PRACTICE DON’T PREACH THEORY U IN 7 Breaths! 2^nd BREATH.

Opening our State of Being “reason” deepens the dance between our soul and body-mind, coalescing into “seeing” and “observing” in a wave of curious asking.

How to practice Theory U? Just imagine how disappointed you are when a meeting ends as it begins with “downloading”. How can you have more conversations that matter in your organization and in your daily life?

You’re in the right place to find out! Here, in this series of articles, we dive deeply into new practices to move through the “downloading” stage and, if we need to, we can always revisit this “downloading” tool.

This article fits into a series which explains how you can effortlessly move through Theory U while at the same time allowing the steps of the U to expand and even transform you. We dance Theory U within a literal and metaphorical Guest House. The breaths refer to whole and complete cycles of the Life Pulse.

The first article in the series offers you a framework and introduces you to Guest House Facilitation and the magical, cosmic principle of the Life Pulse. The second article familiarises us with “downloading” as a tool to process the Self. It is the 1^st Breath of the series of Seven Breaths of moving through Theory U.

The diagram below shows where we’re at now in our dance.

Our 2nd Breath is the ‘seeing’ stage of Theory U and as you notice in our diagram it’s also called ‘observing’. I invite you to explore with me what its deeper meaning is!

Overview of the Second Breath

The Second Breath is again a complete phase of the Life Pulse as the drawing illustrates, an inward movement of contraction (green on the drawing), followed by a moment of stasis (red on the drawing and at the inner edge of the U), an outward movement of expansion (blue on the drawing) and again effortlessly moving into stasis (back to red and now at the inner edge of the U).

Contraction

We move inward to assimilate what has happened to, and around, us in this magnificent phase of ‘processing the Self’.

How does what is shared so far land in us, how do we feel within the Guest House, how does the teaching reverberate through us?

This inward movement is how we prepare to open our State of Being: reason. What is meant by opening our reason?

The diagram below shows how reason is located at the upper part of our body-mind. For those familiar with the chakra system it is the opening of our seventh and sixth chakras. The seventh chakra stands for our ideas, our mission. The sixth chakra has a front and back aspect: the front aspect being the concepts we can see and the back aspect how we are able to create a vision, that is, a step by step approach to the concepts we see. For more explanation on the chakra system, you might enjoy Anodea Judith’s magnificent book on Chakra Psychology. Opening our reason (or mind in the language of Theory U) is literally creating space in our energy field around our head – 360 degrees.

This inward movement or contraction (green on the overview of the 2nd Breath in the beginning of this article) can be taken as a silent walk in the environment of the literal Guest House or it can be time spent individually in silence or it can be a dancing practice.

I love a dancing practice where you invite the inner dancer to graciously dance with the different elements in the four directions. The inner dancer represents for me our soul, the spiritual being which we are and we dance with our body-mind. We connect with the earth of our body and with the earth around us, the fire inside and around us, the water in our precious bodies and the water all around us, the air and spaciousness inside of us and the breath of life all around us. This is a great practice to prepare us for the opening of our reason.

Stasis

This contraction, this inspiration completes with another moment of stasis (red on the overview), connecting deep inside of ourselves – at the inside of the U where we gather momentum from the field of endless possibilities to move outward into another wave of expansion.

Each breath is complete in itself and could not be anything else. It is a natural principle which exists in all of life around us and within us – a moment of contraction, stasis, expansion and another moment of stasis.

Expansion

We are now ready for an outward movement or expansion (blue on the overview). The participants are given some basic guidelines about Guest House Facilitation. I assure them, they are all guests and that any contribution is welcome and valid.

With our reason centres open, we are ready to have conversations which matter and which go deeper. A great way to establish this is through Dynamic facilitation, a powerful technique invented by Jim Rough. You can read more about the practical applications and principles of Dynamic Facilitation (DF) in my book Becoming What is Changing: Exposition).

To explain some of the principles of DF: any contribution from a participant is reflected and written on a flipchart. Four flipcharts are used, three of them with the headings Data, Concerns and Solutions. The fourth flipchart harvests the How-questions.

As a host, pay attention to the flipchart with the How-questions: these indicate a shift in the conversation. A shift can arise out of a contribution to any of the other headings on the flipcharts.

What is written is the responsibility of the participant – you own your contributions and how they are written. If it doesn’t feel completely aligned, ask your host to change what is written.

One of the important principles in DF is that all the participants address the host and take turns in sharing. I invite them all to speak to me and not to each other in order to create safety for the unfolding process within the group. You can speak when the other has completely finished. I explain that Dynamic Facilitation is not a dialogue, it is a “we-flection”, creating space for the “unknown” to unfold.

We move through this wave of expansion, reaching out and sharing through the model of Dynamic Facilitation.

DF allows the participants to move further down the U and truly begin to open their reason. During this expansion they start to explore the next step of Theory U –‘seeing’.

This process allows for an effortless letting go of preconceived ideas and concepts by opening reason (= mind in the table below). What is revealed is a desire to see reality in a new way. The field already affects the unfolding process. You can understand the depth of this phase of ‘seeing’ in the Theory U model (step 2 in our table).

CHALLENGE	REACTING	SOLUTION
Step 1: “DOWNLOADING”: viewing the world through our habits of thought, allowing our current reality to surface.	Re-structuring	Step 7: “PERFORMING”: achieve results through actions, embedding the new into the larger context
SUSPENDING	OPEN MIND: Re-designing	EMBODYING
Step 2: “SEEING”: seeing reality with fresh eyes, suspend judgements, the system being observed is separate from those who observe		Step 6: “PROTOTYPING”: explore the future by doing, prototyping, enacting the new by being in dialogue with the Universe
REDIRECTING	OPEN HEART: Re-framing	ENACTING
Step 3: “SENSING”: the attention shifts to the inner way of seeing, from object to process. The boundary between observer and observed collapses.		Step 5: “CRYSTALLIZING”: the attention shifts from the inner vision to exterior action. Crystallising vision and intention, envisioning the new from the future that wants to emerge
LETTING-GO	OPEN WILL: Re-generating	LETTING-COME
	Step 4: “PRESENCING”: Connection to the deepest source

Through the precious New Space Technology of Dynamic Facilitation you hold conversations that matter. You reach deep personal territory and clarify the right how-questions, the longings and the intention.

The How-questions are very important keystones in this phase. In the methodology of DF the shifts literally happen through the fact that a new how-question emerges, a question which always starts with how can I or how can we. They brings us in touch with the deeper sense of “seeing” the reality as it is and we cultivate this by paying attention to the questions.

Otto Scharmer points to the capacity to suspend the voice of judgement, self-judgement and judgement of others as a key feature in this step.

However, I wonder if it’s really about suspending our judgements. I’d like to invite us to take a closer look at our judgements in order to understand them. What is held underneath our judgements? What is our need hidden in this judgement? Unravelling our judgements without judging our judgements is a key feature needed to move from projection into true observation. This is a huge step, even if it might seem a small step in the framework of the U. It is huge to take back our projections and to become aware of where we still function as hooks for the projections of others.

The graphic representation of this second step is an orange circle with blue dots moving to the edge of the circle. In the perspective of Guest House Facilitation the orange circle is the body-mind and the blue dots indicate the metaphorical movement of our soul.

We start our soul’s perspective from deeply hidden inside of the body-mind and our soul looks at the beliefs and constructs of our body-mind. Through the movement to the edge of the body-mind, the soul inhabits the body-mind more intensely. This is achieved through the act of opening reason in the energy field of the body-mind.

The dance of our soul and our body-mind continues and becomes more intimate.

Stasis

Another moment of silence (= stasis, red on the overview) in connectedness arises and we arrive at the outer edge of the U. We are connected and yet we still objectify in order to understand, in order to learn, to process.

Objectification is a hard concept for us to digest and often it feels shameful. We might judge ourselves and feel guilty. Maybe, however, we could consider objectification as a tool which enables us to gain more insight into our organizations, systems and most of all ourselves. It is not good or bad, it is what it is – we do not see the other or the organization as part of us, we see it as an object outside of us. Even if we acknowledge our judgements and are ready to understand the deeper meaning of them and see the underlying need, we still objectify while in this phase.

A real 2^nd breath experience

The next picture shows an actual 2^nd Breath, which unfolded in a Guest House Facilitation training in Berlin in November, 2014.

Our contraction phase was rather short in time. However, it’s important to name it as a distinct phase and allow integration and assimilation to happen. This is a non-linear process – overall the amount of stasis, contraction, stasis and expansion needs to be balanced.

In this 2^nd Breath, the preparation of our food and eating together is all part of the inward movement and of the stasis. We are a literal and metaphorical Guest House and what happens in our Guest House – whether literal or metaphorical – is also a part of our experience within the flow of the Life Pulse. We prepare our food together as an expression of caring for each other and our environment.

