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Back Pain Speaks to “Self” through a Family Constellation.

Ancestral consciousness can assist our body to represent the conflicts, which we need in order to fulfil our soul’s purpose.

This is the story of an amazing young man, with a wonderful set of skills and accomplishments, with great possibilities to succeed in life and yet contained through a huge back pain since the age of 14.

What is his back trying to tell him?

We sit in a devoted group who is ready to delve deep into the constellation work in order to bring clarity to personal processes and through these into the world.

Getting to know the current issue
Setting up the representatives
The unfolding of the process
The climax of the constellation

Getting to know the current issue

You start the constellation with an interview, the case giver is invited to speak from the “I” perspective, to share the current situation and to describe the different stakeholders. It is good to invite the case giver to share his intention with regard to the outcome of the constellation. How does he want to be after this session?

Our case giver has a back problem, which started at the age of 14. At this age his parents divorced after having been living apart for several years. The divorce inflicted important financial problems on his mother. The case giver feels he has to protect his mother and behave perfectly.

Recently his back pain increased and now is also radiating towards his shoulders, blocking his ability to live his life to its fullest potential.

His intention is to understand how his back is serving him.

Setting up the representatives.

Images_18 The facilitator proposes to set up the primary family system: the mother, the father and the self. She intuitively suggests to also represent the grandmother on the father’s side.

The first view of the positioning shows that there is no contact between self and his father and grandmother

The mother is in search of something that seems to be on the ground and is wondering why nobody takes note of this. A pillow is brought in to represent this so-called “secret”.

The grandmother hides something. A representative is chosen to be a body, which is lying on the floor, probably someone who died.

The unfolding of the process

It becomes quickly obvious that there is a secret that the mother is obliged to hold in order to protect her son. This secret does not belong to the mother it belongs to the father.

This secret however cannot return to the father. The only journey the secret can take is through the son.

It takes a while for the self to be able to receive the secret from his mother. It is very painful without knowing what it is he receives. Huge terror is created in self. The back pain in self increases.

Self reaches out to his father to help him.

The climax of the constellation

Images_19 Something happened in the past with the father. His mother, the grandmother protected her son and kept this secret hidden for the outside world. In one or another way this secret was transferred to her daughter-in-law. The father cannot own this trauma and even in the constellation is unable to look at it, accept it, process it.

His son has to take it and he needs to acknowledge and accept that life comes from his father and from his mother with all that belongs to it.

CONCLUSION

We have amazing intelligent physical bodies, they are our most intimate partners in this life. When there is a physical problem a constellation can reveal its ancestral consciousness with its underlying beliefs and constructs.

Ancestral consciousness in this constellation is a secret, which creates a distortion in the field. The need to protect somebody is very present in this constellation. The case giver mentions in the interview the urge to protect his mother, in the constellation there is a huge need for protection from the grandmother towards her son and from the mother towards her son.

It is important for the case giver to bring all the representatives into his inner being. The constellation is a mirror, a reflection of what happens inside. The secret, entanglement, construct or pattern from the past only serves to teach the self.

The back pain can heal when time is ready and the teachings are integrated.

You can read more about the family and system constellations work of Lia Verrees on her facebook page: Reinventing the Art of Constellations.

I look forward to your comments.

Warm regards

Veerle

VEERLE DE BOCK is a social entrepreneur, a change-maker, physician, healer, facilitator, trainer, coach and author of the trilogy, Becoming What is Changing. She spent nearly three decades of her life as a physician specializing in geriatric care, including a 21-year career as department head in an Antwerp regional hospital. In 2003, she began her study as an energetic healer, teacher, process facilitator and supervisor at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, and since 2007 has been leading many other trainees to master these same skills. In 2010 she was trained in the practice of Dynamic Facilitation by Jim Rough, which she now incorporates into her workshops and training sessions. In 2012 she decided to devote her work exclusively to writing, facilitation and coaching. That same year, she devised a new integrative practice of facilitation she calls ‘Guest House Facilitation’, that helps teams learn how to listen and utilise both the inner and outer processes within their organisation, to see it as a dynamic and living organism, and to reconnect to its intrinsic purpose and intention. Her book, Becoming What is Changing: Exposition, is the first part of a trilogy aimed at managers, team leaders and responsible employees who wish to bring this kind of transformation into the workplace, so they can create an environment where people are happy, satisfied and continuously growing. She is the initiator of a Teal Organization: A Mystery School for Life.

