The fascinating gift of biological relationships

Posted by on Aug 30, 2015 in Aspects of life

This amazing mix of spiritual and biological relationships is astonishing and is a huge opportunity to grow and transform, to understand yourself and others.   We are on a family vacation, my husband and me and our four adults children. What an amazing adventure and such a great gift to see each other, to observe, to witness, to be curious.   Here are some amazing perspectives Our biological and spiritual relationships affect each other. Life is a stage where all of us take different roles. We can sit on the first row and observe our patterns.   Biological and spiritual relationships We choose our family relationships, we incarnate together with a bunch of souls with whom we made arrangements long before we actually live our lives in lesser or higher degrees of harmony. The truth is that harmonious relationships are not a “must” in order for us to grow and transform. In a family there are often as many spiritual relationships as there are biological ones. We know from a previous article how our ancestors matter, they also matter spiritually!   Life is a stage We all take up different roles in the scenery of life. Life is a stage, the décor is what is happening around us and to us, we can choose in each moment which role we take on and so can everybody else around us. You can create for each other new stages, where you try out different roles, where you allow different parts of your personality to be on stage. A real good agreement is not to take anything personal. And to understand that whatever touches you, hurts you, triggers you, has to do with you and what it does with the other is not really your business.   Observe your patterns It is an ideal opportunity to be at the first rows of the stage where you play out your patterns and well-known acts. You can decide if they still suit you or not. These patterns originated for a big deal in your childhood. Family constellations is an approach developed by Bert Hellinger and involves family representation through the use of others in order to reveal the hidden dynamics in a family so that they can be healed. If you literally spend time again in the same constellation, if feels as if you are in a family constellation, the difference is that everybody plays his own role.   A story of our family vacation We are returning to our cottage by bike after spending the day at the beach. It seems to take us much longer than expected. Everybody enjoyed the biking, except for my eldest daughter. She got upset and wondered if we were following the right direction. Her dad laughed and invited her to let her be surprised. I observed and learned a lot about myself, my daughter’s behaviour is very...

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Practice don’t Preach Theory U in 7 Breaths! 1st Breath.

Posted by on Jan 10, 2015 in Aspects of life

PRACTICE DON’T PREACH THEORY U IN 7 Breaths! 1st BREATH.   We create a space to listen in our Guest House and focus our attention on the Group Being. We share our habitual patterns and images gently and with much courage.   Have you ever imagined that ”downloading” could be a tool? “Downloading” is a process through which you listen by literally downloading what you already know. You are not at this stage allowing new information to be integrated or assimilated. In this article we are learning to transform the “downloading” into “processing Self”. Within the safety of our Guest House the listening is the key in order for this to happen. It is not that we are not “downloading”. We do, and we should be, downloading by repeating extensively what we already know. So we use our courage to download at length in order to give our group the opportunity to help us with this important step of “processing Self”. You are reading an article that is one of a series of nine articles. From the diagram below you will see that we’ve arrived at the 1st Breath – the second article in the series. The first article is an invitation to explore with me the dance through Theory U and the offerings of Guest House Facilitation.     Each breath is equally important in our dance through Theory U. So let’s really savour it and take in this 1st Breath. Overview of the 1st Breath This 1st breath consists of an inward movement of contraction (green on the picture), a moment of stasis (red), an outward movement of expansion (blue) and another moment of stasis (red). These are all the phases of the cosmic principle of the Life Pulse. My book Becoming What is Changing: Exposition describes the Life Pulse extensively. If you superimpose this drawing of the Life Pulse upon the Theory U framework, each stasis before a contraction is located at the outer edge of the U and each stasis at the end of a contraction is located at the inner edge of the U. As this article unfolds, we will touch into and question in depth each aspect of the Life Pulse, starting with the inward movement of contraction.   Contraction We often forget that before we embark on something new we always start with an inspiration. This inspiration moves us inward (green on the picture). As we breathe in everybody in the group arrives; it’s important to acknowledge this moment and literally allow an inward movement to support each participant to arrive. Walking is for me an easy and effortless way to arrive somewhere, to connect with the land and with myself. I will often invite my participants to walk in silence in order to connect while staying with the questions: What are the gifts I bring into this gathering, workshop or training?...

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