We completed the first day of the training with a check-out as suggested in the principles of Circle Practice.

CONCLUSION

Our 2^nd Breath is the opening of our State of Being: reason (or mind). It is the clarification and bringing to light of our judgments. We introduce here one of the New Space Technologies, Dynamic Facilitation, as a magic tool to gently move through this step. And you may have another similarly powerful tool in your toolbox with which to support your group through this first step in Theory U.

We are learning and refining our capacity to ‘observe’ through curious asking. What makes you curious? What do you want to understand more or better?

We begin to recognize what we see and we don’t yet have words to express what we perceive and what we are beginning to understand. Our knowing is still separate from our words.

In order to learn to put words on what we perceive we move on to the 3^rd Breath. In this 3^rd Breath we begin to open our emotion (or heart) and we dare to stop objectifying.

If you are curious and want to read more, check in with us next week!

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With love and appreciation

Veerle

ACKNOWLEDGMENT:

This series of nine articles could only arise with the amazing assistance of all those magnificent people who attended a Guest House Facilitation workshop or training. They provided me with wonderful experiences that contribute to our dance through the U. One of the participants, Elaine McGoogan co-created in a delightful way through her excellent and fluid editing work!

VEERLE DE BOCK is a social entrepreneur, a change-maker, physician, healer, facilitator, trainer, coach and author of the trilogy, Becoming What is Changing. She spent nearly three decades of her life as a physician specializing in geriatric care, including a 21-year career as department head in an Antwerp regional hospital. In 2003, she began her study as an energetic healer, teacher, process facilitator and supervisor at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, and since 2007 has been leading many other trainees to master these same skills. In 2010 she was trained in the practice of Dynamic Facilitation by Jim Rough, which she now incorporates into her workshops and training sessions. In 2012 she decided to devote her work exclusively to writing, facilitation and coaching. That same year, she devised a new integrative practice of facilitation she calls ‘Guest House Facilitation’, that helps teams learn how to listen and utilise both the inner and outer processes within their organisation, to see it as a dynamic and living organism, and to reconnect to its intrinsic purpose and intention. Her book, Becoming What is Changing: Exposition, is the first part of a trilogy aimed at managers, team leaders and responsible employees who wish to bring this kind of transformation into the workplace, so they can create an environment where people are happy, satisfied and continuously growing.

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Practice don’t Preach Theory U in 7 Breaths! 1st Breath.

January 10, 2015April 15, 2015 Veerle de Bock

PRACTICE DON’T PREACH THEORY U IN 7 Breaths! 1^st BREATH.

We create a space to listen in our Guest House and focus our attention on the Group Being. We share our habitual patterns and images gently and with much courage.

Have you ever imagined that ”downloading” could be a tool?

“Downloading” is a process through which you listen by literally downloading what you already know. You are not at this stage allowing new information to be integrated or assimilated.
In this article we are learning to transform the “downloading” into “processing Self”. Within the safety of our Guest House the listening is the key in order for this to happen. It is not that we are not “downloading”. We do, and we should be, downloading by repeating extensively what we already know. So we use our courage to download at length in order to give our group the opportunity to help us with this important step of “processing Self”.
You are reading an article that is one of a series of nine articles. From the diagram below you will see that we’ve arrived at the 1^st Breath – the second article in the series. The first article is an invitation to explore with me the dance through Theory U and the offerings of Guest House Facilitation.

Each breath is equally important in our dance through Theory U. So let’s really savour it and take in this 1^st Breath.

Overview of the 1^st Breath

This 1^st breath consists of an inward movement of contraction (green on the picture), a moment of stasis (red), an outward movement of expansion (blue) and another moment of stasis (red). These are all the phases of the cosmic principle of the Life Pulse. My book Becoming What is Changing: Exposition describes the Life Pulse extensively.

If you superimpose this drawing of the Life Pulse upon the Theory U framework, each stasis before a contraction is located at the outer edge of the U and each stasis at the end of a contraction is located at the inner edge of the U.

As this article unfolds, we will touch into and question in depth each aspect of the Life Pulse, starting with the inward movement of contraction.

Contraction

We often forget that before we embark on something new we always start with an inspiration. This inspiration moves us inward (green on the picture).

As we breathe in everybody in the group arrives; it’s important to acknowledge this moment and literally allow an inward movement to support each participant to arrive.

Walking is for me an easy and effortless way to arrive somewhere, to connect with the land and with myself.

I will often invite my participants to walk in silence in order to connect while staying with the questions: What are the gifts I bring into this gathering, workshop or training? What is my intention to be here in this moment?

Important questions which can help you as a host are: What do you need to feel at home? How do you want to be welcomed? These are intimate questions which will help you craft the first inward movement of the participants you will be working with.

Otto Scharmer refers to this first movement as co-initiating. I love this term -in this moving inward you are building a common intent, the intent to stop and listen to others and listen to what life calls you to do.

Listening is the foundational capacity of Theory U and of Guest House Facilitation. It requires listening to oneself and to others as well as listening to what emerges through the group being. The group being is the energetic constellation that is automatically created when two or more people gather.

True listening requires a safe space in which each participant can contribute to the whole. This safe space is literally and metaphorically the Guest House which we are facilitating as host. Using this place of contraction we prepare and breath life into this Guest House.

Stasis

After this first contraction, we arrive at our first moment of stasis (red on the picture) where we gather momentum from deep inside the physical body for our first expansion. We moved from the outer edge of the U in our inward movement to the inner edge of the U. At this inner edge, the moment of stasis is stillness deep inside ourselves.

We honour this stasis by creating a circle around a central point. When I prepare the training space, I like to create a simple centrepiece with a few objects that have some meaning for me.

We go inside and connect with our deepest longing, with the reason why we are here, with our common commitment to be part of what unfolds “now”. Although quite different, the participants often share a profound commitment in their reason for showing up. This common ground creates the beginning of our Guest House Facilitation. Our sacred space is now open. With this ritual, we begin to create coherency in the collective energy field, the group being of our Guest House Facilitation (GHF).

The participants are literally residing deep within themselves.

In GHF we use the same picture as in Theory U consisting of a circle with a dot in the centre. Our definition is slightly different, the circle representing our body-mind and the dot representing our soul. We are spiritual beings (= souls) incarnating in a human body (= a body-mind) in order to fulfil our purpose and experience life. You can read more in the article: How to fall in Love with Our State of Being.

At this moment our soul is residing deep within ourselves and we look at the world around us through our habitual patterns and beliefs, our images and constructs. We literally only see our own body-mind, our physical body and our personality (=mind) with all its flaws and patterns, achievements and struggles.

This is a picture of our house: our soul dancing with our body-mind and the place where the three states of being – reason, emotion and will – reside.

These different states of being are covered more extensively in the 2^nd, 3^rd and 4^th Breaths, that is the third, fourth and fifth articles of this series on Theory U where you will be invited to open your reason (=mind), your emotion (=heart) and your will. The three keys in Theory U: opening mind, heart and will, are from now on be referred to as reason, emotion and will.

Often this is the perfect moment to connect with the group being and explain that our gathering is a living process, a being, a field. The group of participants still circles around the centrepiece.

As the Host of GHF, you invite your participants to ground their physical presence into the Earth and connect in the middle with the group being. At this moment this can still be a bit unfamiliar for the participants.

This picture below shows how the group being is a collective of many different human beings looking at the world around them from their own perspective. The group being also looks at its cultural and social beliefs: how a group being should think, feel and act in the world.

We have now established a connection even though, so far, not much has been exchanged between the participants. This will further unfold in the expansion, which effortlessly follows this moment of stasis. Even if we are not aware of, or possibly resisting, the different phases of the Life Pulse, they are still happening in their own unique timing.

Expansion

After this moment of silence, we move together to check-in using the Circle Practice format. I would like to honour Ann Linea and Christina Baldwin for their continued efforts in bringing this ancient form of gathering back into modern life (You can connect with Christina Baldwin and Ann Linea on www.peerspirit.com).

The check-in allows participants to transition into the space of GHF. The momentum is slowed down and each person brings him or herself into the group. In a clockwise round, I invite the participants to present themselves, share how they feel and share the unique gift that they bring to this GHF.

The overall sense of this 1^st Breath in the Theory U model is called “downloading” (Step 1 in the table): our view of the world through our habitual thought patterns and images.