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A Family Constellation dispels the powerful force of Wetiko.

December 11, 2015December 12, 2015 Veerle de Bock

Embody this power of evil within you, be willing to receive all that it means including the ability to destroy. Allow this force to swipe through your defences.

We met with a committed group of people wanting to learn how to bring more awareness into the world. We invited from the very first moment that what is happening around us in the world into our circle.

What unfolded was a confrontation with the evil that exists around us and within us. I use the name wetiko, which means somebody who terrorizes others through evil acts.

This is the story of the constellation.

The case giver shares her current situation.
Different snapshots of the constellation.
The case giver rejects what is revealed.
Wetiko moves through the facilitator.

The case giver shares her current situation.

“I am creating a website in order to bring into the world my passion and vision and so far it does not attract any clients or money.”

“I block my passion.”

“I need to resign to power, if I engage with power, I crush or destroy.”

“I need to stay small in order to be safe, to belong. I project my power upon somebody else in order to not have to own it.”

“There is a cage inside of me where I hold back my life force.”

Different snapshots of the constellation.

The case giver chooses a representative for her website, the client, money, the cage and her self.

Self is totally disconnected from money, and triggered by the client. Self does not want to take action, she is happy with her website and her cage.

When money moves through the constellation and joins the website, it becomes clear that the website does not serve the client.

More changes happen: Self is no longer connected with her website, she is connected with her cage.

The constellation is stuck. The facilitator proposes to bring in a new representative for frustration. Frustration is a distorted form of life force and it helps to move things.

The case giver rejects what is revealed.

The facilitator invites the case giver to look at the constellation. Self only wants her cage. Self reveals a huge resistance to let go of the safety of her cage, to own her power and life force. Her website is not meant to attract clients.

The case giver cannot accept what she sees and disconnects.

There is beauty and precise order in this act of the case giver in this moment. She disconnects from the whole scenery. It is crucial in this phase that the case giver is authentic and does not give in and stays with what is present for her, which is a clear “no”.

Wetiko moves through the facilitator.

Shortly after this disconnection happening through the case giver the facilitator points out to the case giver how she projects her power outside of herself on the facilitator. The case giver stays disconnected.

The facilitator allows this projected power to move through her, she experiences nausea and then completely faints.

Each time she tries to get up and take the lead again, she faints again. The beauty is that she needs to completely let go of control, she expresses how she feels a burning happening inside of her around her solar plexus.

This burning causes intense pain. The pain releases when one participant says: “I accept and own my inner darkness.”

Several of the participants repeat this sentence.

CONCLUSION

We creatively and multidimensionally shaped a constellation where the evil force moved through the facilitator and the group body.

What are the elements, which created the work done in this constellation?

The tool of projection enabled the case giver to project her power upon the facilitator and allowed the projection to land within the facilitator.

The case giver stayed authentic with her “no” and chooses to stay disconnected and separate.

The facilitator was deeply connected with the needs of the work in the moment.

The group body was able to stay present, embody the need to own their inner darkness and create a safe container for the work.

You and I, we all have a role in that which is happening around us. We often play out this part of us that does not want to be responsible, cannot be responsible and disconnects from what is happening around us. This gives evil a possibility to move on, to possess us and to act itself out in the world.

Evil is a creative force and when you do not attach, when you are able to completely surrender and become a vehicle for it, it cleanses and swipes your defences away for you, dissolve any place where a projection from outside can hook inside of you. You reach a new level of vulnerability and openness.

We need both these days. It is not up to one of us to be burned by wetiko, it is up to all of us to own and accept our inner darkness. We all have to be willing to die at the cross to save ourselves and each other.

You can read more about the family and system constellations work of Lia Verrees on her facebook page: Reinventing the Art of Constellations.

Paul Levy wrote a magnificent book Dispelling Wetiko to learn more about breaking the curse of evil.

I look forward to your comments.

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Veerle

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7 Lessons to Approach the Untamed Mysterious Force of Love

November 11, 2015November 11, 2015 Veerle de Bock

Love is not ruled by your will or what you do, maybe you often fear what love may say to you! Remember that “you” always have an intimate partner at your side!

Love is like water; stored in clouds it has a huge overview, a perspective where it can see everything from a distance. When the cloud empties itself on the fields, the water deeply engages with nature. The water becomes a physical sensation, water can be a powerful cleansing and very nourishing, and it can be a destroying force. Water always somewhere somehow returns to its perspective high up in the sky.

