How to fall in Love with Your State of Being
What is our State of Being?
Imagine our ego not being good or bad. Consider the possibility that you in fact have two egos at work in what you assume to be you. The ego is an aspect of this fascinating body-mind, which you chose for your partnership on Earth, and your spiritual self also has an ego.
This brings us to the question: Who is the ‘I’ that is making decisions, making choices, creating, healing, dreaming and resting?
This is a profound question. Let us first clarify the purpose of incarnation, and then have a closer look at the innate intelligence of the body. This brings us towards more insight around the idea of two egos.
• The purpose of all of us coming into this human realm is to achieve soul growth through experiencing life on Earth.
• Our physical body has a natural intelligence independent from our soul.
• Inside each of us, there are two egos that signed on for a partnership.
• The ‘I’ experiencing through the physical body is our soul.
What is the purpose of our incarnation?
We have different developmental levels as souls, and according to our level we are assigned a body-mind to have our experience and growth.
Assigned might not be the right word, as we have a say in all this, we have free choice. Michael Newton explores this territory profoundly through his groundbreaking research into the afterlife.
We incarnate on Earth with the purpose to allow our souls to grow through experiencing life in a physical body.
The physical body is a living organism that has developed over many thousands of years and has a natural intelligence. I highlight some specifics of our sacred physical body.
The natural intelligence of the body
Our physical body is in close connection with the essence from the field of endless possibilities. This field surrounds and permeates everything in the Universe.
In each of the 50 trillion cells we find a nucleus, which harbors the DNA, the library of the ancestral heritage, the blueprint of this living organism. All these 50 trillion cells are organized in tissues, organs and systems.
The intelligence further reveals itself through the fact that there is no hierarchy in the body. The heart of the body-mind has a particular role and facilitates the connection between the physical body and its energy field. This energy field is created through the electrical currents that are generated in the physical body and give rise to an electromagnetic field that uses the physical body as a conductor. Whatever happens in the physical body will affect the energy field. Childhood stories that are stored in the physical body have specific vibrations in the field. To achieve this, the physical body applies the laws of classical physics. Any changes in the energy field will mutually affect the physical body. This is one of the manifestation processes of diseases and symptoms. Certain thoughts, beliefs, images—all vibrations in our energy field—will be revealed as physical processes to teach us.
The ego is a specific energetic constellation within the electromagnetic field surrounding and permeating our body. The natural intelligence of the body organizes and provides itself with an assistant.
The ego is part of the development of the front aspect of the third chakra, the energy vortex in our energy field located at our solar plexus. A healthy ego is a conductor for the inner symphony of different tones, musical instruments and notes.
This is only a glimpse of the majesty of our sacred physical bodies. They are an amazing tool for our souls to experience in many unexpected and refreshing ways.
A partnership between our soul and body-mind
The ‘I’ that is experiencing is not our physical body or our personality, our human ego or our mind, whatever name you give it. The ‘I’ that experiences through the physical body is our soul, our spiritual self, our spiritual ego. We are often misinterpreting this deep truth through a human ego that tries to make sense. This is such fascinating territory! What is the human ego then? Let us recapitulate: Our physical body is Divine and part of the wholeness of all that is, and it has a self-organizing principle inherent through which it functions. One of the results of this self-organizing is the creation of an ego as a conductor to govern the body-mind.
This is so fascinating; many times we identify with the human ego and let it steal the show. Our soul can only witness and wonder why this illusion seems so real. From the bigger perspective ‘I’ can allow everything to be as it is and be completely at ease and happy, ‘I’ create an intimate relationship between the two egos. We become much bigger then the separate parts of this partnership.
So of course it depends on which body-mind you are creating a partnership with. It is true that some body-minds are seemingly more difficult than other body-minds. The teaching lies in the possibilities incorporated in the partnership.
The real question is, what are we ready to learn?
The practicality of this partnership
I refer to the words of Ya’Acov Darling Khan from Movement Medicine:
“Letting the dancer awaken through the breath,
animate this body.
