Chances to change

How can the ChancesToChange board game be of service to you?

We are listening to your unique experience and how you give meaning to what is happening. We are shapeshifting a field of fear into a flow of joy, ease and love.

These are special times. What is your current story? What is underneath the Coronavirus outbreak? What might really be happening? What is the essence of the Corona outbreak? Maybe it is the choice either to go for fear or to go for joy, ease and love; the choice to stay in survival mode or to go for new opportunities. 

Fear brings more fear and limitations on all levels of our being. Joy, ease and love create health and the possibility of new beginnings. 

What if we experience the Coronavirus outbreak as a flow where we can choose which forms with their related functions we create.

What will we cover in this article:

  • Experiencing the Coronavirus outbreak as a flow
  • The major players of the board game
  • What gives you strength and power in these times
  • The dance between our small self and our true self

Experiencing the Coronavirus outbreak as a flow

Flow, form and function is the movement in all of existence. If we are willing to consider the possibility that the Coronavirus outbreak is a flow of life force we open up to many possible choices with regard to the forms and functions that are able to unfold. We give our self the possibility to be responsive to what happens in our life and to live with ease and joy.

Yes there is the fear and yes there is the reality of people dying. It is important that we don’t underestimate the fear in the collective field, it is dense and sticky. It is invisible and contagious. Our small selves are very susceptible to fear. Each of us has his or her unique way in which our small self processes fear. Some of us experience panic attacks, some of us try to control, others stay calm and try to fix, analyse, rationalise. Some will become angry or blame. These are all survival modes related to, and triggered by, the field of fear.

There are a lot of ramifications caused by a collective field paralysed by fear or being governed by fear.  Fear has no power in itself, but when so many people, organisations and systems invest in fear, it becomes overwhelming. We are allowing fear to have authority over us, creating a loop of fear.

The only solution is to move our attention from fear-based choices towards our true self, aligning us to what really matters to us.

What is the underlying message of the outbreak, what is it bringing us? If we consider this outbreak as a flow of life force, we are able to see it as part of the intelligent design of the earth and all life on it and as part of our evolution. This is the very big picture and how does that look in our everyday life? What possibilities open up for us?

How can we with the ChancesToChange board game be of service?

The ChancesToChange board game creates a field where you are a long-awaited guest. We invite you to visit and play with us. We will completely welcome you.

Let’s start by looking at the major players in the board game and how they speak to you.

The major players in the board game

Let’s have a look at all the major players: 

Our body provides us, as a human being, with processes and symptoms related to our experience of what is happening to us and around us. This is absolutely true in this moment. Our hospitals and intensive care units are overloaded with patients needing assistance in their journey with the Coronavirus.

Stress has a negative effect on our immune system and fear is a huge stress factor. Joy on the other hand allows our body to access its inner healing capacity.

Our body is our most intimate partner in this adventure of being human. Our body partners with our soul. How do you listen to your body?

Our soul converts all our experiences into consciousness and is the bridge between us as spiritual beings and us as human beings. This bridge is our inner channel. Our soul has a script of those experiences it wants to have in this lifetime. You might consider the Coronavirus outbreak part of your soul’s script! 

Our experiences in life happen in the collective field, another major player.

The collective field is our playground and the memory of mankind. The imprints of fear in the field can cause us to endlessly repeat our old stories. At the same time we can experience the vastness and wholeness of the collective essence in the flow of the Coronavirus and allow this to support a unique new story for us as individuals and for the earth in general. How are you affected by this library of humanity?

The next player is our mind which arises through an interaction between the energy of the collective field, our body and our soul. In the board game there is no specific card for the mind and at the same time the mind is always present in the background as our mind processes all the information and energy that comes to us. Our mind is an amazing processor and if disconnected from our body and soul it can become quite a challenge to live our life to the fullest and cope with what is happening to us and around us. Especially in these times, we become a playball in the collective field, because our mind informs our personality. 

Our personality (= small self) is made up of aspects and facets which are constantly changing through experiencing. The Coronavirus outbreak and more precisely the fear-based choices affect the roles, titles and identifications our personality has gathered throughout our lives. The yellow card in the picture below shows us how our personality thinks, feels and acts.