Love is such an amazing fascinating creative force in our lives, are you ready to be surprised?

Love is not the opposite of fear.
Love seduces and will never allow itself to be seduced.
Love embraces contradictions and thrives through conflicts.
Love is always different
Love is a natural human need
Love is an act of faith and there is no guarantee for exchange.
Love is ongoing expressed from Nature towards us.

1. Love is not the opposite of fear.

Fear can cause us to withdraw from love and it is an error to say that we can choose between love and fear. Voices of fear block your capacity to trust and your ability to heal. We can dance with love and experience fear at the same time. Fear is part of your personality. Love is a cosmic creative force.

2. Love cannot be seduced

We often try to seduce love by submission, power, beauty, wealth, tears or smiles. You cannot seduce love. True love seduces and will never allow itself to be seduced. True love seduces through its magnificence and high vibration, you fall in love with love!

3. Love embraces contradictions and conflicts

Love grows with contradictions and thrives through conflicts. Love transforms and heals and can end up destroying you, because your personality experiences love as a destructive force.

4. Love is always different

Each meeting with love is different. You always start anew. The people who left you do not take the sun with them although that is often how it feels. With every person leaving you, comes a hidden hope for a new possibility to express love.

5. Love is a natural human need

You love because you need to love. Needs are normal and part of your human condition. You can play with the strategies you apply to get this need for love met.

6. Love is an act of faith

Opening the door for love is an act of faith and there is no guarantee for exchange.

You don’t know how long love will stay or if your love will be returned.

7. Love is expressed through Nature

Nature is a manifestation of the Love of Source or God or whatever name you wish to give that which is bigger than you are. Nature continues to love you, no matter how you treat Nature.

CONCLUSION

Love creates and destroys, cleanses and drowns you. Love is a word that only gets meaning when somebody arrives to give it meaning. Love is only a word until you let yourself be possessed by its untamed mysterious force.

The invitation is to keep your heart wide open. When you go home, you find out that someone has been waiting for you, looking for the same thing you were looking for and experiencing the same anxieties and longings.

The one who has been waiting for you is your physical body. This amazing fascinating partner accompanies you in your exquisite experience of life on Earth.

The most important fact is that your physical body is part of nature and by this loves you unconditionally, pure and with great force.

I received my inspiration for this article through reading a chapter in Paulo Coelho’s book Manuscript found in Accra.

You can read more of this exquisite relationship between you and your physical body in my book Becoming What is Changing: Exposition.

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How can we inspire our unique evolutionary purpose?

October 23, 2015October 29, 2015 Veerle de Bock

An inner listening environment offers the voices of judgement, cynicism and fears a safe space to relax and reconnect to their original purpose in our life.

How can we invite our personality to inspire for the highest evolutionary purpose for our soul and physical body?

Our personality is our magic tool to learn to maximally experience live as a soul partnering with a physical body.

And it is quite an endeavour:

Voices of judgement tend to block our ability to change our images and beliefs.
Voices of cynicism destroy our natural empathy and our ability to look through the eyes of the other.
Voices of fear make it hard for us to let go of our habitual patterns to react to what is happening to us and around us.
The invitation is to create a listening environment for the frightened parts of our personality.

Voices of judgment

The voices of judgment continuously express judgment towards ourselves and others. They reinforce the beliefs and images we have of the world, ourselves, and others.

Examples of those voices are:

“You are not okay as you are!”

“You do not belong!”

“You make a fool of yourself!”

These voices affect our ability to open our reason. Opening our reason means to create space in our brain for our marvellous ideas and concepts, give space to our dreams for our life. The act of opening our reason makes that we allow a creative flow to move through us in connection with ourselves and others. This act creates the possibility of a sacred listening environment.

Voices of cynicism

The voices of cynicism make us feel ashamed of who and how we are in the world. They trouble our sense of being responsible and assimilate what happens to us and around us.

They can sound like:

“You don’t assume you can open your heart without the risk to be hurt!”

“The world is not a safe place and never will be, this world is not for softies!”

“Stop trying to be so kind and gentle!”

“Survival of the fittest!”

These voices point to our wounding, our pain bodies and stories. They convince us that our natural needs to be seen, to be safe, to be recognized, to be appreciated are endangered and that we have to get into competition with others, close our emotion and stop trying to look at the world through the eyes of the other. They prevent an easy gratification of our natural human needs.

Voices of fear

The voices of fear pretend to protect us from exposing ourselves into the world, from taking the risk to be abandoned, annihilated, rejected, betrayed, humiliated.

