of two until six, we all experience the need to control our life and have power over our environment. We begin to explore and develop our inner authority.
When you feel powerless, this will inevitably affect how you handle your death and dying. Do you rely on an outer authority to give you permission to die, or do you decide for yourself when you came to completion for this incarnation?
Euthanasia can be a way of trying to control what inevitably will take place in its own unique Divine Timing.
When you have allowed yourself to have the conscious choice to make an end to your life or to continue your life, you have grown inner authority and gained an awareness that is a huge gift to the world. You redefine euthanasia; you do not decide governed by your unmet needs, you decide about your dying from a balanced inner authority, a power from within. Your life comes to completion when the time is right. You can really live when you are no longer afraid to die.
Unmet needs around giving and receiving love
In this developmental stage from the age of six until twelve, you move into the astonishing realm of relationships. How well are we able to give and receive love?
Distrust and betrayal easily can give rise to unbearable psychological pain.
Is Euthanasia a secret way of creating huge separation? Escaping a world where you feel there is no space for you? Painful beliefs arise that there is nobody to hold you, nobody to be with you. Living in itself becomes unbearable.
You perceive yourself as being a burden for your children or caregivers.
When you manage healing cycles through the suffering of painful unfulfilled relationships, your gift is love and compassion arising from within. Dying in your unique timing surrounded by people who really love you and listen to you can be a bath of love.
Unmet needs around expressing ourselves
From the age of twelve onwards, we begin to express ourselves in the world. We offer our unique contribution and our gifts, and we take responsibility for who we are.
Burnout occurs when you feel the world does not appreciate ‘you’ and your unique contribution to the world. Burnout can drive you towards a request for euthanasia. You have the feeling you don’t matter.
Speaking your truth, whether it is received by others or not, is inevitably connected with taking responsibility for your life and death.
Is Euthanasia a way an individual can take responsibility or is it only part of the Story of Separation? Is taking real responsibility for your life and dying something completely different?
Our gift is to take responsibility in a new way, according to the new structures, not in separation, though in deep connection to what is much bigger than we are.
| Euthanasia and our unmet needs | ||
| Developmental stageOur needs | Pitfall | Gift |
| Conception through the age of six months.Need for safety. | Not fully incarnated, safety is assumed in the spiritual world. | A natural ability to connect with the spiritual world, being a guide for others through death and dying |
| 6 months through 2 yearsNeed for approval and recognition | Escape from your reality of huge depression and emptiness, from your incomplete sense of self. | A human guide for others in comparable circumstances. |
| 2 through 6 yearsNeed of control and power | Giving away your power or exert control over the ‘inevitable’ fact of dying. | A balanced inner authority handling the precise timing of your death and dying. |
| 6 through 12 yearsNeed for giving and receiving love | Unbearable pain of unfulfilled relationships. | Compassion for self and others. |
| From 12 years onwardNeed to express ourselves | Taking painful responsibility from a place of failure and burnout. | Taking one hundred per cent responsibility in deep connection with all that is. |
Conclusion:
We are not arguing if Euthanasia is necessary or not. We invite you as the reader to come to your own conclusions and make your decisions with a great deal of insight.
Every unmet need can in its own right give rise to a request for euthanasia or a desire to make an end to your life. When we make a conscious choice to live, whatever our circumstances are, we might create for ourselves a huge opportunity for soul growth. When you have considered the possibility to die, you really live.
Euthanasia can be very graceful and serene.
And Euthanasia can be an escape, a failing, separation.
Only our body-mind dies, our soul is eternal and returns with what it has established.
Dying is a transformation into another form. Nothing is ever lost in the Universe. It is a gateway into another reality.
You can learn more about handling your developmental edges and unmet needs in Becoming What is Changing: Exposition.
I would love to hear your stories around death and dying.
Veerle
June, 2014
VEERLE DE BOCK is a physician, healer, facilitator, trainer, coach and author of the trilogy, Becoming What is Changing. She spent nearly three decades of her life as a physician specializing in geriatric care, including a 21-year career as department head in an Antwerp regional hospital. In 2003, she began her study as an energetic healer, teacher, process facilitator and supervisor at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, and since 2007 has been leading many other trainees to master these same skills. In 2010 she was trained in the practice of Dynamic Facilitation by Jim Rough, which she now incorporates into her workshops and training sessions. In 2012 she decided to devote her work exclusively to writing, facilitation and coaching. That same year, she devised a new integrative practice of facilitation she calls ‘Guest House Facilitation’, that helps teams learn how to listen and utilise both the inner and outer processes within their organisation, to see it as a dynamic and living organism, and to reconnect to its intrinsic purpose and intention. Her book, Becoming What is Changing: Exposition, is the first part of a trilogy aimed at managers, team leaders and responsible employees who wish to bring this kind of transformation into the workplace, so they can create an environment where people are happy, satisfied and continuously growing.
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