There are many times
when we forgot you dear body,
when we followed someone else’s story,
someone else’s dream.
When we tried to take somebody’s shape
that wasn’t our own.
Let the dancer bring you back to the wisdom,
to the intelligence of this body.
I perceive sadness in these words, a sadness of the missed intimacy with the body-mind, and at the same time this exemplifies the invitation to animate the body-mind with our soul. Ya’Acov introduces the inner dancer as our spiritual ego that follows the intention to come home in the body-mind we agreed upon.
I add a story to make it more practical. I experience sadness in my body-mind around unmet needs in my relationship with a precious friend. I am curious what the meaning is of this sadness.
In my morning practice I dance, and I realize there is a meaning when I experience sadness, that it is not just the sadness in itself that it is a doorway to much more of myself, and I guess I am seeing a deeper part. So indeed, there is always more insight, more uncovering and experiencing of knowledge. So fascinating!
The sadness is there. I can perceive it and even locate it in my physical body in my heart and throat. And I am already wondering, is it ‘my’ physical body? Am ‘I’ my physical body? Or is the ‘I’ really my spiritual being, the soul who I am and who is having the possibility of creating an intimate partnership with this sacred, amazing body-mind and through this experience of life, so intimate as if ‘I’ am the body-mind that I partner with.
I feel the doorway. I feel how the human heart and my spiritual heart beat as one, the heart of this sacred body-mind and the heart of my soul.
Something shifts in this very moment, as if ‘I’ see the world through the eyes of this beautiful body-mind. The ‘I’ that is seeing is my soul.
I feel deeply touched, this is really very sacred and profound. I feel vulnerable and open.
Awareness is the answer to how we can affect our State of Being. Awareness offers the choice to apply your intention to accomplish your soul’s purpose on Earth. Our State of Being is defined through the bridge between our two selves, our spiritual self or soul and our human self or body-mind. The stronger this bridge, the more magnetizing and magnificent our State of Being. This will ultimately affect our world and create this more beautiful world our heart knows is possible.
Our heart that is part of our spiritual self knows and our human heart knows. The heart that is part of our body-mind is an amazing facilitator. We can discern a facilitator of all the processes of the physical body and a facilitator between the different parts of the personality. The hearts of our soul and of the body-mind are important aspects of the bridge between our two selves.
The invitation is to trust beyond the sometimes limited reality of the body-mind and the illusions which arise through experiencing life on Earth.
When we can see the world through this sacred body-mind, we also really see others in all their beauty and exuberance, and nothing is required in return. We simply see, and this is the strength of all that we are exploring and creating in the world.
And this makes us happy and fulfilled beyond measure.
This is so astonishing!
Becoming what is changing is the very act of bridging the body-mind and our soul.
How is your partnership with the body-mind?
I look forward to your comments.
July 24th, 2014
VEERLE DE BOCK is a physician, healer, facilitator, trainer, coach and author of the trilogy, Becoming What is Changing. She spent nearly three decades of her life as a physician specializing in geriatric care, including a 21-year career as department head in an Antwerp regional hospital. In 2003, she began her study as an energetic healer, teacher, process facilitator and supervisor at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, and since 2007 has been leading many other trainees to master these same skills. In 2010 she was trained in the practice of Dynamic Facilitation by Jim Rough, which she now incorporates into her workshops and training sessions. In 2012 she decided to devote her work exclusively to writing, facilitation and coaching. That same year, she devised a new integrative practice of facilitation she calls ‘Guest House Facilitation’, that helps teams learn how to listen and utilise both the inner and outer processes within their organisation, to see it as a dynamic and living organism, and to reconnect to its intrinsic purpose and intention. Her book, Becoming What is Changing: Exposition, is the first part of a trilogy aimed at managers, team leaders and responsible employees who wish to bring this kind of transformation into the workplace, so they can create an environment where people are happy, satisfied and continuously growing.
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