How can we make Conscious Choices?

Posted by on May 25, 2020 in Chances to change

There is an ongoing, never-ending weaving happening between our true self and all the aspects of our human self. This kaleidoscope creates our reality. It is often so hard for us to make a conscious choice. What does that mean to make a conscious choice? For those of you who have played the C2C game, you will already be familiar with the steps that take us through the game, and for those of you who have yet to play, we felt that including all the steps would perhaps be too much information and detract from the unfolding story.  When you have the opportunity to play with one of our facilitators, the rhythm of the game will become clearer. This is the story of a woman – let’s call her Anna – who has trouble choosing whether to move to a new house with her partner or to stay where she has been living and loves to live. She’s all too aware of these opposing sides within herself:  one side absolutely doesn’t want to move and is afraid of losing her ground if she does. She experiences the new house as too open, unable to protect her.  Anna feels she will be disconnected from her family and friends if she lives there as she sees herself as someone who doesn’t easily create new relationships. On the other side is a part of her that looks forward to having a new adventure and exploring a new environment – this part loves to have new experiences and is excited about life. To help her understand these opposite sides of herself, Anna agreed to play the ChancesToChange board game. Two aspects, two blue cards Anna’s first insight into her reserved side was through the painting on the card of ‘being’. It spoke to her of being ungrounded and yet feeling completely safe and at home. Something very precious was being held in her hands. On reading the card, Anna was struck by the realisation that what she, Anna, is protecting is her true self – “it’s precious and I care for it” she said. As she sat with this awareness and the question offered by the card, she also realised :  “I want to be seen and I don’t want to be seen – I have both sides.” In her next card – the card of ‘relationships’ – representing her adventurous aspect, Anna had the impression of an outwards expanding form and an inwards contracting form, holding a tender place in the middle. Reading the card, what touched her most was the importance in relationships to first care for her own self and from that place move out into relationship. We imagine that many of you can relate to Anna’s dilemma.  Let’s take a moment to sit with what is unfolding here. The magic of listening to our human self Our human self...

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The fascinating gift of biological relationships

Posted by on Aug 30, 2015 in Aspects of life

This amazing mix of spiritual and biological relationships is astonishing and is a huge opportunity to grow and transform, to understand yourself and others.   We are on a family vacation, my husband and me and our four adults children. What an amazing adventure and such a great gift to see each other, to observe, to witness, to be curious.   Here are some amazing perspectives Our biological and spiritual relationships affect each other. Life is a stage where all of us take different roles. We can sit on the first row and observe our patterns.   Biological and spiritual relationships We choose our family relationships, we incarnate together with a bunch of souls with whom we made arrangements long before we actually live our lives in lesser or higher degrees of harmony. The truth is that harmonious relationships are not a “must” in order for us to grow and transform. In a family there are often as many spiritual relationships as there are biological ones. We know from a previous article how our ancestors matter, they also matter spiritually!   Life is a stage We all take up different roles in the scenery of life. Life is a stage, the décor is what is happening around us and to us, we can choose in each moment which role we take on and so can everybody else around us. You can create for each other new stages, where you try out different roles, where you allow different parts of your personality to be on stage. A real good agreement is not to take anything personal. And to understand that whatever touches you, hurts you, triggers you, has to do with you and what it does with the other is not really your business.   Observe your patterns It is an ideal opportunity to be at the first rows of the stage where you play out your patterns and well-known acts. You can decide if they still suit you or not. These patterns originated for a big deal in your childhood. Family constellations is an approach developed by Bert Hellinger and involves family representation through the use of others in order to reveal the hidden dynamics in a family so that they can be healed. If you literally spend time again in the same constellation, if feels as if you are in a family constellation, the difference is that everybody plays his own role.   A story of our family vacation We are returning to our cottage by bike after spending the day at the beach. It seems to take us much longer than expected. Everybody enjoyed the biking, except for my eldest daughter. She got upset and wondered if we were following the right direction. Her dad laughed and invited her to let her be surprised. I observed and learned a lot about myself, my daughter’s behaviour is very...

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