Those voices can sound like:

“You will be abandoned!”

“You will be rejected when you keep on showing so much vulnerability!”

“People will betray you and you will have asked for it!”

“I have said you, you’d better annihilate yourself before somebody else does it!”

Our will tends to rigidify around the patterns that create safety, control and power over others. We are scared to align our will with a higher will, with something that is much bigger than we are.

The frightened parts of our personality

We create different parts in our personality during our childhood. Those parts originate as a result of what happens to us and around us in our childhood.

The different parts of our personality arrange themselves and express themselves as voices of fear, judgement and cynicism and they affect our states of being, which are reason, emotion and will.

The key is to understand our unique make-up and listen to the voices without acting upon them.

The invitation is to create a safe listening space!

When we listen wholeheartedly to a concern, the solution that is also present within us, will easily surface from underneath.

CONCLUSION

These voices of judgment, cynicism and fear limit the expression of our wholeness. They block our ability to be responsible and choose for self-organization. They compromise our deep listening into the evolutionary purpose of ourselves, our groups and the planet.

And yet each of the voices is a doorway.

We can access these doorways through bringing our attention to our breath and by pausing. Offer the frightened parts of our personality that express themselves through these voices a safe listening space.

Through this listening space we allow those frightened parts to embark on a journey inside of ourselves. It is a journey those frightened parts of us need to do by themselves. The bigger Self is not invited on this journey. The bigger Self though stays present and waits patiently for this frightened part to find its own solution when time is ready.

Bringing our attention to our personality and all its frightened parts is how we become what is changing. It affects mutually our soul and our physical body and will lead to the evolutionary purpose for both our soul and our physical body.

An elaborate guide on this mysterious journey that is our life you can find in my book: Becoming What is Changing: Exposition.

I am always looking forward to your comments

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Veerle

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Our Physical Bodies: Complex, Evolving and Living Systems!

September 26, 2015September 27, 2015 Veerle de Bock

Self-organization, wholeness and evolutionary purpose are embedded in our physical bodies and the resources to creatively express anew organizations and systems.

Our world news powerfully reveals the ecological, social and spiritual divides. These divides represent the separation between self and our planet, self and other and self and self.

Consider the possibility to turn the camera around from what is happening outside of us to our physical body and be open to its amazing potential and its offerings.

Our physical body is not a machine; it is a complex, intelligent living system.
A cell has a high level of self-organization in order to deal with what is happening to her and around her.
A cell strives for inner wholeness and a deep connection and love with all the cells around her.
A cell continuously listens to the calling of the living system from which she is a part.

Our physical body is an intelligent being.

Our physical body changes without us being able to affect that, our physical body is an intelligence of its own right and will change according to this intelligent design. Our physical body is not a machine like accepted in the Newtonian view. Fifty trillion individual cells define our physical body. They organize themselves as a complex, participating, interconnected, interdependent and continuously changing and evolving system. They mirror us constantly the structures and processes of self-organization, wholeness, and evolutionary process which define a Teal Organization as described by Frederic Laloux in his extra-ordinary book: Reinventing Organizatons.

Our mind/personality often is a disturbing force in this fascinating eco-system.

Structures and processes reflecting self-organization.

There are to many to highlight them all, let us focus on the nucleus and the cell membrane.The nucleus of the cell is not hierarchical more important than any other part of the cell. In the interplay with the rest of the cell, a protein switch activates specific areas of our DNA when that is of service for the highest good of all.

There is no so-called dominator hierarchy and at the same time there are many natural hierarchies with organs as collections of cells that are very skilled in a specific area like renal function or endocrine function. Translated to an organization, we can state that a cell can take on a specific role through which parts of her DNA she activates and she can switch roles when that is appropriate, she is not defined by her role.

The cell membrane is how the cell engages with its environment. The cell membrane is the boundary with other cells, with the outside world and the inside world, you could state with all that happens to and around the cell affects the cell membrane.

This fluid structure of cholesterol, phospholipids and proteins enables the emerging of a practice of facilitating welcoming all that is happening to be part of the self-organizing processes within an individual cell and the organism of cells. You can compare a cell membrane at the level of an organization with a structure that enables all the information to be available for everyone. There is a huge level of transparency.

A cell strives for inner wholeness.

The physical body has no duality, nothing is labelled as good or bad. Any process or issue adds to the whole, to the value of this intelligent complex being. It is at the level of the mind/personality that the duality happens.

