Euthanasia: Do You Really Need It? This Will Help You Decide!

Our Experience of Life and Death is tightly connected with our childhood experiences and our Unmet Needs. Awareness helps us to take back our responsibility.

How do you feel about Euthanasia?

Death and dying always intrigued me and Euthanasia has long been an ethical issue for me as a physician. Who was I to assist you to end your life? Euthanasia is a huge territory, and by delving deep into this matter we might discover a great deal about our relationship with the cosmic principle of life and death.

Do you remember a moment where you wanted to die, and after profound deliberation you chose to live?

In this article we wonder if we really need Euthanasia?

In order to assist you to deicide, we first define euthanasia and then connect it with our unmet needs.

What is Euthanasia?

Euthanasia is the right to die painlessly, when you suffer from an incurable, often painful, disease or condition.

Some countries, like Belgium, have detailed and far-reaching policies around Euthanasia.

It is remarkable how Belgium creates the possibility to have meaningful conversations around difficult issues such as euthanasia.

Underlying these policies lies the desire to give the responsibility back to the individual person who has the possibility to consider Euthanasia. And the pitfall of regulating Euthanasia is that through the complexity of the procedure people often feel lost, overwhelmed and powerless.

What makes Euthanasia such a complicated issue? Euthanasia is about death and dying. Death and dying are intrinsically connected with our soul’s purpose.

Whatever happens and has ever happened to you and around you will affect how you live and how you die.

Let us return to the developmental steps we all take in our lives and how they can create unmet needs (you can read more about these developmental steps in: How our Childhood Stories can Bridge our Soul’s Purpose). Those unmet needs will clarify how we handle death and dying and help us decide whether we need Euthanasia!

A lack of safety and a desire to return to the spiritual realm, versus creating safety within your body-mind
Unbearable pain of emptiness as a reason to die, versus achieving inner recognition
Trying to control the ‘inevitable’ versus a balanced inner authority with regard to death and dying
Unmet needs around giving and receiving love, choosing death in order not to be a burden versus compassion for self and others
Taking responsibility for your death and dying from a place of failure and burnout versus taking responsibility in deep connection with all that is.

Unmet physiological needs

During your stay in the womb until the age of six months, you are very vulnerable and depending on your primary caregivers to have your basic physiological needs met ¾ food, warmth, comfort and rest.

If those physiological needs are not met sufficiently, it creates a lack of safety and a feeling of insecurity. You develop a high sensitivity. This sensitivity freezes you, and you perceive life as harsh and unsafe.

The spiritual being that you are has difficulties to incarnate in this human reality. A part of you always wants to return ‘home’ to your spiritual family. You have a natural tendency towards suicide and Euthanasia.

Euthanasia is normal for you. You flirt with dying.

For your soul there is only safety in the spiritual world. Your body-mind will experience fear to die and your decisions will depend on which feeling is stronger.

You can become alienated from your body-mind. This body-mind can move for instance through a process of dementia and your soul wants to leave. Nobody has to decide in your place.

When your soul achieves safety within your body-mind, your gift is your natural ability to connect with the other world and guide other people through their dying processes.

Unmet needs of approval and recognition

You start to develop your sense of self from the age of six months until two years. You explore what you like and dislike, and you have a huge need for approval and recognition.

We are all damaged in our sense of self. Sometimes we are extremely dependant on external approval and recognition. We easily search for distraction through addictive behaviour.

Your sense of self can be so low that you go into a huge depression and experience unbearable psychological pain where you can only see the possibility of dying as a definite way out of your misery.

Who can decide in your place? Not many of us realize that anybody who has the totality of your circumstances will react in the same way.

Euthanasia is the escape of this huge emptiness inside of you, this place of deep despair.

When you learn to accept the despair and find your own inner recognition, your gift is that you have been there and if you choose to live, you are an amazing gift for others in comparable circumstances.

Unmet needs for control and power

At the age of two until six, we all experience the need to control our life and have power over our environment. We begin to explore and develop our inner authority.

When you feel powerless, this will inevitably affect how you handle your death and dying. Do you rely on an outer authority to give you permission to die, or do you decide for yourself when you came to completion for this incarnation?

Euthanasia can be a way of trying to control what inevitably will take place in its own unique Divine Timing.