CHALLENGE	REACTING	SOLUTION
Step 1: “DOWNLOADING”: viewing the world through our habits of thought, allowing our current reality to surface.	Re-structuring	Step 7: “PERFORMING”: achieve results through actions, embedding the new into the larger context
SUSPENDING	OPEN MIND: Re-designing	EMBODYING
Step 2: “SEEING”: seeing reality with fresh eyes, suspend judgements, the system being observed is separate from those who observe		Step 6: “PROTOTYPING”: explore the future by doing, prototyping, enacting the new by being in dialogue with the Universe
REDIRECTING	OPEN HEART: Re-framing	ENACTING
Step 3: “SENSING”: the attention shifts to the inner way of seeing, from object to process. The boundary between observer and observed collapses.		Step 5: “CRYSTALLIZING”: the attention shifts from the inner vision to exterior action. Crystallising vision and intention, envisioning the new from the future that wants to emerge
LETTING-GO	OPEN WILL: Re-generating	LETTING-COME
	Step 4: “PRESENCING”: Connection to the deepest source

As the host you will become aware of patterns from the past surfacing. Don’t throw them away or ignore them – they are precious. They’ve served the participants in many ways. Honour them and teach the participants to treat themselves with loving kindness and acceptance. Our aim is to integrate the underlying energy into the bigger Self, rather than cutting it out, so that we are literally “processing the Self” in order to allow more of ourselves to become freely available. The more we integrate, the more of us becomes available in the dance between our soul and our body-mind.

In this phase, we gently and with a great deal of love and assistance from our group being begin to see the mental constructs that we project upon the world. It dawns upon us that we do not really recognize what we see in the outside world, “we” come into the way of our own seeing. “We” as our current constellation with all our beliefs and images.

This stage is important and in many organizations this is the brainstorming stage. You can’t skip this stage if you want to reach authentic and deeper levels of listening and being.

“Downloading” is a way of honouring what you already know from your past experiences. It’s also valuable to help you integrate and assimilate all these experiences into your way of being, into your way of living your life, a step towards honouring and celebrating who you are. Accepting at the same time, of course, that this might change over the coming days, weeks, months.

Stasis

After the check-in we pause, have a stasis (red on the diagram at the beginning of this article). We’ve listened to all the participants, we are connected and at the outer edge of our U. This moment of stillness creates the spaciousness needed to prepare ourselves to receive the gifts of this expansion and bring them back inwards to our Self.

A real first breath experience

This picture shows a real first breath as it unfolded in the moment in a Guest House Facilitation training, which took place in Berlin, in November 2014.

In a workshop or training I like to fill in the different components of the Life Pulse as they unfold in the moment.

I invited the participants into a practice in which their inner dancer greeted the four directions. Each direction refers to an element that is present around you and inside of you. The different elements are earth in the south, fire in the east, water in the west and air in the north. This practice brought us deep inside of our physical body.

In the stasis I guided the group through a ritual in order to become aware of the group being. The expansion unfolded through a circle practice around the question: What is my intention for this training?

We completed this 1^st breath with a teaching on the different components of the Life Pulse.

Conclusion

This First Breath is an opening, a beginning.

Through Circle Practice we introduce the use of a talking piece. This simple practice is very important to create safety and security. When you have the talking piece you have the possibility of sinking deep within yourself and nobody will invade or interrupt you. You will appreciate how valuable a tool the talking piece is as we progress through the steps of our Guest House Facilitation. The talking piece assists us in Holding a Listening Space, a key feature and capacity of this breath.

We celebrate who we have become so far and we honour what our ancestors have done; we honour those on whose shoulders we stand. We realize that what has been created isn’t all perfect, and yet this is a necessary step towards integration.

We listen to each other’s stories, to our patterns and beliefs, to the images we have of what happens to us and around us. We tap into this energy consciousness and awareness of ourselves, this unique and precious dance of our soul with our body-mind. We don’t as yet recognize what we see. In order to recognize what we see we need to open our reason, the area around our head. This is what we make ourselves ready to do with the 2^nd Breath.

Your comments and stories are very welcome. If you like this series of articles please share them with your friends and colleagues.

With love and appreciation

Veerle

ACKNOWLEDGMENT:

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Easy Ways You Can Turn Play and Work into a Sacred Marriage!

August 25, 2014August 25, 2014 Veerle de Bock

Easy Ways You Can Turn Play and Work into a Sacred Marriage!

Even if you cannot change your outer circumstances, YOU are always available and are an astonishing tool to make your work feel like play!

The recent World Cup Football in Brazil intrigues me and prompts me to wonder if we as human beings might be ready to consider the possibility to see work and play as equal. Millions of people worldwide watched the football games, spoke about it, and engaged in it. We all were looking at how a group of selected people played together as a team and gained a great deal of money and attention by doing so.

Does your work feel like play?

Imagine what the consequences could be if we equalize work and play.

Watching a Football game

We will use the metaphor of football as a story to clarify the relationship between play and work.

Imagine you are in front of a big screen and you are watching a football play between Argentina and the Netherlands. You feel the joy of the players; they greet each other with respect and dignity. The game starts, you are at the edge of your seat, so exciting, and you seem to have to look at different sides at the same time, so much is happening. You feel the energy of the players. It is full of joy and excitement. The energy is contagious. This is so beautiful—the two teams respect each other and give each other space to play. You like it, what a pleasure to watch. The first half of the game is gone before you have even checked the time. The goalkeepers have done amazing work, no ball entered their goals. You feel fulfilled and happy.

A football match is worth seeing when there is space for playing, when the football players have fun and engage with the ball. Sometimes they visibly work hard in order not to let the ball enter their goal or to make a goal, and mostly that generates less excitement and inspiration in the spectators.

We know they play with a set of rules in their minds and it seems as if the difference is made when players are able to transcend the box of rules and catch the attention of the public. They do something more than what you expect; they create the circumstances for play, for enjoyment, for creativity.

What is needed for a football team to establish this?

Underneath all of this, from my perspective, are again the Harmonizer Souls who hold the space for this to be possible. Michael Newton, the regression hypnotherapist, reminds us of this amazing specific group of souls that are able to transform negative energy. His information arises from his far-reaching research into the afterlife.

A coach can be an amazing Harmonizer Soul, not doing anything the moment of the play itself, though holding space, transmuting negativity, and trusting the strength and courage of the players. And there are many more Harmonizer Souls at work, mostly invisible, who make the play worth looking at and prepare the right conditions. The more playfulness those Harmonizer Souls have, the easier their tasks.

The outer circumstances are important to create space for work to become play, and I am curious what the inner circumstances are.

Dismantling Shame and Self-Judgment

Where are you on the work-play continuum?

I truly believe work and play are equal, and for a while I really thought I was walking my talk. Then recently I discovered how much shame is attached to this experience of work as play, of life as easy and pleasurable, of accomplishments as effortless. Does that resonate with you?

This short story exemplifies my undercover shame and self-judgment.

We are on vacation. I am crafting on a blog article and feeling really happy and excited. I feel how a great deal of inspiration flows through me. It is effortless and joyful. At a certain moment my friend asks me if I want an ice-cream. I get completely confused, I look at her, I don’t answer her question and continue my work. In the moment I perceive how I feel more constricted, there is less energy flow.

A few hours after this incident, my friend gently inquires what happened with me and why I did not answer her when she asked if I wanted an ice cream.

I have no idea, and it takes me hours to realize that what I perceived was shame. Excruciating shame about who I am surfaces. This shame is related to my work, that what I am doing is not okay when it is easy and pleasurable. My work is not worth speaking about when I am not tired and when I experience my work as play.

Brené Brown is one of the TED talks’ darlings, and she provides us with a great deal of research around shame. Work is definitely an area where we are susceptible to shame. Shame appears when we do not fit in, when we do not obey the collective beliefs.

I tap into underlying beliefs, beliefs that are rooted deep into my system. Work is not play, and if your work is play, it will not be serious enough to even mention. Yet I am really questioning this belief. Is that really true?

As I sit with this question, I begin to realize that this belief covers unmet needs. We all have unmet needs, this is inherent to the body-mind we choose to partner with. My needs seem to be about appreciation and recognition. Will I invalidate the approval I so strongly need by playing my work and creating my play?

Let’s go back to the football play. We have the most fun when the players really enjoy and play on the field. We approve of them more when they play than when it feels like hard work for them. So maybe we will get more approval when it seems that we don’t need it anymore, when we play and enjoy ourselves.

We can continue.

Have you ever judged an artist who is completely embodying a certain scene and playing with great pleasure?

Have you ever judged a builder who sings an aria and joyfully puts one stone on another?

Have you ever judged a teacher who skillfully uses stories in order to transmit geography and clearly has a lot of pleasure in what she is doing?

Those people are inspiring, we almost automatically feel joyful when we meet them.

We need pleasure and joy, we need to see and be seen in our happiness.

And the way in which our soul wants this partnership to happen is really through play. Through play the soul can look through the eyes of the body-mind. Through play there is a dance happening between your soul and this sacred body-mind, and you learn how your hearts can beat as one. Through play there is space created in this body-mind, spaciousness feels like pleasure. Play stimulates the production of joy molecules like endorphins that chemically create bliss in our bodies.

Dismantling our shame and self-judgment are a foundation on which we can apply simple steps to affect our outer circumstances.

Five easy tips: S.M.I.L.E.