The fact that the cell has no duality, does not mean that nothing happens, the cell needs a huge conflict management so to speak in order to survive all that is happening to her and around her.

In this huge ongoing change and evolution, a cell makes herself ready for dying when she is ready with her life task, she does not cling to life. She celebrates what she has achieved and dissolves; her basic building blocks serve the emerging of new cells.

This is an invitation for an organization to regularly see which parts of the whole have accomplished their task, celebrate those parts and allow them to dissolve or let them go.

How evolutionary purpose is inherent.

Ongoing cleaning, renewing, moving, a cell never stays the same. A special example are the microtubules, they are continuously reshaping, breaking down and building up. Microtubules are the internal communication system of a cell. They are the high-speed technology for exchange of information.

An individual cell continuously listens to the calling of the living system, which is the physical body. She tunes into the creative impulse and potential independent from what she wants as an individual cell. This reminds us to see our organizations as living entities with their own soul and life force. Ask ourselves the question if we listen hard enough to their purposes?

CONCLUSION

We only need to redirect the camera from regarding the outside world to facing our physical body. Cellular awareness is the doorway to access a fascinating amount of self-organization, wholeness and evolutionary purpose.

This article only gives a glimpse of all that is continuously unfolding and happening deep within our physical bodies. Deep within our cells is the access point to the next stage of evolution to how we can creatively express anew that, which has always been there and will always be.

Cellular awareness connects us with that which is healthy, whole and connected. It is a knowing that precludes our wounding and the many overlays to our perception of self. It is accessing the realization within our cells that we are love!

In my book Becoming What is Changing: Exposition you are invited to continue this journey of turning the camera from what happens outside of you to what happens within you.

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Easy User’s directions for this Magical Tool: Our Personality!

September 16, 2015 Veerle de Bock

We reveal the masterpiece of ourselves, by allowing our “observer self” to occupy the driver’s seat and by giving permission to all that happens to affect us.

Imagine! Your personality with all its flaws actually is the perfect tool for you to grow and fulfil your soul’s purpose without even figuring out what that purpose is.

It is a very sophisticated tool and like any other such complex tool it needs a manual, it needs user’s directions.

Our personality is an energy field.
The different structures in the field are our character styles.
We take the drivers seat through our “observer self”!
We grow through giving a great deal of permission.

Our personality is an energy field.

We are a spiritual being, a soul incarnating with an energy consciousness. Our soul partners with a physical body with an energy consciousness of its own and with energy consciousness from our ancestors.

This energy consciousness is an energy field that surrounds and penetrates the physical body. It represents the different vibrations of ideas, thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, images, concepts. In fact this is the whole of our personality.

The different structures in the field are our character styles.

Whatever happens to us and around us will affect our thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, images, concepts and thus our energy field. At different age frames of our childhood we create structures in our energy field.

These become character styles, which each have a specific set of beliefs, emotions, visions, concepts, feelings, thoughts.

This is an example. A rigid character style is a part of us that strives to be perfect. It originates between the age of 2 and 6 depending on what happens to us and around us in our family of origin. The energy constellation reveals itself as a very tight form that is perfectly fitting around and into our physical body, there are no irregularities, no weak areas. It is our belief that we have to be perfect to be accepted. Our vision is a world with a huge level of perfection, order, clarity.

In our personality we have a mix of different character styles and how we are in the world depends on which of our character styles is in charge.

We take the drivers seat through our “observer Self”!

This is a story about my inner family of character styles. I am awake during the night and an ongoing stream of thoughts moves through me. I feel overwhelmed and there seems no way out. It is chaos, several of my character styles are active on my stage. Suddenly when I can obtain the drivers seat with my “observer self”, I notice how thoughts, ideas, concepts, feelings visions and beliefs of different parts of me are all present and intermingled. Only with my “observer self” in de drivers seat can I create a safe space for all of them, hold them with love and acceptance and allow them to reveal their unique gifts.

Our “observer self” is a part of our personality, which is not attached to any character style, it is neutral. An easy way to access our “observer self” is by bringing our attention to our heart and so to speak open our heart.

We grow through giving a great deal of permission.

Once we have an “observer self” in the driver’s seat we are ready for another user’s direction. This user’s direction is about giving permission for whatever happens to us “and” around us to teach us, trigger us, touch us, affect us, move us.

This interplay with what is actually happening in the world through relationships, events, exchanges is the key feature for revealing this masterpiece which we are!

