A Constellation Reallocates Normal Human Needs.

Posted by on Feb 2, 2016 in Aspects of life

A Constellation Reallocates Normal Human Needs.   It is normal and human to have needs. Growth is learning to own our needs and find appropriate strategies to meet them. This process releases our inner child from a huge burden.   This is the question of a courageous articulate young woman, ready to bring her unique bright essence and purpose into the world. How can I have a relationship and not loose my self? She explains: “It seems that often in a relationship a younger part of me occupies the stage of my life and requires a great deal of attention.” These are the steps in our constellation: Painting the scenery. Bringing consciousness into the entanglement What do we need to bring in? Completing the constellation   Painting the scenery The case giver decides to set up representatives for her self, her mother, her father and her young self.     When she places the representatives in the space, she sees how a triangle is formed between the father, self and young self. Mother is not included. You can see the first scenes on the cartoon.               Bringing consciousness into the entanglement When the facilitator asks the father to face his wife. He faces his daughter. This shows how a switching of roles happened. When the facilitator shares this observation with the case giver, it becomes apparent that this situation feels comfortable for her, she does not intend to exchange her place with her mother. The cartoon shows the next phases: The parents are in a conflict relationship and from that place both reach out to their daughter to get their needs met. Young self wants to escape the scenery, things shift when she is held in the triangle. We arrive back at our start point. We need something else.   What do we need to bring in? If we bring the focus on what self wants, this can change the entanglement. We bring in the consciousness of a passionate job.   This is the point in the constellation where you bring in order. Self cannot trust her passion, a job she really wants to do unless she gets out of the entanglement. Self is invited to address her parents and acknowledge that she got life from her father and her mother and that she is willing to take it to the fullest, with all that comes with it.   Completing the constellation  The case giver takes her place in the constellation, in order to have an embodied experience. She needs to acknowledge her father and her mother and the place of her mother next to her father. This often creates resistance in a case giver. Even if a pattern is not healthy, we are used to is and it is scary to choose for the unknown. She connects with her young self and...

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Back Pain Speaks to “Self” through a Family Constellation.

Posted by on Jan 17, 2016 in Aspects of life

Back Pain Speaks to “Self” through a Family Constellation. Ancestral consciousness can assist our body to represent the conflicts, which we need in order to fulfil our soul’s purpose.   This is the story of an amazing young man, with a wonderful set of skills and accomplishments, with great possibilities to succeed in life and yet contained through a huge back pain since the age of 14. What is his back trying to tell him? We sit in a devoted group who is ready to delve deep into the constellation work in order to bring clarity to personal processes and through these into the world. Getting to know the current issue Setting up the representatives The unfolding of the process The climax of the constellation   Getting to know the current issue You start the constellation with an interview, the case giver is invited to speak from the “I” perspective, to share the current situation and to describe the different stakeholders. It is good to invite the case giver to share his intention with regard to the outcome of the constellation. How does he want to be after this session? Our case giver has a back problem, which started at the age of 14. At this age his parents divorced after having been living apart for several years. The divorce inflicted important financial problems on his mother. The case giver feels he has to protect his mother and behave perfectly. Recently his back pain increased and now is also radiating towards his shoulders, blocking his ability to live his life to its fullest potential. His intention is to understand how his back is serving him.   Setting up the representatives. The facilitator proposes to set up the primary family system: the mother, the father and the self. She intuitively suggests to also represent the grandmother on the father’s side. The first view of the positioning shows that there is no contact between self and his father and grandmother The mother is in search of something that seems to be on the ground and is wondering why nobody takes note of this. A pillow is brought in to represent this so-called “secret”. The grandmother hides something. A representative is chosen to be a body, which is lying on the floor, probably someone who died.   The unfolding of the process It becomes quickly obvious that there is a secret that the mother is obliged to hold in order to protect her son. This secret does not belong to the mother it belongs to the father. This secret however cannot return to the father. The only journey the secret can take is through the son. It takes a while for the self to be able to receive the secret from his mother. It is very painful without knowing what it is he receives. Huge terror is created in self. The back...

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