One word and five easy tips to offer you more play in your daily work. Let us start at the beginning. You are the only one who is with you all the time when you are working. You are in any moment able to make simple new choices to include more play in your work.

S = Smile

M= Move your sacred body

I= Inspire and Expire, breath

L= Listen to your needs

E= Eye contact, eyes are the doorway to the soul

Smile is the key word and our first tip. You can try it in this very moment. Experience how it feels when you smile, your belly opens up instantaneously. Let go of the smile and feel the difference. Your energy field feels more contained, there is less spaciousness.

Move on a regular basis, each time you remember. These movements can be very subtle, and still your physical body will love it and cherish you with pleasure.

Inspire and expire—we so often forget to deeply breathe in and out. The air is free and available in abundance for each of us. Consciously breathing nourishes your physical body and charges your energy field. There is more playfulness. There is another meaning of inspire, which will effortlessly accompany your breathing. You inspire, you become inspirational.

Listen to your needs. Everybody has needs, and whatever we do is to meet those needs. When you learn to listen to your needs, you create the ability to find new strategies to fulfill them and add play to your current work situation.

Eye contact, as eyes are the doorway to the soul. Do you remember the last time you looked someone in the eyes and how that filled you with pleasure? We often are scared to look someone in the eyes, and maybe we can give it a try and see if that brings more play in our work.

CONCLUSION

The sacred marriage between play and work is an invitation for you to access more of your potential through this amazing partnership between your soul and this body-mind, which is at your disposal to experience life in this human reality. The ‘I’—that is really ‘you’—dances and radiates.

The foundation you need to explore this play-work continuum is time to carefully examine your beliefs around the meeting of play and work. Discover the shame that often accompanies these beliefs. Dare to become shame resilient and question these beliefs.

Your outer circumstances might not yet be ideal to experience joy at work, yet there is always the presence of YOU and a great deal you can do through this amazing simple tool S.M.I.L.E.

After all, play is contagious and inspiring.

How do you add more play into your work?

Simply S.M.I.L.E. !

The next article will be about how to build Cathedrals and change the perspective of our work. You can subscribe to the website and become part of our laboratory for new structures and navigation into the unknown.

Love,

Veerle

August 25th, 2014

VEERLE DE BOCK is a physician, healer, facilitator, trainer, coach and author of the trilogy, Becoming What is Changing. She spent nearly three decades of her life as a physician specializing in geriatric care, including a 21-year career as department head in an Antwerp regional hospital. In 2003, she began her study as an energetic healer, teacher, process facilitator and supervisor at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, and since 2007 has been leading many other trainees to master these same skills. In 2010 she was trained in the practice of Dynamic Facilitation by Jim Rough, which she now incorporates into her workshops and training sessions. In 2012 she decided to devote her work exclusively to writing, facilitation and coaching. That same year, she devised a new integrative practice of facilitation she calls ‘Guest House Facilitation’, that helps teams learn how to listen and utilise both the inner and outer processes within their organisation, to see it as a dynamic and living organism, and to reconnect to its intrinsic purpose and intention. Her book, Becoming What is Changing: Exposition, is the first part of a trilogy aimed at managers, team leaders and responsible employees who wish to bring this kind of transformation into the workplace, so they can create an environment where people are happy, satisfied and continuously growing.

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How to fall in Love with Our State of Being

July 24, 2014 Veerle de Bock

How to fall in Love with Your State of Being

Creating an intimate partnership between your soul ego and the human ego, allows your hearts to beat as one. Your soul sees through the eyes of the human self.

What is our State of Being?
Imagine our ego not being good or bad. Consider the possibility that you in fact have two egos at work in what you assume to be you. The ego is an aspect of this fascinating body-mind, which you chose for your partnership on Earth, and your spiritual self also has an ego.

This brings us to the question: Who is the ‘I’ that is making decisions, making choices, creating, healing, dreaming and resting?
This is a profound question. Let us first clarify the purpose of incarnation, and then have a closer look at the innate intelligence of the body. This brings us towards more insight around the idea of two egos.

• The purpose of all of us coming into this human realm is to achieve soul growth through experiencing life on Earth.
• Our physical body has a natural intelligence independent from our soul.
• Inside each of us, there are two egos that signed on for a partnership.
• The ‘I’ experiencing through the physical body is our soul.

What is the purpose of our incarnation?
We have different developmental levels as souls, and according to our level we are assigned a body-mind to have our experience and growth.
Assigned might not be the right word, as we have a say in all this, we have free choice. Michael Newton explores this territory profoundly through his groundbreaking research into the afterlife.
We incarnate on Earth with the purpose to allow our souls to grow through experiencing life in a physical body.
The physical body is a living organism that has developed over many thousands of years and has a natural intelligence. I highlight some specifics of our sacred physical body.

The natural intelligence of the body
Our physical body is in close connection with the essence from the field of endless possibilities. This field surrounds and permeates everything in the Universe.

In each of the 50 trillion cells we find a nucleus, which harbors the DNA, the library of the ancestral heritage, the blueprint of this living organism. All these 50 trillion cells are organized in tissues, organs and systems.

The intelligence further reveals itself through the fact that there is no hierarchy in the body. The heart of the body-mind has a particular role and facilitates the connection between the physical body and its energy field. This energy field is created through the electrical currents that are generated in the physical body and give rise to an electromagnetic field that uses the physical body as a conductor. Whatever happens in the physical body will affect the energy field. Childhood stories that are stored in the physical body have specific vibrations in the field. To achieve this, the physical body applies the laws of classical physics. Any changes in the energy field will mutually affect the physical body. This is one of the manifestation processes of diseases and symptoms. Certain thoughts, beliefs, images—all vibrations in our energy field—will be revealed as physical processes to teach us.

The ego is a specific energetic constellation within the electromagnetic field surrounding and permeating our body. The natural intelligence of the body organizes and provides itself with an assistant.
The ego is part of the development of the front aspect of the third chakra, the energy vortex in our energy field located at our solar plexus. A healthy ego is a conductor for the inner symphony of different tones, musical instruments and notes.

This is only a glimpse of the majesty of our sacred physical bodies. They are an amazing tool for our souls to experience in many unexpected and refreshing ways.

A partnership between our soul and body-mind
The ‘I’ that is experiencing is not our physical body or our personality, our human ego or our mind, whatever name you give it. The ‘I’ that experiences through the physical body is our soul, our spiritual self, our spiritual ego. We are often misinterpreting this deep truth through a human ego that tries to make sense. This is such fascinating territory! What is the human ego then? Let us recapitulate: Our physical body is Divine and part of the wholeness of all that is, and it has a self-organizing principle inherent through which it functions. One of the results of this self-organizing is the creation of an ego as a conductor to govern the body-mind.

This is so fascinating; many times we identify with the human ego and let it steal the show. Our soul can only witness and wonder why this illusion seems so real. From the bigger perspective ‘I’ can allow everything to be as it is and be completely at ease and happy, ‘I’ create an intimate relationship between the two egos. We become much bigger then the separate parts of this partnership.
So of course it depends on which body-mind you are creating a partnership with. It is true that some body-minds are seemingly more difficult than other body-minds. The teaching lies in the possibilities incorporated in the partnership.
The real question is, what are we ready to learn?

The practicality of this partnership
I refer to the words of Ya’Acov Darling Khan from Movement Medicine:
“Letting the dancer awaken through the breath,
animate this body.
There are many times
when we forgot you dear body,
when we followed someone else’s story,
someone else’s dream.
When we tried to take somebody’s shape
that wasn’t our own.
Let the dancer bring you back to the wisdom,
to the intelligence of this body.
Dance yourself,
breath yourself,
back home,
back home.”

I perceive sadness in these words, a sadness of the missed intimacy with the body-mind, and at the same time this exemplifies the invitation to animate the body-mind with our soul. Ya’Acov introduces the inner dancer as our spiritual ego that follows the intention to come home in the body-mind we agreed upon.

I add a story to make it more practical. I experience sadness in my body-mind around unmet needs in my relationship with a precious friend. I am curious what the meaning is of this sadness.
In my morning practice I dance, and I realize there is a meaning when I experience sadness, that it is not just the sadness in itself that it is a doorway to much more of myself, and I guess I am seeing a deeper part. So indeed, there is always more insight, more uncovering and experiencing of knowledge. So fascinating!

The sadness is there. I can perceive it and even locate it in my physical body in my heart and throat. And I am already wondering, is it ‘my’ physical body? Am ‘I’ my physical body? Or is the ‘I’ really my spiritual being, the soul who I am and who is having the possibility of creating an intimate partnership with this sacred, amazing body-mind and through this experience of life, so intimate as if ‘I’ am the body-mind that I partner with.
I feel the doorway. I feel how the human heart and my spiritual heart beat as one, the heart of this sacred body-mind and the heart of my soul.

Something shifts in this very moment, as if ‘I’ see the world through the eyes of this beautiful body-mind. The ‘I’ that is seeing is my soul.
I feel deeply touched, this is really very sacred and profound. I feel vulnerable and open.