CONCLUSION

Our character styles can create huge rollercoasters in our lives, bringing happiness and pain, conflict and resolution, love and hate, fear and courage. Although they often seem to lead a life of their own and no way to control them, these user’s directions offer us another option.

Our “observer self” sources the space with loving kindness, patience and clarity for our character styles to reveal their magic.

We know we are affecting the world through our energy field or personality. We understand we express ourselves through our projects, relationships and groups.

In my book Becoming What is Changing: Exposition you can learn more about this magical tool of our personality and our fascinating character styles.

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The fascinating gift of biological relationships

August 30, 2015August 30, 2015 Veerle de Bock

This amazing mix of spiritual and biological relationships is astonishing and is a huge opportunity to grow and transform, to understand yourself and others.

We are on a family vacation, my husband and me and our four adults children. What an amazing adventure and such a great gift to see each other, to observe, to witness, to be curious.

Here are some amazing perspectives

Our biological and spiritual relationships affect each other.
Life is a stage where all of us take different roles.
We can sit on the first row and observe our patterns.

Biological and spiritual relationships

We choose our family relationships, we incarnate together with a bunch of souls with whom we made arrangements long before we actually live our lives in lesser or higher degrees of harmony. The truth is that harmonious relationships are not a “must” in order for us to grow and transform. In a family there are often as many spiritual relationships as there are biological ones. We know from a previous article how our ancestors matter, they also matter spiritually!

Life is a stage

We all take up different roles in the scenery of life. Life is a stage, the décor is what is happening around us and to us, we can choose in each moment which role we take on and so can everybody else around us.

You can create for each other new stages, where you try out different roles, where you allow different parts of your personality to be on stage. A real good agreement is not to take anything personal. And to understand that whatever touches you, hurts you, triggers you, has to do with you and what it does with the other is not really your business.

Observe your patterns

It is an ideal opportunity to be at the first rows of the stage where you play out your patterns and well-known acts. You can decide if they still suit you or not. These patterns originated for a big deal in your childhood. Family constellations is an approach developed by Bert Hellinger and involves family representation through the use of others in order to reveal the hidden dynamics in a family so that they can be healed.

If you literally spend time again in the same constellation, if feels as if you are in a family constellation, the difference is that everybody plays his own role.

A story of our family vacation

We are returning to our cottage by bike after spending the day at the beach. It seems to take us much longer than expected. Everybody enjoyed the biking, except for my eldest daughter. She got upset and wondered if we were following the right direction. Her dad laughed and invited her to let her be surprised. I observed and learned a lot about myself, my daughter’s behaviour is very familiar to me. How do I let go of control and simply enjoy the moment?

CONCLUSION

Our family constellation, the fascinating mix of biological and spiritual relationships is awesome. We can gain insight in the dynamics with our mother and father, with our siblings.

As parents our children each mirror us parts of us. We are offered wonderful lessons about ourselves, simply by witnessing them and their way of being. Some aspects we can obviously recognize, others are more difficult for us to own.

We could agree to decide to stop trying to change the other, fix the other, analyse the other, care-take or merge with the other. See our children as adults and amazing fascinating spiritual beings. They might have been our teachers, mother, father, king, queen in a previous life.

See our parents as the bigger spiritual beings, which they are, applaud their accomplishments and accept their struggles.

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HOW DO YOUR ANCESTORS AFFECT YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCES?

August 11, 2015 Veerle de Bock

HOW DO YOUR ANCESTORS AFFECT YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCES?

Your physical body originates from an egg cell and a sperm cell that both have an energy consciousness. This is the blueprint of your mother and your father.

Did somebody ever say to you that you really are like your mother or your father?

My husband did recently and I got very upset.

So I began an inquiry, I really wanted to find out!

This article shares the story of how you and I make decisions in our physical body, how each of our cells creates an electromagnetic field, how we receive a biological legacy from our parents. This legacy is different from our genes.

We start our life on earth with a blueprint we inherited!

Our magical cell membranes!
What is energy consciousness?
An egg cell and a sperm cell
Not a blank canvas

Our magical cell membranes

Bruce Lipton, a well-known cellular biologist, says our genes are not defining our lives. He explains our cell membranes do.

The cell membrane continuously decides what can enter the cell, which reaction the cell will have, if something leaves the cell. A cell membrane decides about growth, birth, death, defence, connection.

Imagine! Our physical body is an organism composed by fifty trillion cells, where self-organization is governed by the cell membranes of each individual cell!