When you have allowed yourself to have the conscious choice to make an end to your life or to continue your life, you have grown inner authority and gained an awareness that is a huge gift to the world. You redefine euthanasia; you do not decide governed by your unmet needs, you decide about your dying from a balanced inner authority, a power from within. Your life comes to completion when the time is right. You can really live when you are no longer afraid to die.

Unmet needs around giving and receiving love

In this developmental stage from the age of six until twelve, you move into the astonishing realm of relationships. How well are we able to give and receive love?

Distrust and betrayal easily can give rise to unbearable psychological pain.

Is Euthanasia a secret way of creating huge separation? Escaping a world where you feel there is no space for you? Painful beliefs arise that there is nobody to hold you, nobody to be with you. Living in itself becomes unbearable.

You perceive yourself as being a burden for your children or caregivers.

When you manage healing cycles through the suffering of painful unfulfilled relationships, your gift is love and compassion arising from within. Dying in your unique timing surrounded by people who really love you and listen to you can be a bath of love.

Unmet needs around expressing ourselves

From the age of twelve onwards, we begin to express ourselves in the world. We offer our unique contribution and our gifts, and we take responsibility for who we are.

Burnout occurs when you feel the world does not appreciate ‘you’ and your unique contribution to the world. Burnout can drive you towards a request for euthanasia. You have the feeling you don’t matter.

Speaking your truth, whether it is received by others or not, is inevitably connected with taking responsibility for your life and death.

Is Euthanasia a way an individual can take responsibility or is it only part of the Story of Separation? Is taking real responsibility for your life and dying something completely different?

Our gift is to take responsibility in a new way, according to the new structures, not in separation, though in deep connection to what is much bigger than we are.

Euthanasia and our unmet needs
Developmental stageOur needs	Pitfall	Gift
Conception through the age of six months.Need for safety.	Not fully incarnated, safety is assumed in the spiritual world.	A natural ability to connect with the spiritual world, being a guide for others through death and dying
6 months through 2 yearsNeed for approval and recognition	Escape from your reality of huge depression and emptiness, from your incomplete sense of self.	A human guide for others in comparable circumstances.
2 through 6 yearsNeed of control and power	Giving away your power or exert control over the ‘inevitable’ fact of dying.	A balanced inner authority handling the precise timing of your death and dying.
6 through 12 yearsNeed for giving and receiving love	Unbearable pain of unfulfilled relationships.	Compassion for self and others.
From 12 years onwardNeed to express ourselves	Taking painful responsibility from a place of failure and burnout.	Taking one hundred per cent responsibility in deep connection with all that is.

Conclusion:

We are not arguing if Euthanasia is necessary or not. We invite you as the reader to come to your own conclusions and make your decisions with a great deal of insight.

Every unmet need can in its own right give rise to a request for euthanasia or a desire to make an end to your life. When we make a conscious choice to live, whatever our circumstances are, we might create for ourselves a huge opportunity for soul growth. When you have considered the possibility to die, you really live.

Euthanasia can be very graceful and serene.

And Euthanasia can be an escape, a failing, separation.

Only our body-mind dies, our soul is eternal and returns with what it has established.

Dying is a transformation into another form. Nothing is ever lost in the Universe. It is a gateway into another reality.

You can learn more about handling your developmental edges and unmet needs in Becoming What is Changing: Exposition.

I would love to hear your stories around death and dying.

Veerle

June, 2014

VEERLE DE BOCK is a physician, healer, facilitator, trainer, coach and author of the trilogy, Becoming What is Changing. She spent nearly three decades of her life as a physician specializing in geriatric care, including a 21-year career as department head in an Antwerp regional hospital. In 2003, she began her study as an energetic healer, teacher, process facilitator and supervisor at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, and since 2007 has been leading many other trainees to master these same skills. In 2010 she was trained in the practice of Dynamic Facilitation by Jim Rough, which she now incorporates into her workshops and training sessions. In 2012 she decided to devote her work exclusively to writing, facilitation and coaching. That same year, she devised a new integrative practice of facilitation she calls ‘Guest House Facilitation’, that helps teams learn how to listen and utilise both the inner and outer processes within their organisation, to see it as a dynamic and living organism, and to reconnect to its intrinsic purpose and intention. Her book, Becoming What is Changing: Exposition, is the first part of a trilogy aimed at managers, team leaders and responsible employees who wish to bring this kind of transformation into the workplace, so they can create an environment where people are happy, satisfied and continuously growing.