Conclusion

Awareness is the answer to how we can affect our State of Being. Awareness offers the choice to apply your intention to accomplish your soul’s purpose on Earth. Our State of Being is defined through the bridge between our two selves, our spiritual self or soul and our human self or body-mind. The stronger this bridge, the more magnetizing and magnificent our State of Being. This will ultimately affect our world and create this more beautiful world our heart knows is possible.
Our heart that is part of our spiritual self knows and our human heart knows. The heart that is part of our body-mind is an amazing facilitator. We can discern a facilitator of all the processes of the physical body and a facilitator between the different parts of the personality. The hearts of our soul and of the body-mind are important aspects of the bridge between our two selves.

The invitation is to trust beyond the sometimes limited reality of the body-mind and the illusions which arise through experiencing life on Earth.
When we can see the world through this sacred body-mind, we also really see others in all their beauty and exuberance, and nothing is required in return. We simply see, and this is the strength of all that we are exploring and creating in the world.
And this makes us happy and fulfilled beyond measure.

This is so astonishing!

Becoming what is changing is the very act of bridging the body-mind and our soul.
How is your partnership with the body-mind?
I look forward to your comments.

Veerle
July 24th, 2014

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Euthanasia: Do You Really Need It? This Will Help You Decide!

June 24, 2014August 25, 2014 Veerle de Bock

Euthanasia: Do You Really Need It? This Will Help You Decide!

Our Experience of Life and Death is tightly connected with our childhood experiences and our Unmet Needs. Awareness helps us to take back our responsibility.

How do you feel about Euthanasia?

Death and dying always intrigued me and Euthanasia has long been an ethical issue for me as a physician. Who was I to assist you to end your life? Euthanasia is a huge territory, and by delving deep into this matter we might discover a great deal about our relationship with the cosmic principle of life and death.

Do you remember a moment where you wanted to die, and after profound deliberation you chose to live?

In this article we wonder if we really need Euthanasia?

In order to assist you to deicide, we first define euthanasia and then connect it with our unmet needs.

What is Euthanasia?

Euthanasia is the right to die painlessly, when you suffer from an incurable, often painful, disease or condition.

Some countries, like Belgium, have detailed and far-reaching policies around Euthanasia.

It is remarkable how Belgium creates the possibility to have meaningful conversations around difficult issues such as euthanasia.

Underlying these policies lies the desire to give the responsibility back to the individual person who has the possibility to consider Euthanasia. And the pitfall of regulating Euthanasia is that through the complexity of the procedure people often feel lost, overwhelmed and powerless.

What makes Euthanasia such a complicated issue? Euthanasia is about death and dying. Death and dying are intrinsically connected with our soul’s purpose.

Whatever happens and has ever happened to you and around you will affect how you live and how you die.

Let us return to the developmental steps we all take in our lives and how they can create unmet needs (you can read more about these developmental steps in: How our Childhood Stories can Bridge our Soul’s Purpose). Those unmet needs will clarify how we handle death and dying and help us decide whether we need Euthanasia!

A lack of safety and a desire to return to the spiritual realm, versus creating safety within your body-mind
Unbearable pain of emptiness as a reason to die, versus achieving inner recognition
Trying to control the ‘inevitable’ versus a balanced inner authority with regard to death and dying
Unmet needs around giving and receiving love, choosing death in order not to be a burden versus compassion for self and others
Taking responsibility for your death and dying from a place of failure and burnout versus taking responsibility in deep connection with all that is.

Unmet physiological needs

During your stay in the womb until the age of six months, you are very vulnerable and depending on your primary caregivers to have your basic physiological needs met ¾ food, warmth, comfort and rest.

If those physiological needs are not met sufficiently, it creates a lack of safety and a feeling of insecurity. You develop a high sensitivity. This sensitivity freezes you, and you perceive life as harsh and unsafe.

The spiritual being that you are has difficulties to incarnate in this human reality. A part of you always wants to return ‘home’ to your spiritual family. You have a natural tendency towards suicide and Euthanasia.

Euthanasia is normal for you. You flirt with dying.

For your soul there is only safety in the spiritual world. Your body-mind will experience fear to die and your decisions will depend on which feeling is stronger.

You can become alienated from your body-mind. This body-mind can move for instance through a process of dementia and your soul wants to leave. Nobody has to decide in your place.

When your soul achieves safety within your body-mind, your gift is your natural ability to connect with the other world and guide other people through their dying processes.

Unmet needs of approval and recognition

You start to develop your sense of self from the age of six months until two years. You explore what you like and dislike, and you have a huge need for approval and recognition.

We are all damaged in our sense of self. Sometimes we are extremely dependant on external approval and recognition. We easily search for distraction through addictive behaviour.

Your sense of self can be so low that you go into a huge depression and experience unbearable psychological pain where you can only see the possibility of dying as a definite way out of your misery.

Who can decide in your place? Not many of us realize that anybody who has the totality of your circumstances will react in the same way.

Euthanasia is the escape of this huge emptiness inside of you, this place of deep despair.

When you learn to accept the despair and find your own inner recognition, your gift is that you have been there and if you choose to live, you are an amazing gift for others in comparable circumstances.

Unmet needs for control and power

At the age of two until six, we all experience the need to control our life and have power over our environment. We begin to explore and develop our inner authority.

When you feel powerless, this will inevitably affect how you handle your death and dying. Do you rely on an outer authority to give you permission to die, or do you decide for yourself when you came to completion for this incarnation?

Euthanasia can be a way of trying to control what inevitably will take place in its own unique Divine Timing.

When you have allowed yourself to have the conscious choice to make an end to your life or to continue your life, you have grown inner authority and gained an awareness that is a huge gift to the world. You redefine euthanasia; you do not decide governed by your unmet needs, you decide about your dying from a balanced inner authority, a power from within. Your life comes to completion when the time is right. You can really live when you are no longer afraid to die.

Unmet needs around giving and receiving love

In this developmental stage from the age of six until twelve, you move into the astonishing realm of relationships. How well are we able to give and receive love?

Distrust and betrayal easily can give rise to unbearable psychological pain.

Is Euthanasia a secret way of creating huge separation? Escaping a world where you feel there is no space for you? Painful beliefs arise that there is nobody to hold you, nobody to be with you. Living in itself becomes unbearable.

You perceive yourself as being a burden for your children or caregivers.

When you manage healing cycles through the suffering of painful unfulfilled relationships, your gift is love and compassion arising from within. Dying in your unique timing surrounded by people who really love you and listen to you can be a bath of love.

Unmet needs around expressing ourselves

From the age of twelve onwards, we begin to express ourselves in the world. We offer our unique contribution and our gifts, and we take responsibility for who we are.

Burnout occurs when you feel the world does not appreciate ‘you’ and your unique contribution to the world. Burnout can drive you towards a request for euthanasia. You have the feeling you don’t matter.

Speaking your truth, whether it is received by others or not, is inevitably connected with taking responsibility for your life and death.

Is Euthanasia a way an individual can take responsibility or is it only part of the Story of Separation? Is taking real responsibility for your life and dying something completely different?

Our gift is to take responsibility in a new way, according to the new structures, not in separation, though in deep connection to what is much bigger than we are.

Euthanasia and our unmet needs
Developmental stageOur needs	Pitfall	Gift
Conception through the age of six months.Need for safety.	Not fully incarnated, safety is assumed in the spiritual world.	A natural ability to connect with the spiritual world, being a guide for others through death and dying
6 months through 2 yearsNeed for approval and recognition	Escape from your reality of huge depression and emptiness, from your incomplete sense of self.	A human guide for others in comparable circumstances.
2 through 6 yearsNeed of control and power	Giving away your power or exert control over the ‘inevitable’ fact of dying.	A balanced inner authority handling the precise timing of your death and dying.
6 through 12 yearsNeed for giving and receiving love	Unbearable pain of unfulfilled relationships.	Compassion for self and others.
From 12 years onwardNeed to express ourselves	Taking painful responsibility from a place of failure and burnout.	Taking one hundred per cent responsibility in deep connection with all that is.

Conclusion:

We are not arguing if Euthanasia is necessary or not. We invite you as the reader to come to your own conclusions and make your decisions with a great deal of insight.

Every unmet need can in its own right give rise to a request for euthanasia or a desire to make an end to your life. When we make a conscious choice to live, whatever our circumstances are, we might create for ourselves a huge opportunity for soul growth. When you have considered the possibility to die, you really live.

Euthanasia can be very graceful and serene.

And Euthanasia can be an escape, a failing, separation.

Only our body-mind dies, our soul is eternal and returns with what it has established.

Dying is a transformation into another form. Nothing is ever lost in the Universe. It is a gateway into another reality.

You can learn more about handling your developmental edges and unmet needs in Becoming What is Changing: Exposition.