Our DNA lays dormant in the nucleus of the cell and can only become active if specific proteins switch it on. Those proteins are governed by the cell membrane. The environment of the cell membrane and the information that reaches the cell membrane is what is prompting the decisions we make in our physical body.

Energy consciousness

Each of our cells produces electricity, some of our cells like the cells of the nervous system and the heart produce more electricity than other cells in our body. This electricity creates an electromagnetic field using the physical body as a magnet.

This energy field extends out of the physical body and penetrates each cell. Which results in the fact that each of our cells is surrounded and penetrated by energy consciousness.

This energy consciousness is the medium to quickly transport information through our physical body from one cell to another, from one area of the body to another area, within organs, systems and tissues. Thoughts, emotions, ideas, feelings, concepts, images, beliefs are all energy vibrations in this energy consciousness.

All of this is extensively and exquisitely described in my book: Becoming What Is Changing: Exposition.

An egg cell and a sperm cell

If every cell has an energy consciousness so have the egg cell and the sperm cell that are the basic building blocks of our physical body. This energy consciousness that holds the blueprint of the thoughts, concepts, images, beliefs, feelings, emotions of respectively your mother and your father.

When the egg cell and the sperm cell merge those blueprints merge as well and they will assist the cell membranes of the new cells how to make decisions. Remember, the cell membranes decide how to grow and which parts of the DNA to switch on or switch off.

And stretch a bit further, your parents also got their primary egg cell and sperm cell from their mother and father. So this energy consciousness is still incorporated into the cells you got and so is the energy consciousness of your grandparents, and their parents and so on and on and on….

A blank canvas

Some schools say a newborn baby is a blank canvas and subject to the environment. It is not, our physical body already comes into existence with a great deal of energy consciousness that holds information from your ancestors and most of all from your mother and father.

This energy consciousness can switch on certain areas of your genes and can leave other areas dormant. This energy consciousness will affect and be affected by what is happening to us and around us in the environment.

CONCLUSION

It is possible for our ancestors to control a great deal of our lives!

They affect our life experiences through the energy consciousness that surrounds and impregnates our primary building blocks, the egg cell and the sperm cell of our parents.

This energy consciousness offers us a territory to play with, a set of threads and the basic structure for the unique tapestry of our lives.

Our cell membranes create and sustain the energy that surrounds each cell and they are affected in return by this energy consciousness.

When you incarnate on earth, your soul starts to dance this intimate exchange with your body and their energy consciousness mingles.

So how can we occupy the driver’s seat in our life?

Do you have any idea? I would love if you share them in the comment box.

There is much more to discover in future articles about our personality and this fabulous dance of our soul with our physical body.

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Aspects of life

SEVEN FASCINATING PERSPECTIVES OF YOUR POTENTIAL

July 28, 2015 Veerle de Bock

SEVEN FASCINATING PERSPECTIVES OF YOUR POTENTIAL

How can you access your unique miraculous potential without defining and containing it? Listen deeply within and connect with the DNA in the cells of your amazing physical body.

Have you ever imagined that you have a potential that is hidden in the nucleus of each of your fifty trillion cells.

In this article you will find out seven astonishing statements about your potential.

Your potential is hidden in your DNA, it is not your DNA!
The normal state of your DNA and your potential is dormant!
Intelligence, strength, courage and integrity are beautiful values, they are not your potential!
Any life experience can offer you an entry to your potential!
When somebody really listens to you, you access your potential.
You can cultivate those circumstances that gave you access to your potential.
Your potential is joy, aliveness and love.

Your potential is hidden in your DNA, it is not your DNA!

You know that each of your cells has a nucleus that contains DNA. You received that DNA from the egg cell and the sperm cell that merged in order to start the creation of a new human being.

Your potential is much more then the inherited sequences of nucleotide bases which you got from your parents. Within the DNA helix quantum processes are happening all the time that allow an ongoing sourcing from the energy field of the Universe. It is this direct connection with the unlimited resources in the Universe that is your true potential.

The normal state of your DNA and your potential is dormant!

The DNA in our cells is most of the time in a dormant state, like a sleeping beauty, highly protected by a coat of proteins. This protein coat needs to be switched on in order for the unwinding of the DNA helix to happen and the access to source to unfold.

Intelligence, strength, courage and integrity are beautiful values, they are not your potential!