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Want To Have A More Appealing Sleep? Read This!

June 14, 2014June 16, 2014 Veerle de Bock

Want To Have A More Appealing Sleep? Read This!

Sleep is something fascinating; we all need it and very often we don’t have the sleep we want, we are awake for hours. How can we understand our sleep and make it part of our life pulse?

How is your sleep?

We all sleep. It is an inherent part of our human condition. Did you know that we use only 5 to 10% less energy while we sleep than when we are awake? A great deal is written about sleep; this article offers you a new perspective.

Sleep helps you to define who you are. It nourishes and nurtures you and it completes what you started during the day. Who you are is a spiritual Self or soul that forms a partnership with a human Self. This human Self is a physical body and its energy field or personality. This energy field has seven distinct layers that penetrate each other and the physical body; you can also discern seven energy vortices or chakras. Barbara Brennan offers us in-depth descriptions of our human energy field in her books.

In this article we start with the scientific perspective, and then we add the spiritual knowledge and make use of our insights on the life pulse.

The purpose of our sleep is to integrate and assimilate what happened to us and around us during the day.
Our different sleep stages correspond to specific brain waves and each set of three stages is alternated with a phase of dreaming.
The moment between waking and sleeping is a moment of deep connection between our soul and body-mind.
Our sleep itself is a process of moving back from the seventh (outermost) level of our energy field inward through all the levels until we arrive back in the cells of our bodies for another moment of stasis.

What is the purpose of our sleep?

Sleep is universal in the animal kingdom, and during sleep most systems in an animal are at a heightened state of growth and rejuvenation.

Our metabolism is only decreased by 5 to 10%. So our sleep is not a time when we conserve energy. We need this expenditure of energy, as research has revealed that the overall role of sleep is the consolidation and organization of synaptic connections that were formed during learning, experience and recent memory. The complete purpose and mechanisms of our sleep are only partially clear from a scientific perspective.

How will our insights of the life pulse add more depth to these scientific perspectives? The life pulse is a cosmic principle of alternating phases of expansion, stasis, contraction and again stasis, through which all living beings and nature move.

Like the life pulse, sleep consists of stasis, contraction and back to a moment of stasis before the start of a new day. You assimilate and integrate what has happened to you and around you in the outgoing movement, in the expansion of the waking hours.

Awareness of these phases adds to the quality of life in this human incarnation. Now we will delve deeper into the scientific stages of our sleep.

Dreaming and non-dreaming stages of sleep

Our sleep is divided in two broad types, rapid eye movement sleep (REM) and non-rapid eye movement sleep (NREM).

NREM sleep has three stages. The first stage takes place between wakefulness and sleep. Research has revealed that the muscles are active, involuntary movements occur easily at this stage, and there are mostly alpha brainwaves.

In the second stage, sleepers move to theta brain wave activity and become gradually harder to awaken.

In the third stage, sleepers have delta waves and they are less responsive to the environment.

After this third stage, a phase of REM sleep helps us to return from deep sleep into an NREM stage-one sleep.

REM is associated with our capability to dream. These brainwaves are similar to the waking stage, which are mostly beta brainwaves. Oxygen consumption by the brain is higher than when the sleeper is awake. We have REM sleep almost every 90 minutes and more REM in the second half of our sleep. Dreaming is the perceived experience of sensory information. We use images, sounds, taste and feelings, all our senses can be used. When we reconcile this information with what we know about our energy field, we realize we use dreaming on the unstructured levels of our energy field. The seven layers of our energy field are alternating. The first, third, fifth and seventh are structured with lines of light and the sixth, fourth and second levels of our field are unstructured, more with clouds and waves of colour. On these unstructured levels, we access the senses through the different chakras. Scientists are now convinced that we are composed of energy and that we are surrounded by energy.

In REM sleep, within the physical body, the neurons of our cerebral cortex fire randomly, which presents nonsensical sensory information from which our forebrain creates a story in an attempt to make sense of this brain activity.

The firing of our neurons during contraction is affected by our expansion during the day.

Our expansion affects our contraction and vice versa. We often feel uncomfortable when we are awake during the night. And maybe being awake is okay and what we need in the wave of contraction of our sleep.