I would love to hear your stories around death and dying.

Veerle

June, 2014

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How the Life pulse allows you to unfold your DNA

May 11, 2014May 11, 2014 Veerle de Bock

How the Life pulse allows you to unfold your DNA

The creation of a more beautiful world requires the blossoming of our DNA. A key is awareness of the alternating life pulses of our soul and body-mind.

How can you consciously unfold your DNA?
We start with awareness of the life pulse and its sequences of expansion, stasis and contraction. We reach far out into expansion and connect with the outside world, ending in a moment of stasis, shifting into contraction, where we connect with self, arrive deep into the cells, and reach another moment of stasis, preparing us for the next outgoing movement of expansion.
During each sequence, we engage with our DNA in an attempt to reach our potential.

In this article we delve deeper into the life pulses of our soul and body-mind. The life pulse is this fascinating cosmic principle that allows creation to take place, and creation is tightly connected with our DNA.
Do you know that possibly 90% of your DNA, at this moment while you are reading, is asleep?

Here are some facts:
• Our soul has its own life pulse.
• Our body-mind thrives in waves of expansion.
• Our soul and body-mind engage through the life pulse.
• The life pulse assists the unfolding of our DNA.
• Our DNA offers us access to our potential.

The life pulse of our soul
Our incarnation is one big contraction. We gather essence in a moment of stasis, before our incarnation. Then our soul comes into this human realm, and this is a big contraction in terms of the life pulse. We sink deep into the density of matter, which is a huge “going inside” for the soul, a retraction, a contraction. The soul perceives the incarnation as a separation from its Source. At the end of our incarnation, there is a moment of stasis. This is our dying process, and after our physical death our soul moves into expansion and connection with our spiritual family¬¬—we explore all our challenges and our successes. The research through Life Between Lives Hypnotherapy offers a great deal of insight into the understanding of our soul’s journey.
We can discern many other life pulses. During the day your soul moves into contraction and during the night into expansion, because the soul goes out and visits your spiritual family. Meditation and introspection are also waves of expansion for the soul.

The life pulse of our body-mind
Our body-mind has many different life pulses. Our breathing is a beautiful example, a moment of stillness, breathing out and expanding, another moment of stillness, breathing in and contracting, and again a moment of stillness for the preparation of the next wave. Can you feel how at the end of your expiration there is fullness, a connectedness with all living beings and at the end of the inspiration, there is a going deeply inside, a connection with your self?
The same sequences apply to our magnificent circulation system with our blood flow and heart pulse.
In an expansion we are created, a sperm cell engages with an egg. Our whole body-mind expands and contracts in a panoply of life pulses in many different ways.

The alternating life pulses of soul and body-mind
In a previous article we gained insight into the amazing interaction between our soul and body-mind. Let us come back to the different scenarios through which our soul and body-mind interact. If we allow those different scenarios to happen at the same time, we begin to see what the drawing at the beginning of this article shows.
Our soul and body-mind both have a life pulse. They might not interact at all or already take care of each other at a distance.
When there is the intertwining of body-mind and soul, the life pulses of both alternate. When the body-mind is in expansion, the soul is in contraction, and vice versa. When soul and body-mind are completely aligned, they move through the same life pulse, they are both expanding and contracting at the same time.
The moments of stasis are moments when both meet. Deeply breathing in and out produces moments of stasis, a possible connection between your body-mind and soul. This happens at the end of the contraction, the inspiration, and at the end of the expansion, the expiration.

How the life pulse assists the unfolding of our DNA
The visual representation of these alternating waves reveals the image of our DNA.
Let us take a closer look at our DNA. Our DNA is hidden deep inside the nucleus of each of our human cells. Our DNA has the form of a helix. The helix itself is formed through a backbone of sugar and phosphate and branches that are formed by nucleotide bases. These nucleotide bases are our actual genetic material, our genes, our potential in physical manifestation for this lifetime. Our genes produce all the proteins we need as building blocks for almost any activity and any scenario we want to create in the physical reality. It is the potential for us to grow, to expand, and to see. In our cells lies the potential that we need to create the more beautiful world our heart knows is possible.
A protein coat protects the helix and also blocks the expression of our potential.
Can you imagine all these secret structures that each of our more then 50 trillion cells is holding?

The backbone of sugar and phosphate visually looks like the life pulse. The backbone is what keeps the structure and creates the space for the DNA to unfold. The life pulse is the structure, the cosmic principle that creates the space for us to create our lives, to allow engagement between the fields of our soul and body-mind.
And in this movement, the unfolding of our DNA and the engagement of more of our potential becomes a reality.
Connect deep within your cells with your DNA at the end of a contraction and become who you are, not who you wish to be, in the consecutive waves of expansion.
Through our DNA we access the essence of the Universal soup. On the quantum level our DNA vibrates. This offers us continuous essence for the next wave of expansion. We know that the Zero Point field or Universal soup of energy is accessible externally in the Universe and internally deep inside each of our cells.
How is our DNA connected to our shadow?

Releasing our shadow
Our shadow is our potential, which we did not yet discover or which we decoded in a defensive way. We use our DNA to recreate our childhood stories in this moment now. Those stories happened to us and around us and are unique to each of us. Siblings store different stories of the same situation.
The stories, which we attract from the Quantum hologram, are those that resonate with our soul’s purpose. The stories engage certain sequences of our DNA in order to create, in the physical world, what our stories believe is true.
Each new wave of expansion offers us a new healing cycle, an opportunity to make another choice. In the expansion we engage with the outside world.
Our DNA is switched off or on through the inactivation or activation of the protein coat, which protects our DNA. This activation or inactivation happens in reaction to information reaching us from the outside world and often engages with our old stored stories.

Conclusion

Our DNA holds our potential on many different levels and dimensions—more than most of us imagine being true.

Through awareness of the life pulse, you affect the interaction between your body-mind and your soul, you affect the unfolding of your DNA, and you affect your life. The more we are able to really align the life pulses of our soul and body-mind, the more joy and pleasure unfold.

When we move out into expansion, we engage, we meet, and we explore the outside world. With the assistance of our soul, we are able to reach far out and to deeply connect with all living beings. From this connection, a moment of stasis naturally happens, and we move back inside. Our contraction starts and we move with what we learned back through all the levels of our energy field into our cells to connect with our DNA for another wave of expansion.

In Guest House Facilitation we explore these interactions with regard to the group being of organizations and the possibilities to create a new future that wants to emerge.

I look forward to the sparks of essence you feel you want to share in the comment box.
Veerle

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The Life pulse Mystery

March 31, 2014May 26, 2014 Veerle de Bock

The Life pulse Mystery

Through this cosmic principle we engage with the limitless energy soup around us and affect our lives, our relationships and definitely our reality.

Are you familiar with this cosmic principle of the life pulse?

The whole process of how we create our reality in this moment is astonishing and complex. The life pulse is a cosmic principle, which can assist you to achieve more clarity.

Can you imagine our current reality being a mirror of what we believe?

The life pulse is the principle that engages with your beliefs of how the world is.

This article starts with defining the life pulse and weaves the cosmic principle of the life pulse through the sequences of our map of physics, enabling us to gain some insight into the concept of creation.

What is the life pulse?

The life pulse has different components, which alternate between expansion and contraction. There is always a moment of stasis, followed by a wave of expansion, ending in another moment of stasis and leading to a wave of contraction, completed again in a moment of stasis, which at the same time starts a new wave of expansion. Everything in nature follows this principle. You can recognize it in the trees, the plants, the animals and the seasons.

There is extensive spiritual literature in the Pathwork lectures around the cosmic principle of the life pulse. The scientific perspective is covered, amongst others, by Adrian Bejan, a physicist who developed the constructal law as the principle of life correlating with the life pulse.

How the life pulse affects our lives

Let us use a real story to exemplify this process. This is a story of an interaction between my husband and me. My husband is a wonderful sensitive caring man. We have been married for 27 years and have already learned a great deal in our relationship.

1. Stasis in the Zero Point Field
This is a moment of silence, the preparation for our outgoing movement in the expansion. We gather essence or energy from the Zero Point Field, deep within our cells. We retrieve specific information from the Quantum Hologram through resonance. What makes sense for us in this moment ‘now’.
In our story the stasis is a moment of silence right before we start to walk, a deep breathing, silence in and around us. An excitement for what will unfold ‘now’. The information that holds the possible scripts for our walk, are at this moment available.

2. Expansion through our energy field and into our physical body
A wave of expansion happens, in an expansion we always move outward into the world, we connect with other living beings, human beings or nature, our environment. It makes sense that in this outward movement we make sense of what is actually happening through our body-mind. The body-mind is the intimate relationship between our physical body and our mind (our personality).

In our series of articles around physics and reality we gained insight in the existence of an electromagnetic field that permeates and surrounds our physical body and which is generated within our physical body. This energy field contains seven levels with all our beliefs, images, expressions, feelings, thoughts, emotions and physical sensations as different vibrations. All these aspects of our personality engage in the wave of expansion.

