Aspects of life

Back Pain Speaks to “Self” through a Family Constellation.

Back Pain Speaks to “Self” through a Family Constellation.

Ancestral consciousness can assist our body to represent the conflicts, which we need in order to fulfil our soul’s purpose.


This is the story of an amazing young man, with a wonderful set of skills and accomplishments, with great possibilities to succeed in life and yet contained through a huge back pain since the age of 14.

What is his back trying to tell him?

We sit in a devoted group who is ready to delve deep into the constellation work in order to bring clarity to personal processes and through these into the world.

  • Getting to know the current issue
  • Setting up the representatives
  • The unfolding of the process
  • The climax of the constellation


Getting to know the current issue

You start the constellation with an interview, the case giver is invited to speak from the “I” perspective, to share the current situation and to describe the different stakeholders. It is good to invite the case giver to share his intention with regard to the outcome of the constellation. How does he want to be after this session?

Our case giver has a back problem, which started at the age of 14. At this age his parents divorced after having been living apart for several years. The divorce inflicted important financial problems on his mother. The case giver feels he has to protect his mother and behave perfectly.

Recently his back pain increased and now is also radiating towards his shoulders, blocking his ability to live his life to its fullest potential.

His intention is to understand how his back is serving him.


Setting up the representatives.

Images_18The facilitator proposes to set up the primary family system: the mother, the father and the self. She intuitively suggests to also represent the grandmother on the father’s side.

The first view of the positioning shows that there is no contact between self and his father and grandmother

The mother is in search of something that seems to be on the ground and is wondering why nobody takes note of this. A pillow is brought in to represent this so-called “secret”.

The grandmother hides something. A representative is chosen to be a body, which is lying on the floor, probably someone who died.


The unfolding of the process

It becomes quickly obvious that there is a secret that the mother is obliged to hold in order to protect her son. This secret does not belong to the mother it belongs to the father.

This secret however cannot return to the father. The only journey the secret can take is through the son.

It takes a while for the self to be able to receive the secret from his mother. It is very painful without knowing what it is he receives. Huge terror is created in self. The back pain in self increases.

Self reaches out to his father to help him.


The climax of the constellation

Images_19Something happened in the past with the father. His mother, the grandmother protected her son and kept this secret hidden for the outside world. In one or another way this secret was transferred to her daughter-in-law. The father cannot own this trauma and even in the constellation is unable to look at it, accept it, process it.

His son has to take it and he needs to acknowledge and accept that life comes from his father and from his mother with all that belongs to it.




We have amazing intelligent physical bodies, they are our most intimate partners in this life. When there is a physical problem a constellation can reveal its ancestral consciousness with its underlying beliefs and constructs.

Ancestral consciousness in this constellation is a secret, which creates a distortion in the field. The need to protect somebody is very present in this constellation. The case giver mentions in the interview the urge to protect his mother, in the constellation there is a huge need for protection from the grandmother towards her son and from the mother towards her son.

It is important for the case giver to bring all the representatives into his inner being. The constellation is a mirror, a reflection of what happens inside. The secret, entanglement, construct or pattern from the past only serves to teach the self.

The back pain can heal when time is ready and the teachings are integrated.


You can read more about the family and system constellations work of Lia Verrees on her facebook page: Reinventing the Art of Constellations.

I look forward to your comments.

Warm regards


Images_14VEERLE DE BOCK is a social entrepreneur, a change-maker, physician, healer, facilitator, trainer, coach and author of the trilogy, Becoming What is Changing. She spent nearly three decades of her life as a physician specializing in geriatric care, including a 21-year career as department head in an Antwerp regional hospital. In 2003, she began her study as an energetic healer, teacher, process facilitator and supervisor at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, and since 2007 has been leading many other trainees to master these same skills. In 2010 she was trained in the practice of Dynamic Facilitation by Jim Rough, which she now incorporates into her workshops and training sessions. In 2012 she decided to devote her work exclusively to writing, facilitation and coaching. That same year, she devised a new integrative practice of facilitation she calls ‘Guest House Facilitation’, that helps teams learn how to listen and utilise both the inner and outer processes within their organisation, to see it as a dynamic and living organism, and to reconnect to its intrinsic purpose and intention. Her book, Becoming What is Changing: Exposition, is the first part of a trilogy aimed at managers, team leaders and responsible employees who wish to bring this kind of transformation into the workplace, so they can create an environment where people are happy, satisfied and continuously growing. She is the initiator of a Teal Organization: A Mystery School for Life.