An inner listening environment offers the voices of judgement, cynicism and fears a safe space to relax and reconnect to their original purpose in our life.
How can we invite our personality to inspire for the highest evolutionary purpose for our soul and physical body?
Our personality is our magic tool to learn to maximally experience live as a soul partnering with a physical body.
- Voices of judgement tend to block our ability to change our images and beliefs.
- Voices of cynicism destroy our natural empathy and our ability to look through the eyes of the other.
- Voices of fear make it hard for us to let go of our habitual patterns to react to what is happening to us and around us.
- The invitation is to create a listening environment for the frightened parts of our personality.
Voices of judgment
The voices of judgment continuously express judgment towards ourselves and others. They reinforce the beliefs and images we have of the world, ourselves, and others.
Examples of those voices are:
“You are not okay as you are!”
“You do not belong!”
“You make a fool of yourself!”
These voices affect our ability to open our reason. Opening our reason means to create space in our brain for our marvellous ideas and concepts, give space to our dreams for our life. The act of opening our reason makes that we allow a creative flow to move through us in connection with ourselves and others. This act creates the possibility of a sacred listening environment.
Voices of cynicism
The voices of cynicism make us feel ashamed of who and how we are in the world. They trouble our sense of being responsible and assimilate what happens to us and around us.
They can sound like:
“You don’t assume you can open your heart without the risk to be hurt!”
“The world is not a safe place and never will be, this world is not for softies!”
“Stop trying to be so kind and gentle!”
“Survival of the fittest!”
These voices point to our wounding, our pain bodies and stories. They convince us that our natural needs to be seen, to be safe, to be recognized, to be appreciated are endangered and that we have to get into competition with others, close our emotion and stop trying to look at the world through the eyes of the other. They prevent an easy gratification of our natural human needs.
Voices of fear
The voices of fear pretend to protect us from exposing ourselves into the world, from taking the risk to be abandoned, annihilated, rejected, betrayed, humiliated.
“You will be abandoned!”
“You will be rejected when you keep on showing so much vulnerability!”
“People will betray you and you will have asked for it!”
“I have said you, you’d better annihilate yourself before somebody else does it!”
Our will tends to rigidify around the patterns that create safety, control and power over others. We are scared to align our will with a higher will, with something that is much bigger than we are.
The frightened parts of our personality
We create different parts in our personality during our childhood. Those parts originate as a result of what happens to us and around us in our childhood.
The different parts of our personality arrange themselves and express themselves as voices of fear, judgement and cynicism and they affect our states of being, which are reason, emotion and will.
The key is to understand our unique make-up and listen to the voices without acting upon them.
The invitation is to create a safe listening space!
When we listen wholeheartedly to a concern, the solution that is also present within us, will easily surface from underneath.
These voices of judgment, cynicism and fear limit the expression of our wholeness. They block our ability to be responsible and choose for self-organization. They compromise our deep listening into the evolutionary purpose of ourselves, our groups and the planet.
And yet each of the voices is a doorway.
We can access these doorways through bringing our attention to our breath and by pausing. Offer the frightened parts of our personality that express themselves through these voices a safe listening space.
Through this listening space we allow those frightened parts to embark on a journey inside of ourselves. It is a journey those frightened parts of us need to do by themselves. The bigger Self is not invited on this journey. The bigger Self though stays present and waits patiently for this frightened part to find its own solution when time is ready.
Bringing our attention to our personality and all its frightened parts is how we become what is changing. It affects mutually our soul and our physical body and will lead to the evolutionary purpose for both our soul and our physical body.
An elaborate guide on this mysterious journey that is our life you can find in my book: Becoming What is Changing: Exposition.
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VEERLE DE BOCK is a social entrepreneur, a change-maker, physician, healer, facilitator, trainer, coach and author of the trilogy, Becoming What is Changing. She spent nearly three decades of her life as a physician specializing in geriatric care, including a 21-year career as department head in an Antwerp regional hospital. In 2003, she began her study as an energetic healer, teacher, process facilitator and supervisor at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, and since 2007 has been leading many other trainees to master these same skills. In 2010 she was trained in the practice of Dynamic Facilitation by Jim Rough, which she now incorporates into her workshops and training sessions. In 2012 she decided to devote her work exclusively to writing, facilitation and coaching. That same year, she devised a new integrative practice of facilitation she calls ‘Guest House Facilitation’, that helps teams learn how to listen and utilise both the inner and outer processes within their organisation, to see it as a dynamic and living organism, and to reconnect to its intrinsic purpose and intention. Her book, Becoming What is Changing: Exposition, is the first part of a trilogy aimed at managers, team leaders and responsible employees who wish to bring this kind of transformation into the workplace, so they can create an environment where people are happy, satisfied and continuously growing. She is the initiator of a Teal Organization: A Mystery School for Life.