The gift of any expansion is this moving outward towards the other. This always will affect our old stories, the pleasurable ones and the more difficult ones.
Our life pulse moves from the depth of the physical body outward through each level of our energy field. And it is hard to make sense of those different levels in an expansion. It feels as if this happens non-linear.

The information still present as possibilities in the moment of stasis becomes organized in a reality (superposition). A certain reality engages with thoughts or emotions that then will reinforce certain beliefs and create other emotions and eventually physical symptoms. All these thoughts, emotions, beliefs, physical symptoms are connected with old stories that are stored in our physical body.

My husband and I embark on a lovely walk without an appropriate map. We try to allow the unknown and to trust that we will get where we need to get. When we arrive back high in the mountains at 6 pm where we passed at noon, the situation gets difficult. I feel betrayed and angry. My husband jokes and reminds me that I get what I desire, I wanted a long walk. This is so fascinating. Instantly I feel like a victim and I make my husband the perpetrator.

3. Stasis after the phase of expansion
At the end of this expansion we have another moment of stasis. The life pulse resides now in the connectedness with the other and all living beings, we often do not perceive this moment of stillness. Yet it is important, this is our moment of choice and does prepare us for the inward movement of the contraction.

Let us return to our story. In the moment I become aware of a familiar pattern between my husband and me. I give away my power and I feel betrayed when circumstances are not as I expected.

I can make a choice, I deeply breathe in and out and decide not to go for any old pattern that exists between us.
Deeply breathing in and out is a simple tool to stay open, to become aware of choices. And it is a moment of silence, a reconnection between your soul and your body-mind.

4. The contraction back through the energy field
We make an inward movement, we reflect and introspect to digest what we discovered in our outward movement. Our contraction is strongly affected by the choice we made in our stasis. Do we stay in the one reality attached to the story or do we open up for new fresh possible realities.

Let us imagine travelling through the different levels of our energy field.
In our story I am still walking though I move inside, I do not move out towards my husband.

The seventh level brings my attention to my beliefs. We can change the belief that gave rise to the story we attracted from the Quantum Hologram and we might not yet be ready to completely let go. And need more cycling through this creative arc.
I know and gained insight not only in a repeating pattern in our relationship, I also received insight in this magic principle of the life pulse. I become part of a bigger whole.
The sixth level stands for Divine Love. We can either love our beliefs or open ourselves up for many more possibilities and experience a deep love for all the living beings in the Universe.
I perceive how unconditional love moves through me.
We arrive in our fifth level. This level holds the precise order of everything. How whatever happens is useful.
In the story I achieve a deep sense of understanding. I have the freedom to make another choice. I strengthen a clear and courageous will for the right action.
We continue our journey, in the fourth level we meet the whole area of the relationships that affect our story.
I discover that I do not really see my husband. I position a reality upon my husband that stems from an early event happened to me or around me. I feel how love flows through me when I let go of this projection.
Our third level holds space for our thoughts and how they affect our story. How we think what we believe is true.
I perceive different thoughts: I am a victim because my husband always pushes me over my limits. I easily push myself over my limits. I am a victim when I give my power away.
The thoughts are no longer stressful, they are simple thoughts and I let them pass by.
Our second level contains the emotions and feelings about ourselves.
I feel how anger and frustration move through me, without me engaging with them. It feels like vibrations moving through my energy field.
We finally arrive in the first level. This level brings our attention to our physicality, what it means to live in a human body, to the physical sensations in our body; we can be brought to a specific area in our sacred bodies. We may perceive pain or pleasure.
I literally perceive an opening of my cells, more energy moves through me. I feel how I still enjoy the walking, the simple rhythm of putting one step after another.

5. Back in the Zero Point Field, for another moment of stasis
We arrived back in the Zero Point Field deep within our cells, we can rest and gather momentum for yet another wave.

Conclusion

What we believe is truly creating our lives. Beliefs are how we assume the world is. Thoughts, emotions, feelings, expressions and physical sensations will affect our beliefs.

The moments of stasis are when our soul and body-mind reconnect. In these moments we have a choice.

The magic key is awareness of the different phases of the life pulse and how it operates with the laws of physics and energy in order to create our reality.

Creative waves happen continuously in and around us. An abundance Universe is real and at our disposal to manifest everything we truly desire. This is how we achieve access to our bigger potential.

This article offers hope for the creation of a more beautiful world that our hearts know is possible.

The life pulse is an amazing principle that is at work in our personal lives and affects the ‘beings’ of our organizations. You can read more in Becoming What is Changing: Exposition.

I welcome your personal experiences that bring light to this amazing cosmic principle. You can share them in the comment box.

The next article on this blog will reveal how the magic of the life pulse affects our inner split.

Veerle

March, 31^st 2014

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Recognizing our Inner Split-Its Effect on Organizations

March 17, 2014March 18, 2014 Veerle de Bock

Recognizing our Inner Split-Its Effect on Organizations

The relationship between our soul and body-mind reveals our inner split. Its different manifestations reverberate through the ‘being’ of our organizations.

Our soul manifests into the physical realm through our body-mind. This process of incarnation automatically generates a split between our soul and what we end up doing in this life— a split between our spiritual nature and what actually happens day-to-day through our body-mind.

In a previous article we discovered how this split is an amazing tool for our soul to recycle, explore, integrate and grow. We learned how this process enables us to reach our greater potential.

In this article, we name the purpose of our inner split. We start on the personal level and then extend our insights to our organizations, and discover how the ‘being’ of an organization is affected by each of its members.

What is the purpose of the inner split?

We define our body-mind as the whole of our physical body and our mind. Our mind is the part of us that reasons, thinks, feels, wills, perceives, judges and experiences. All these aspects are vibrations in an energy field that surrounds and permeates our physical body.

More then fifty trillion cells compose our physical body. Within each cell, we can access the Universal energy field. Our physical body has a structure that constantly adapts itself in order to allow the life force to move through it. This life force is the energy coming from the Source, from the field of endless possibilities.

Through our physical body, this life force is transported by our nerve cells as electricity, collected in plexuses and travels towards our brain, our heart and our different organs and back to each of our cells. This electricity has a limit to how far it can extend. When we want additional pathways and more charge, it takes time for our physical body. The amount of electrical activity is reflected in the strength of our energy field (Physics and Reality ¾ A Map for Human Potential. Part 2).

Too much charge can easily give rise to disease processes. Those can be physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual.

We need a gradual process of alignment, of incarnation, in order to allow our body-mind to adapt to the high vibrations of our soul.

The two morphogenetic fields gently and slowly need to align and the body-mind adjusts.

How does this inner split reverberate through our organizations? We answer this question through simple lines representing the morphogenetic fields of our soul and body-mind. How are they in relation to, or ‘with’, each other?

Two lines standing aside
Two lines facing each other
Two intertwined lines
One line

Two lines standing aside

There is a split between our soul and body-mind, which is illustrated as

two lines drawn standing side by side (ll). It feels like the split between science and spirituality, which our friend René Descartes (a French Philosopher, Mathematician and Writer who lived from 1596 till 1650) helped to re-establish. This split has in fact always existed and has to exist. Whatever happens is useful, even if that is on the cosmic level.

In this version of ‘with-ness’, our soul and our body-mind walk beside one another along the path.

Only one of them is visible, the other one is in the shadow, invisible, unconscious. When you have a huge split between your spiritual nature (your soul) and your body-mind, this can express itself at both ends of the spectrum.

When only the spiritual side is visible, there is ignorance of what is happening in the body-mind. There is no responsibility for thoughts, feelings or actions. A great deal is for the so-called higher good, which also can be war, torture, neglect, rejection, and repression.

At the other end of the spectrum, the body-mind is perceived as the only objective visible aspect, and the spiritual underlying nature is hidden, invisible. You are split from your soul.

You feel at the mercy of fate and life’s circumstances.

Both ends of this split create a variety of specific splits. How they take form will differ for each of us—possibilities are between our mind and body, work and play, men and women, spirit and matter, discipline and desire, body and soul, payment and gift, nature and technology, life and art.

How does this split affect our current organizations? Oftentimes, many members of an organization live their own reality, which has nothing to do with the realities of the other members. A huge complex of realities unfolds. Numerous major and minor splits occur and interact with each other. Many of our current structures are a result of these splits: our hierarchical top-down management, the discernment of important and less important work, our money establishment, and many more.

Two lines facing each other

The second perspective of the split emerges again by two lines drawn side by side, only this time they face each other. This form of ‘with’ describes the kind of ‘with-ness’ that comes from taking the time to get to know each other a bit better. Our soul tries to understand our body-mind, accept the body-mind as an amazing partner in this human reality. In order to achieve this, we need the power of intention. As if the soul says to the body-mind: “I understand you, I get where you are coming from, I’m with you.” We begin to walk on a path where we see our body-mind as a companion. There is at the same time an alignment within the body-mind. The thoughts, emotions and actions are met from within the body. We discover a deeper meaning in what is happening; we reach a deeper layer of ourselves.