We gain insight in the NREM and REM phases of our sleep. We are ready to journey back through the levels of our field for a deeper explanation of the sleep cycle. A summary table is provided at the end of the next section.

A deeper journey exploring the sleep cycle

Our sleep starts with a moment of stasis in the seventh level of our field, a phase between waking and sleeping. This moment is an opportunity to connect your body-mind with your soul. It is often joyful. We may experience a connectedness with all living beings no matter how our expansion unfolded during the day. We are not always aware of this precious moment. This is the first stage of an NREM type of sleep. We are still easily awakened or might have difficulties falling asleep, surrendering into sleep.

Regression hypnotherapist Michael Newton discovered a great deal about our lives in between lives and our sleep through his work with clients. He says, the first thing we do when we fall asleep is clear our mind. I guess that makes sense, and we do this as we move through our seventh level back inward. He assumes we have received a great deal of information that we do not need. Some traditions invite us to go over our day consciously to clear our thoughts, images and beliefs before journeying into sleep.

We continue with the contraction of our sleep from our seventh level back inward, we move through the second and third phases of NREM. The seventh level holds our Divine knowing and all our beliefs of how we assume the world is. In the second phase of NREM, we assimilate what we already know and strengthen our beliefs of how we see the world through what happened to us and around us during the day. In the third stage of NREM, we nourish our seventh level and access Divine knowing.

We then arrive in our sleeping time at our sixth level, which is Divine love. When our sixth level is well nourished, we experience bliss in this stage, a profound happiness. It is a meeting with our soul. In this phase of our sleep we move through a REM sleep. We dream about the spiritual love. Regression hypnotherapist Michael Newton says this is a phase where our spiritual guides come in and where we eventually travel through our soul channel towards our spiritual family. Our soul channel is the tube that connects us with the spiritual realms on one side and with the Earth on the other side. Through this channel, we incarnate as a spiritual being. It holds our longing, our life task, and our intention to accomplish what we want to achieve in this human reality.

In some people, this level can be constricted and not hold much energy. As a result, they will experience less bliss and connection with the spiritual world.

We move further in and arrive at the fifth level, which is the level that provides order and clarity to make sense of what happened during the waking state. It feels this is the stage where we combine and assimilate all our knowledge; we combine new information of what happened around and to us with what we already know. This is another stage described by Michael Newton. We see new solutions from assimilating all that we already know. We again move through the three stages of the NREM sleep.

We move further in, and on the fourth level there is again a phase of REM sleep. We have different dreams in this REM stage, we engage more in relationships. Often our dreams take more time on the fourth than on the sixth level. The amount of energy in this level affects the depth of our dreams.

We move further inward and we arrive on the third level, where our thoughts reside or resurface. I notice how I often wake up during this time of my sleep. Sometimes I might remember my dream of the fourth level at this moment in my sleep. I easily worry and have thought complexes around what I have to do, should do, ought to do. However, if I align my soul and body-mind or open my mind, I am able to gain clarity and stop worrying—it is possible to really gain a balance between my intuitive and rational mind here. Here we again move through the three stages of NREM sleep.

The next level deeper is our second level. This holds how we feel about ourselves, and it makes sense that this is strongly affected by our thoughts. This is again a REM phase where we dream. These dreams might be more easily accessible and have to do with how we feel about ourselves. The duration of our dreaming depends on the strength of our level of the field. If we run more energy in our second level, our dreams might be stronger and more vivid. It seems that most people dream more in the second half of the night, which might represent stronger lower levels of the field. The content of our dreams will be different according to which level we are at in our journey inward. Our dreams on the sixth level are more related to Divine love, on the fourth to relationships, and on the second more about our sense of self.

The next level is our first level, and this level is about our physicality, how it feels to be in a physical body. At the first NREM stage, we can wake up perceiving physical symptoms and eventually remember our dreams of the second level. The second phase of the NREM sleep is the end of the contraction wave of our sleep. We take care of our physical bodies.

Our sleep is not yet complete. We need to move through the third phase again of this last NREM phase of our sleep. This third phase is another moment of stasis, deep within the cells of our physical body. We keep on going deeper in our cells, within the cells, into the molecules, into the atoms and in between the atoms into the void, and we have a deep, really deep sleep. We get nourished and nurtured through the spiritual world, through a deep connection with essence. We have finally completed the full cycle and we are ready for the coming day. From this deep sleep, we sometimes move again into a last REM phase dreaming sleep, already the start of our expansion, and we start dreaming our day into being, so to speak, and be really fit and joyfully ready for our new adventures in life.