Those are important features of your personality. Our personality is the energy field that is created in the dance of your soul with your physical body. It is the product of the energy consciousness of your soul, the energy field created through your physical body and the energy consciousness of your ancestors. It is your playground in this life. You can read more about this in my book Becoming what is Changing: Exposition. Intelligence, strength, courage and integrity are vibrations in your personality and will help you access your potential. In return your potential will assist you to grow these specific features in your personality.

Any life experience can offer you an entry to your potential!

Any life experience can become an entry to own our potential. Some of us know or experienced how difficult experiences or dis-eases offer a doorway to aspects we did not know we had. In fact any life experience gives you an opportunity to go inward, experience what is happening to you and deeply connect with your cells.

When somebody really listens to you, you can access your potential.

When somebody really listens to you, without interrupting you, without infantilizing you, allowing you to experience all of you in the moment, you access your potential. It is as simple as that.

Cultivate those circumstances that gave you access to your potential.

If you once found the gateway into your own cells, you can establish a highway so to speak. You strengthen the networks between the nervous cells and create a connection with source deep within you.

Cultivating circumstances that help you to connect to your potential is also dare to ask your friends and intimate relationships to really listen to you as pointed out in the previous statement!

Your potential is joy, aliveness and love.

Your potential is dynamic, it is an experience, it creates aliveness, love and bliss. If it is not, it is not your potential!

CONCLUSION

What is our potential?

We cannot define our potential, it is everywhere and nowhere, it is all that is manifested and still waiting to be manifested. Our potential is miraculous and astonishing, it weaves with the tapestry of the unknown.

Our potential encompasses all the possibilities to shape shift our DNA and express the highest possible version of ourselves in the physical reality.

You recognize your potential when your choices

create “joy, aliveness, love and ease”, it is as simple as that!

I look forward to hear your comments and questions.

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Aspects of life

DO YOU ALLOW OTHERS TO BABYSIT YOUR POTENTIAL? I DO!

July 22, 2015 Veerle de Bock

DO YOU ALLOW OTHERS TO BABYSIT YOUR POTENTIAL? I DO!

Imagine your potential to be like a sleeping beauty protected by thorns and waiting for the prince to save her. Who is this prince? Is it an aspect of you?

Do we all have a dormant potential?

Dreams can offer us information that is not easily accessible. It opens us up for realities that might be obvious for others though not for us.

Sharing my latest dream

I entered a building and found two young children a boy and a girl, at first I did not notice though suddenly I realized they were kept hostage. There was also a man kept hostage, who looked like someone I know though have not seen for several years.

This man has always been a reformer, someone who wanted to make the circumstances better for others. There was something special, this man in my dream did not seem to feel kept hostage, he had something he wanted to do, to perform.

One of the guardians got very upset by seeing me there, he threatened me and ordered another man to remove me from the building.

Waking up and re-entering the same dream

I woke up still completely in this dream. I was wondering if it had to be considered a nightmare or simply a special dream.

I also wondered how to move on. I know how to re-enter my dreams.

As I got to sleep again, I was back in my dream and saw me with the children, telling them: “Always remember, that I love you dearly.”

I could physically perceive the threat of the guardians.

Making sense of the content

I woke up again, it was still night, I already understood how images of two films I partly watched on Thursday and Friday evening got mixed with my dream, like the children and the being kept hostage.

In the morning I realized that the dream had to do with how I still allow my potential to be babysit by others. So amazing and how that has to do with a young female and male part inside of me and an older male aspect of me.

This older male part is particularly interesting, as it feels like this part has no feeling of being kept hostage. Like a narcissus inside of me, that only wants to perform and be seen and will do that even if the circumstances are harsh and limited.

I am astonished that I so clearly still allow aspects of me, of my potential to be babysit by others.

CONCLUSION

Does this story resonate with you?

There are many ways in which we can interpret our dreams. The most important fact is that it makes sense to you, the dreamer. I often see the different persons in my dream as aspects of myself.

Is this metaphor of our potential being a sleeping beauty protected by thorns true? And if yes, are we the prince that comes and saves our potential?

As the prince we need to make the choice to sit at the drivers seat of our own life.

I see how there are still many questions.

How can we reach our full potential?

How we make other choices in our life?

How can we occupy the driver’s seat?

Please keep on reading these blogs, as more beautiful insights on our potential will follow. You can make it easy by subscribing.

A complete chapter about our amazing fascinating multidimensional potential is available in my book Becoming What is Changing: Exposition.

It is always a pleasure to receive your comments or insights.

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Veerle

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