This is still new territory, we explore, and we begin to see new perspectives that for a long time have not been visible to us.

Let us return to our organization. This would be the time we create meetings where we deeply listen to each other. We consider each voice, even the whispers, valuable for the bigger whole.

Two intertwined lines

The third perspective of how our soul relates with our body-mind are two lines twined around each other. It describes the sort of ‘with-ness’ that is really allowing our soul to live through our body-mind. To be ‘with’ each other. There is a mutual responsibility for each other, our body-mind and our soul. Our soul takes responsibility by seeing and accepting what is happening—by being embodied. The soul holds the body-mind with huge acceptance and love.

Our body-mind takes responsibility for being a safe container for the soul. Taking care of what we eat, drink, do and not do.

This reverberates through our organizations. We create a ‘we, the people’. We allow self-organization to unfold within the being of our organization. We realize that every member has essence to contribute and has uniqueness. ‘We, the people’ sees faults and issues as opportunities. ‘We, the people’ takes one hundred percent responsibility for what is happening around our organizations and within our organizations.

One line

In the fourth perspective, the ‘with’ is that most evolved state, illustrated by a single line. There is no longer a split.

This is the one that describes the true connection, where body-mind and soul are completely aligned. Source moves through each of our cells, whatever morphogenetic field we engage with comes from this state of Unity, which is health on all the levels.

There is complete trust that the Universe holds us.

There are no longer splits, work is play and play is work, life is art and art is life, nature dances with technology, and there is an embodied spirituality.

Our organizations become ‘beings’ composed of all the different members. New yet unknown structures emerge; there is an ongoing connectedness to source that refreshes and renews. We effortlessly find new solutions for old problems. We realize that each job within the organization is equally valuable and needed for the bigger whole. We know that each member can inspire the whole. The ‘being’ of our organization heals and is healed, teaches and is taught, breathes and is breathed.

Conclusion

Recognizing this huge inner split between our soul and body-mind, allows us to acknowledge that the various splits that emerge from there affect our personal lives and reverberate through our organizations.

This one split holds the possibility of many more splits, in many different forms and gradations. When we address that one split, all the others appear to vanish, become an illusion….

We are all mixtures, manifesting different types of splits depending on the situation and the alignments between our body-mind and soul.

Likewise, so will the ‘beings’ of our organizations be continuously changing mixtures. They make those splits real and at the same time, they offer a huge entry into more harmony, love, play, fun, and more.

The entry is the conscious creation of more alignment between our soul and our precious body-mind.

The next article describes how to facilitate groups to operate at the highest level of competence by applying ‘Guest House Facilitation’.

You can already read more about this fascinating field of ‘Guest House Facilitation’ on the website.

I’d love to hear your comments.

Veerle

March, 17^th 2014

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Physics and Reality – A Map for Human Potential Part 3

February 6, 2014 Veerle de Bock

Physics and Reality – A Map for Human Potential Part 3

How can we strengthen the interplay between Quantum Physics and Classical Physics in our daily life? Through the power of intention says Author Veerle De Bock.

In the first article of this series we explored Quantum Physics and the ‘field of endless possibilities’. The second article offered insight into how Classical Physics makes sense of our day-to-day reality and how our physical body is intimately connected with our energy field.

In today’s article we will put these landmarks together and explore how we can access the complete map of our human potential by becoming aware of the interplay between Classical and Quantum Physics.

As we discovered in the first two parts of this series, Quantum Physics is all about how all that ever has, and ever will happen is organized in the Universe while Classical Physics helps us store our stories in our physical body and explains how the electrical activity in the body creates an electro-magnetic field around us (our aura). Today, let’s take this a step further and look at the ‘body-mind’ and how we engage with it to achieve our soul’s purpose. We will also explore the power of intention.

What Is The ‘Body-Mind’?

Our ‘body-mind’ refers to the intimate relationship between our physical body and our energy field. We learned in the second article of this series that our physical body acts as the conductor for our electro-magnetic field. The stories that are stored in our physical body affect the magnetizing properties of the conductor thus influencing our energy field. We also learned that our energy field is our personality; we could say it is our mind.

Inside our body are all our bodily systems: our tissues and organs, our cells which hold molecules which, in turn, hold atoms. Within the atoms are sub-atomic particles which are made of energy. This energy follows the principles of Quantum Physics and is the inherent wisdom of the ‘body-mind’, our connection to Source.

This Source could also be described as ‘the field of endless possibilities’ that permeates each cell and surrounds us. This is Quantum Physics at work.

The Role of the ‘Body-Mind’

Using your ‘body-mind’, you are able to recycle the stories that are stored in your physical body and relive them over and over again using the unconscious interplay between Classical and Quantum Physics. Everything that happens in the Universe is information retrieved from the Quantum Hologram (see part one of this series for more detail) and organized through a morphogenetic field into the possibility (or superposition) that becomes our reality.

The fact that there are other possible realities available lies beyond our current experience and the phenomenon in Quantum Physics that is responsible for this limited experience is called ‘decoherence’ or averaging out. The recycling of our stories is only possible with this phenomenon of ‘decoherence’. Although it may not always be obvious, this recycling enables us to learn and to grow, to gradually integrate and transcend our old stories.

Your Soul’s Purpose

How does this principle of recycling fit into your soul’s purpose? We are spiritual beings (souls) coming into this ‘body-mind’ to fulfil our specific life task. We incarnate into this precious ‘body-mind’ around the fourth month of pregnancy and this incarnation process often proceeds our whole life. Our morphogenetic field holds our soul’s purpose for this specific lifetime.

Classical Physics helps us to make our soul’s purpose digestible, to bring what we want to learn from the field of endless possibilities into specific realities in this ‘body-mind’ incarnation.

Our ‘body-mind’ has its own morphogenetic field and the more we incarnate, the more we are able to align both of them: that of our ‘body-mind’ and that of our soul.

Our willingness to further incarnate is related to our intention.

The Power of Intention

Intention is commitment, our commitment to be in this human realm and give ourselves the time we need to accomplish our task here. Intention is closely related to our soul and has quantum properties.

It has intrinsic power that you can visualize as a channel for your soul which connects you to the Universe and the Earth.

Aligning Your Soul and Your Body-Mind

Here, we discover another interplay between Quantum and Classical Physics. Gravity helps us deeply root our soul’s purpose in the Earth, align our soul with our body-mind, grounding us in our own personal power and keeping our physical body here in the human realm.

By simply breathing deeply in and out, you make the electrical current stronger in your physical body which automatically makes your electromagnetic field more charged thus making more of your potential power available to you from where it is stored in the field of endless possibilities.

When we enable more of this charge to run through our ‘body-mind’, we automatically become more aligned with our soul’s purpose and, from that place, it is far easier to discover the gifts in whatever happens.

The Gifts in Our Daily Life

As we have seen, everything in the Universe is connected and everything affects everything. The entry point is the fascinating triad of ‘Witnessing, Asking and Experiencing’ that I wrote about in a previous article. It is worth mentioning this amazing tool again. Through using intention, we are able to align our soul’s purpose with our ‘body-mind’ thereby creating a distance between ourselves and what is happening to us in this moment. Our awareness of what is happening is all-inclusive and boundless (witnessing), a dance unfolds between the inner process and the outer circumstances (asking) and finally, we allow our attention to travel inside of our physical body (experiencing).

The three aspects are intertwined and mutually influence each other.

This tool helps us strengthen the interplay between Quantum and Classical Physics and through it, we are able to express our unique essence.

Conclusion

The magic of Classical Physics unfolds through the simple events that happen day-by-day. The process of recycling enables us to make use of our childhood stories and experience them in our body-mind allowing us to gradually assimilate and integrate them. By doing so, we are able to strengthen our intention, and ground our ‘body-mind’, creating time and space for us to explore our soul’s purpose. By becoming aware of our soul’s purpose, our soul then becomes aligned with our ‘body-mind’ and the endless possibilities of Quantum Physics become accessible and allow miracles to happen in our daily life. Hope for an emerging future becomes visible through new, as yet unknown, possibilities.

You and I are pure energy in an astonishing and vibrating configuration; energy that is constantly changing beneath the surface, allowing us to explore and engage with our unique soul’s purpose.

Physics are an amazing resource to understand ‘you’ and your unique mission on Earth. Living the laws of Physics is spiritual, and yet centred in the body.

So astonishing!

My book Becoming What is Changing: Exposition is a powerful journey through our unique potential and engages with our intention.

Whatever pops up for you in this moment ‘now’ is welcome, please share your thoughts in the comments box.

Veerle

6th of February, 2014

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