SLEEP EXPLORATION: A JOURNEY THROUGH THE ENERGY FIELD
STASIS
NREM phase 1	7^th level of the field	Between waking and sleeping. Deep connection between our soul and body-mind. Clearing excess of information received during the day.
CONTRACTION
NREM phase 2	7^th level of the field	Assimilating what happened and checking our beliefs
NREM phase 3	7^th level of the field	Connect with our Divine knowing, nourishing our seventh level.
REM	6^th level of the field	Dreaming, a stage where we easily visit our spiritual family, receive guidance.
NREM phase 1	5^th level of the field	Assimilate what happened during the day, possibility to wake up and have difficulties falling asleep again
NREM phase 2	5^th level of the field	Rebalancing order and clarity with what we already know.
NREM phase 3	5^th level of the field	Connect with Divine will, precise order of everything, nourishing our 5^th level.
REM	4^th level of the field	Dreams related to our relationships.
NREM phase 1	3^rd level of the field	Thoughts and worries can wake us up.
NREM phase 2	3^rd level of the field	Rebalancing our rational and intuitive thinking.
NREM phase 3	3^rd level of the field	Clarity, nourishing our 3^rd level.
REM	2^nd level of the field	Dreaming around our feelings and emotions about ourselves.
NREM phase 1	1^st level of the field	Physical sensations, eventually pain in certain areas of our body, we sometimes wake up.
NREM phase 2	1^st level of the field	Physiological balance, nourishment of our first level.
STASIS
NREM phase 3	1^st level of the field	Deep connection within the cells of our physical body, gathering essence for the next wave of expansion.
EXPANSION
REM	2^nd level of our field	Dreaming the start of our new day.

Conclusion:

Our sleep is an amazing opportunity to reconnect with our soul, to nurture and integrate.

All that has been discovered so far scientifically and spiritually makes sense in the broader perspective of the life pulse.

Awareness of the waves of expansion will affect the quality of our sleep and of our life.

Discerning this movement back through the levels of your energy field can help you to understand your sleep patterns, to assist you in accepting where you are on your journey and to have the sleep you need, not the sleep you want.

This article provides you with unique insights of the life pulse and how awareness can affect your sleep and your life. The life pulse is a fascinating concept extensively covered in my book Becoming What is Changing: Exposition.

Knowledge only becomes wisdom when we are able to connect it with our own experiences. I look forward to reading your comments.

Veerle

June 14th, 2014

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The Life pulse Mystery

March 31, 2014May 26, 2014 Veerle de Bock

The Life pulse Mystery

Through this cosmic principle we engage with the limitless energy soup around us and affect our lives, our relationships and definitely our reality.

Are you familiar with this cosmic principle of the life pulse?

The whole process of how we create our reality in this moment is astonishing and complex. The life pulse is a cosmic principle, which can assist you to achieve more clarity.

Can you imagine our current reality being a mirror of what we believe?

The life pulse is the principle that engages with your beliefs of how the world is.

This article starts with defining the life pulse and weaves the cosmic principle of the life pulse through the sequences of our map of physics, enabling us to gain some insight into the concept of creation.

What is the life pulse?

The life pulse has different components, which alternate between expansion and contraction. There is always a moment of stasis, followed by a wave of expansion, ending in another moment of stasis and leading to a wave of contraction, completed again in a moment of stasis, which at the same time starts a new wave of expansion. Everything in nature follows this principle. You can recognize it in the trees, the plants, the animals and the seasons.

There is extensive spiritual literature in the Pathwork lectures around the cosmic principle of the life pulse. The scientific perspective is covered, amongst others, by Adrian Bejan, a physicist who developed the constructal law as the principle of life correlating with the life pulse.

How the life pulse affects our lives

Let us use a real story to exemplify this process. This is a story of an interaction between my husband and me. My husband is a wonderful sensitive caring man. We have been married for 27 years and have already learned a great deal in our relationship.