How do you weave a colourful tapestry with these three facets in your life? Are thinking, feeling and doing supporting each other?

The game adds another major player to our life: silence. Silence is a place of rest and a moment of connection with our inner self. Each time we listen in the game we bring our awareness to our centre. We listen from within to source, our body and the collective field. The Coronavirus outbreak brings a great deal of silence back into our lives. 

We have described the six major players. This picture gives them all a place – our body (1), our soul and inner channel (2), our mind (3), the collective field (4), our personality (5) and silence (6) – and shows the interaction and ongoing exchange between all of them.

We return to the silence and we invite you to connect to your own inner being and gently ask yourself: “What gives me strength and power in these times?”

What gives you strength and power in these times? 

When we connect to our inner being, we automatically land in our inner channel. This channel grounds our soul into the earth and keeps our soul connected to the spiritual world to carry forth its purpose. This inner channel is also our intention. What is intention?

Intention is how we embrace the fullness of the offerings, tasks and challenges of our life as a human being. This also includes the challenges and offerings of the Coronavirus outbreak. Practically this unfolds through the fact that each facet of our personality has its own unique intention and there is a weaving between all these different intentions. Intention is how we bring the deepest truth of who and what we are and who and what we become into the world. 

Intention is an immeasurable and indescribable force that connects everything in the universe. The earth and all life on earth, every spiritual being and all our creations have an intention. How can you find your intention?

Each intention gives birth to a toroidal field (donut shaped) which holds our highest possible potential. As the picture shows, this toroidal field encompasses all the main players of this game: body, soul, collective field, mind, personality and silence. You can see visually how all that is related to your so-called human self – your body, mind, the collective field, your personality (=small self) – are held in this toroidal field. Your soul is the bridge between your human self and a much bigger part of the totality of your self.

The true self and the small self

The card of self refers to my true spiritual being and is the totality of who I am and who I become. My true self enables me to pioneer, to refresh and renew who I am in the world, what I do and how I think, feel and sense. It is my true self that can choose to turn my attention away from the field of fear. My personality is a smaller part of my true self and much more easily triggered through this field of fear. My personality is the part of me that will choose more easily for the role of victim.  

Conclusion

We always have the choice to align with our inner being and to move with grace and determination with whatever happens in our life or we can be governed by our small self’s programmes of fear and act upon those. It is a fine balance and all is welcome. We can have any experience we wish to have and afterwards return to what really matters to us.

We welcome all the major players in this board game which are also the major players in our day-to-day life. We know that our true self radiates light and love no matter what happens to us or around us; no matter which choices we make or do not make; regardless of where we bring our attention and regardless of how we are affected by the collective field or affect the collective field in turn. Our true self is always a continuously changing expression of our essence.

Please join us in our Awareness Marathon! We gently and lovingly share awareness and allow more perspectives and more choices.

An Awareness Marathon is where we invite each of us to breath and to connect with what really matters, with the truth of who we are and how we want to serve in this changing world! It is free and it is global!  It is joyful and it is contagious! We are ten facilitators ready to meet you in breakout rooms! Be welcome!

warme regards,

Veerle and Elaine

Veerle De Bock: Each day I add a bit more colour to the world, I colour within and outside of the lines as I take up different roles. My different roles are social entrepreneur, physician, coach, teacher, therapist and most of all facilitator of emerging possibilities (full bio)

Elaine Mc Googan: I am a traveller, healer and organiser of admin things. I trained at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing Europe over a period of 6 years.  I am passionate about supporting my healing clients, exploring what it means to be in community, as well as supporting this amazing board game.

Aspects of life

A Gateway to Break Free from the Powerful Practice of Reviews!

A Gateway to Break Free from the Powerful Practice of Reviews!

A story of your experience is what is true for you in the moment, it can be “made to stick” and reveal a unique quality of how you serve.

This blog article takes you into the world of reviews, a world that seems to control us and define our experiences.

Do you care about the reviews people write about you or your services?

Do you write reviews?

Here is how we will explore and meet this world of reviews:

  • A review of my recent experience in a restaurant
  • What makes an experience stick?
  • Is what I need also what you need?

 

A review of my recent experience in a restaurant

My experience in Bistro Heritage made me smile. This is my story or if you wish, my review.