1. Stasis in the Zero Point Field
This is a moment of silence, the preparation for our outgoing movement in the expansion. We gather essence or energy from the Zero Point Field, deep within our cells. We retrieve specific information from the Quantum Hologram through resonance. What makes sense for us in this moment ‘now’.
In our story the stasis is a moment of silence right before we start to walk, a deep breathing, silence in and around us. An excitement for what will unfold ‘now’. The information that holds the possible scripts for our walk, are at this moment available.

2. Expansion through our energy field and into our physical body
A wave of expansion happens, in an expansion we always move outward into the world, we connect with other living beings, human beings or nature, our environment. It makes sense that in this outward movement we make sense of what is actually happening through our body-mind. The body-mind is the intimate relationship between our physical body and our mind (our personality).

In our series of articles around physics and reality we gained insight in the existence of an electromagnetic field that permeates and surrounds our physical body and which is generated within our physical body. This energy field contains seven levels with all our beliefs, images, expressions, feelings, thoughts, emotions and physical sensations as different vibrations. All these aspects of our personality engage in the wave of expansion.

The gift of any expansion is this moving outward towards the other. This always will affect our old stories, the pleasurable ones and the more difficult ones.
Our life pulse moves from the depth of the physical body outward through each level of our energy field. And it is hard to make sense of those different levels in an expansion. It feels as if this happens non-linear.

The information still present as possibilities in the moment of stasis becomes organized in a reality (superposition). A certain reality engages with thoughts or emotions that then will reinforce certain beliefs and create other emotions and eventually physical symptoms. All these thoughts, emotions, beliefs, physical symptoms are connected with old stories that are stored in our physical body.

My husband and I embark on a lovely walk without an appropriate map. We try to allow the unknown and to trust that we will get where we need to get. When we arrive back high in the mountains at 6 pm where we passed at noon, the situation gets difficult. I feel betrayed and angry. My husband jokes and reminds me that I get what I desire, I wanted a long walk. This is so fascinating. Instantly I feel like a victim and I make my husband the perpetrator.

3. Stasis after the phase of expansion
At the end of this expansion we have another moment of stasis. The life pulse resides now in the connectedness with the other and all living beings, we often do not perceive this moment of stillness. Yet it is important, this is our moment of choice and does prepare us for the inward movement of the contraction.

Let us return to our story. In the moment I become aware of a familiar pattern between my husband and me. I give away my power and I feel betrayed when circumstances are not as I expected.

I can make a choice, I deeply breathe in and out and decide not to go for any old pattern that exists between us.
Deeply breathing in and out is a simple tool to stay open, to become aware of choices. And it is a moment of silence, a reconnection between your soul and your body-mind.

4. The contraction back through the energy field
We make an inward movement, we reflect and introspect to digest what we discovered in our outward movement. Our contraction is strongly affected by the choice we made in our stasis. Do we stay in the one reality attached to the story or do we open up for new fresh possible realities.

Let us imagine travelling through the different levels of our energy field.
In our story I am still walking though I move inside, I do not move out towards my husband.

The seventh level brings my attention to my beliefs. We can change the belief that gave rise to the story we attracted from the Quantum Hologram and we might not yet be ready to completely let go. And need more cycling through this creative arc.
I know and gained insight not only in a repeating pattern in our relationship, I also received insight in this magic principle of the life pulse. I become part of a bigger whole.
The sixth level stands for Divine Love. We can either love our beliefs or open ourselves up for many more possibilities and experience a deep love for all the living beings in the Universe.
I perceive how unconditional love moves through me.
We arrive in our fifth level. This level holds the precise order of everything. How whatever happens is useful.
In the story I achieve a deep sense of understanding. I have the freedom to make another choice. I strengthen a clear and courageous will for the right action.
We continue our journey, in the fourth level we meet the whole area of the relationships that affect our story.
I discover that I do not really see my husband. I position a reality upon my husband that stems from an early event happened to me or around me. I feel how love flows through me when I let go of this projection.
Our third level holds space for our thoughts and how they affect our story. How we think what we believe is true.
I perceive different thoughts: I am a victim because my husband always pushes me over my limits. I easily push myself over my limits. I am a victim when I give my power away.
The thoughts are no longer stressful, they are simple thoughts and I let them pass by.
Our second level contains the emotions and feelings about ourselves.
I feel how anger and frustration move through me, without me engaging with them. It feels like vibrations moving through my energy field.
We finally arrive in the first level. This level brings our attention to our physicality, what it means to live in a human body, to the physical sensations in our body; we can be brought to a specific area in our sacred bodies. We may perceive pain or pleasure.
I literally perceive an opening of my cells, more energy moves through me. I feel how I still enjoy the walking, the simple rhythm of putting one step after another.

5. Back in the Zero Point Field, for another moment of stasis
We arrived back in the Zero Point Field deep within our cells, we can rest and gather momentum for yet another wave.

Conclusion

What we believe is truly creating our lives. Beliefs are how we assume the world is. Thoughts, emotions, feelings, expressions and physical sensations will affect our beliefs.

The moments of stasis are when our soul and body-mind reconnect. In these moments we have a choice.

The magic key is awareness of the different phases of the life pulse and how it operates with the laws of physics and energy in order to create our reality.

Creative waves happen continuously in and around us. An abundance Universe is real and at our disposal to manifest everything we truly desire. This is how we achieve access to our bigger potential.

This article offers hope for the creation of a more beautiful world that our hearts know is possible.

The life pulse is an amazing principle that is at work in our personal lives and affects the ‘beings’ of our organizations. You can read more in Becoming What is Changing: Exposition.

I welcome your personal experiences that bring light to this amazing cosmic principle. You can share them in the comment box.

The next article on this blog will reveal how the magic of the life pulse affects our inner split.

Veerle

March, 31^st 2014

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How our Childhood Stories can Bridge our Soul’s purpose

December 10, 2013December 11, 2013 Veerle de Bock

Awareness is closely related to how well we understand our inner make-up. Author Veerle De Bock shares five developmental steps that can help this understanding.

Throughout childhood, a great deal happens to us and around us. We pack these memories away inside of ourselves as stories that help define who we are. These stories become our beliefs. We act and feel according to our beliefs.

Our inner make-up reveals the connection between all these different beliefs and our soul’s purpose. It’s fascinating to look at the contents of our stories in order to reveal our beliefs and gain a greater understanding of who ‘we’ are.

The combination of our personal process and our life’s task compose our soul’s purpose. The stories of things that happen to us or around us match the personal process we want to achieve. These stories make our issues clearer for us. We are able to free the gifts specific to our developmental stage. These gifts strengthen the unique life task that we have to fulfil for the world.

In this article, we will explore our inner make-up through our childhood development. I will show you five developmental stages that we all go through and connect each of these stages with its unique beliefs. The stories that underlie each belief are unique for each of us.

Developmental Stage 1: the need for safety and security

This stage lasts from our stay in the womb until the age of 6 months. As a baby we need the safety and security that we get through bonding with our primary caregiver and from having our basic physiological needs met – food, warmth, comfort, rest.

The experience of unmet physiological needs creates a lack of safety and a feeling of insecurity. These are the beliefs we harvest:

“I’m not wanted.”
“Life is unsafe and harsh.”
“I have no right to exist.”

As adults we still have a part of us that defines itself through these beliefs and their underlying stories.

In order for this part of us to grow, we need to be able to create that safety and security inside of ourselves. When we have achieved this, our stories can then change.

We enter this physical realm as spiritual beings, and it is hard for us to adjust to our physical bodies. When our spiritual Self feels safe, it is able to incarnate. Then, our gift can surface as an ‘embodied spirituality’. This is a connection with the spiritual world that is lived through our body. We are able to live the sacredness in our daily lives.

Developmental Stage 2: the need for approval and recognition

From the age of six months until the age of two, we start to develop a sense of self. As a young child, we discern our sense of self by exploring what we like and dislike.

When we experience a lack of approval and recognition at this age, it creates insecurity about our likes and dislikes and therefore about our sense of self. At this stage, we collect beliefs and associated stories about humiliation and shame:

“I will be humiliated.”
“I am evil.”
“I am not important.”
“I will be ashamed.”

As an adult there is still a part of us that is defined by these stories as long as we, consciously or unconsciously, seek approval. When we allow this part to find recognition from within ourselves, we are ready to allow our stories to shift automatically. We begin to enjoy our own company. Our gift becomes pleasure, sensuality and life force. We radiate aliveness. Our pleasure is inspiring.

Developmental Stage 3: the need for control and power

Between the ages of two and six we develop our ego and, as our ego begins to relate to our sense of self, we learn to make sense of ‘who’ we are.