I enjoyed the food and the wine and yet that is not really what made me experience joy. What made me leave the bistro with a smile on my face was the effect the gracious attitude of the maître had on me.

In a short period of time I noticed him spontaneously filleting a sole for one of his young customers. A little while later he passed my table and saw my puzzled look regarding the piece of rib in front of me. He gently proposed to cut it in smaller pieces for me. It was a generous offer, he did not parent me. I felt grateful and cared for. Later in the evening I witnessed how he offered another couple a glas of rosé out of a magnum bottle. He saw their own bottle was empty and their meal not yet finished.

This review shares the story of my experience. It is personal, it is unique to who and what I am. It is related to what sticks for me!

 

What makes an experience stick

There is a lot of information available on what sticks and what doesn’t stick. The Heath brothers take you on a special journey in their book “Made to Stick”  They list a series of factors that are important if you want your organisation, product or restaurant to stick:

SIMPLE-UNEXPECTED-CONCRETE-CREDIBLE-EMOTIONAL-STORY

Lets have look and match these factors with my story above.

  • It is simple, this maître sees an opening and he acts upon it.
  • It is unexpected, he got my attention.
  • It is concrete, I understood and I remembered it afterwards.
  • It is credible. I believe that this way of being is what will create a more beautiful world.
  • It is emotional, because it is about care and love for others.
  • It is a story that can be spread into the world.

This is remarkable! What if what makes us smile, sticks with us because it follows all these principles the Heath brothers mention!

What is also remarkable that many reviews are limited to one or two of these aspects.

Many relate to the emotional aspect. The mâitre was unfriendly. The personal was adorable. Or they offer concrete comments. The food was horrible. The wine was delicious.

There is already an important invitation here. What if we wrote: I perceived the mâitre as unfriendly. I felt cared for by the personal. I didn’t like the food. I loved the wine. Then we share our stories in such a way that shows that we are responsible for our own experience and for what sticks with us.

Another observation here is that reviews are not only about what makes us smile. Reviews might be more related to what we need and want. Here comes another perspective to explore!

 

Is what I need also what you need?

I found an article through TripAdvisor referencing five major qualities a maître of a restaurant should have in order to succeed. One of these qualities is on understanding customer needs. Which is more specific identifying the true needs of each client.

There might be a pitfall here. A maître could easily take his needs for yours and impose those on you. What he needs or beliefs or thinks is not always what you need, believe or think!

Let’s return to the story. How does this maître of the Bistro Heritage handle his customers needs? He does not assume he knows the needs of his customers, he waits until those needs are obvious. His intuition then seems to inform him about the right action. He gets out of the way.

What we learn here is that customers needs are related to your success. We add one more factor to the list of the brothers Heath. This factor is “service” and this makes the acronym SUCCESS complete!

Let us return to the topic of this article! How does this relate to reviews? What you need and want and share in a review is unique for you and might not be what I want and need.

 

Wrapping up

We offer more perspectives into this fascinating world of reviews, a world that affects us and guides our choices.

Reviews are always personal stories. This is part of the policies of TripAdvisor, the kingdom of reviews (…. I certify that this review is based on my own experience and is my genuine opinion…). This leads us into an important question. How reliable are reviews?

We are responsible in how we share our stories and vice versa how we read and interpret the stories of others.

Reviews are often how you attract and keep customers loyalty for your business. Maybe they are only one aspect of our success: the story!

In order to make your business stick you have a unique choice:

“Be you, be the truth of who and what you are and how you serve.”

Some people will like it and others won’t like it. You will get all kind of reviews. They are always right from the perspective of the person who wrote them and they might not be wright for you, they might even not be useful.

And what about writing reviews? You can spark joy in others if you share your personal experience aligned with the truth of who and what you are and how you serve.

If you are interested in more material that sparks joy, you can learn more about Guest House Facilitation and the ChancesToChange board game.

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Warm regards, Veerle

Bio Veerle De Bock: Each day I add a bit more colour to the world, I colour within and outside of the lines as I take up different roles. My different roles are social entrepreneur, physician, coach, teacher, therapist and most of all facilitator of emerging possibilities. Link to bio.