During this stage we explore our inner authority and strength.

There is a natural need at this stage to control the environment and exert power over others – and if we don’t, we feel powerless. Because of this dynamic, we gather beliefs and stories that define a part of us that either experiences feelings of self-importance or worthlessness:

“I need to be perfect in order to be in control.”
“I am powerless.”
“I am superior.”

In adulthood this power dynamic continues to pop up. This young part of us can grow when the older ‘us’ holds space for it to experience its inner strength. Our gift becomes a balanced inner authority. We no longer rely on an authority outside of us. We are able to fight with grace for what is really important to us.

Developmental Stage 4: the need to give and receive love

Between six and twelve years old we move into relationships with other human beings. As adolescents we engage in an amazingly rich palette of relationships.

These relationships are exquisite tools through which we can explore our stories. Other human beings reflect back to us our beauty and our challenges. We learn through those relationships and we can get hurt and feel rejected.

Our beliefs and the underlying stories we collect at this stage are related to betrayal and distrust:

“I am unlovable.”
“If I love, I will be hurt and rejected.”
“It is safer to stay on my own.”

As adults, we still carry this adolescent part within us when we are afraid of being hurt and consequently hesitate to reach out and connect with others.

When the older ‘us’ is able to deeply love and accept this insecure part of us, it is able to grow, thus enabling its gift for the world – love and compassion, real contact and undefended moving out towards the other.

Developmental Stage 5: the need to speak our truth

From the age of twelve onwards we start to express our truth which is the result of an inner process of assimilation and integration. This unique truth is how we express our unique quality in the world.

We ask ourselves how our truth will be received by our family and peers. Sometimes what we hear back from our family and peers does not resonate with what we know to be true.

We collect beliefs and stories of how we block our creative expression and hide our truth:

“My truth is not okay.”
“If I share I will be humiliated.”
“My inner truth does not fit with what is happening around me.”

As an adult, this part of us has difficulties creatively expressing and making sense of what is happening around us. We must hold space for this part to learn to trust.

Our gift, at this stage, is our ability to assimilate and integrate what we perceive and to take responsibility for our stories.

Closing thoughts

‘We’ are a wonderful resource. We are amazingly sophisticated human beings and each of us is a kaleidoscope of unfinished business, partly integrated steps and amazing gifts.

As we move through our childhood a part of us moves on to the next step while, at the same time, another part is very often defined through the beliefs and stories that belong to the previous stage.

Each of these five developmental steps focuses on a specific need. Our experiences of unmet needs are the stories that we gather at each stage and, as adults we learn to gently and lovingly care for these younger parts of ourselves. When we are able to hold space for the needs of those younger parts, they are able to show us the gifts they bring to the world.

Our unmet needs connect us with our soul’s purpose; they are the basis for our personal process and become gifts that are able to strengthen our specific life task in this world. These gifts are related with our developmental stages.

My book Becoming What is Changing: Exposition looks at our inner make-up in more detail. In it, I offer you maps to unravel your personal process and your personality.

I hope this article has helped you gain insight into the magic of ‘you’ and your amazing soul’s purpose. Please leave any thoughts, insights or reflections in the comments box.

Veerle de Bock
10th December 2013

VEERLE DE BOCK is a physician, healer, facilitator, trainer, coach and author of the trilogy, Becoming What is Changing. She spent nearly three decades of her life as a physician specializing in geriatric care, including a 21-year career as department head in an Antwerp regional hospital. In 2003, she began her study as an energetic healer, teacher, process facilitator and supervisor at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing and, since 2007 has helped many trainees to master these same skills. In 2010 she was trained in the practice of Dynamic Facilitation by Jim Rough, which she now incorporates into her workshops and training sessions. In 2012 she decided to devote her work exclusively to writing, facilitation and coaching. That same year, she devised a new integrative practice of facilitation she calls ‘Guest House Facilitation’ that helps teams learn how to listen and utilise both the inner and outer processes within their organisation, to see it as a dynamic and living organism, and to reconnect to its intrinsic purpose and intention. Her book, Becoming What is Changing: Exposition, is the first part of a trilogy aimed at managers, team leaders and responsible employees who wish to bring this kind of transformation into the workplace, so they can create an environment where people are happy, satisfied and continuously growing.

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