Back Pain Speaks to “Self” through a Family Constellation.

Posted by on Jan 17, 2016 in Aspects of life

Back Pain Speaks to “Self” through a Family Constellation. Ancestral consciousness can assist our body to represent the conflicts, which we need in order to fulfil our soul’s purpose.   This is the story of an amazing young man, with a wonderful set of skills and accomplishments, with great possibilities to succeed in life and yet contained through a huge back pain since the age of 14. What is his back trying to tell him? We sit in a devoted group who is ready to delve deep into the constellation work in order to bring clarity to personal processes and through these into the world. Getting to know the current issue Setting up the representatives The unfolding of the process The climax of the constellation   Getting to know the current issue You start the constellation with an interview, the case giver is invited to speak from the “I” perspective, to share the current situation and to describe the different stakeholders. It is good to invite the case giver to share his intention with regard to the outcome of the constellation. How does he want to be after this session? Our case giver has a back problem, which started at the age of 14. At this age his parents divorced after having been living apart for several years. The divorce inflicted important financial problems on his mother. The case giver feels he has to protect his mother and behave perfectly. Recently his back pain increased and now is also radiating towards his shoulders, blocking his ability to live his life to its fullest potential. His intention is to understand how his back is serving him.   Setting up the representatives. The facilitator proposes to set up the primary family system: the mother, the father and the self. She intuitively suggests to also represent the grandmother on the father’s side. The first view of the positioning shows that there is no contact between self and his father and grandmother The mother is in search of something that seems to be on the ground and is wondering why nobody takes note of this. A pillow is brought in to represent this so-called “secret”. The grandmother hides something. A representative is chosen to be a body, which is lying on the floor, probably someone who died.   The unfolding of the process It becomes quickly obvious that there is a secret that the mother is obliged to hold in order to protect her son. This secret does not belong to the mother it belongs to the father. This secret however cannot return to the father. The only journey the secret can take is through the son. It takes a while for the self to be able to receive the secret from his mother. It is very painful without knowing what it is he receives. Huge terror is created in self. The back...

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A Family Constellation dispels the powerful force of Wetiko.

Posted by on Dec 11, 2015 in Aspects of life

Embody this power of evil within you, be willing to receive all that it means including the ability to destroy. Allow this force to swipe through your defences.   We met with a committed group of people wanting to learn how to bring more awareness into the world. We invited from the very first moment that what is happening around us in the world into our circle. What unfolded was a confrontation with the evil that exists around us and within us. I use the name wetiko, which means somebody who terrorizes others through evil acts. This is the story of the constellation. The case giver shares her current situation. Different snapshots of the constellation. The case giver rejects what is revealed. Wetiko moves through the facilitator.   The case giver shares her current situation. “I am creating a website in order to bring into the world my passion and vision and so far it does not attract any clients or money.” “I block my passion.” “I need to resign to power, if I engage with power, I crush or destroy.” “I need to stay small in order to be safe, to belong. I project my power upon somebody else in order to not have to own it.” “There is a cage inside of me where I hold back my life force.”   Different snapshots of the constellation. The case giver chooses a representative for her website, the client, money, the cage and her self. Self is totally disconnected from money, and triggered by the client. Self does not want to take action, she is happy with her website and her cage. When money moves through the constellation and joins the website, it becomes clear that the website does not serve the client. More changes happen: Self is no longer connected with her website, she is connected with her cage. The constellation is stuck. The facilitator proposes to bring in a new representative for frustration. Frustration is a distorted form of life force and it helps to move things.     The case giver rejects what is revealed. The facilitator invites the case giver to look at the constellation. Self only wants her cage. Self reveals a huge resistance to let go of the safety of her cage, to own her power and life force. Her website is not meant to attract clients. The case giver cannot accept what she sees and disconnects. There is beauty and precise order in this act of the case giver in this moment. She disconnects from the whole scenery. It is crucial in this phase that the case giver is authentic and does not give in and stays with what is present for her, which is a clear “no”.     Wetiko moves through the facilitator. Shortly after this disconnection happening through the case giver the facilitator points out to the case giver...

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7 Lessons to Approach the Untamed Mysterious Force of Love

Posted by on Nov 11, 2015 in Aspects of life

Love is not ruled by your will or what you do, maybe you often fear what love may say to you! Remember that “you” always have an intimate partner at your side! Love is like water; stored in clouds it has a huge overview, a perspective where it can see everything from a distance. When the cloud empties itself on the fields, the water deeply engages with nature. The water becomes a physical sensation, water can be a powerful cleansing and very nourishing, and it can be a destroying force. Water always somewhere somehow returns to its perspective high up in the sky. Love is such an amazing fascinating creative force in our lives, are you ready to be surprised? Love is not the opposite of fear. Love seduces and will never allow itself to be seduced. Love embraces contradictions and thrives through conflicts. Love is always different Love is a natural human need Love is an act of faith and there is no guarantee for exchange. Love is ongoing expressed from Nature towards us. 1. Love is not the opposite of fear. Fear can cause us to withdraw from love and it is an error to say that we can choose between love and fear. Voices of fear block your capacity to trust and your ability to heal. We can dance with love and experience fear at the same time. Fear is part of your personality. Love is a cosmic creative force. 2. Love cannot be seduced We often try to seduce love by submission, power, beauty, wealth, tears or smiles. You cannot seduce love. True love seduces and will never allow itself to be seduced. True love seduces through its magnificence and high vibration, you fall in love with love! 3. Love embraces contradictions and conflicts Love grows with contradictions and thrives through conflicts. Love transforms and heals and can end up destroying you, because your personality experiences love as a destructive force. 4. Love is always different Each meeting with love is different. You always start anew. The people who left you do not take the sun with them although that is often how it feels. With every person leaving you, comes a hidden hope for a new possibility to express love. 5. Love is a natural human need You love because you need to love. Needs are normal and part of your human condition. You can play with the strategies you apply to get this need for love met. 6. Love is an act of faith Opening the door for love is an act of faith and there is no guarantee for exchange. You don’t know how long love will stay or if your love will be returned.  7. Love is expressed through Nature Nature is a manifestation of the Love of Source or God or whatever name you wish to give that which is bigger than you are. Nature continues to love...

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How can we inspire our unique evolutionary purpose?

Posted by on Oct 23, 2015 in Aspects of life

An inner listening environment offers the voices of judgement, cynicism and fears a safe space to relax and reconnect to their original purpose in our life. How can we invite our personality to inspire for the highest evolutionary purpose for our soul and physical body? Our personality is our magic tool to learn to maximally experience live as a soul partnering with a physical body.   And it is quite an endeavour: Voices of judgement tend to block our ability to change our images and beliefs. Voices of cynicism destroy our natural empathy and our ability to look through the eyes of the other. Voices of fear make it hard for us to let go of our habitual patterns to react to what is happening to us and around us. The invitation is to create a listening environment for the frightened parts of our personality.   Voices of judgment The voices of judgment continuously express judgment towards ourselves and others. They reinforce the beliefs and images we have of the world, ourselves, and others. Examples of those voices are: “You are not okay as you are!” “You do not belong!” “You make a fool of yourself!” These voices affect our ability to open our reason. Opening our reason means to create space in our brain for our marvellous ideas and concepts, give space to our dreams for our life. The act of opening our reason makes that we allow a creative flow to move through us in connection with ourselves and others. This act creates the possibility of a sacred listening environment.   Voices of cynicism The voices of cynicism make us feel ashamed of who and how we are in the world. They trouble our sense of being responsible and assimilate what happens to us and around us. They can sound like: “You don’t assume you can open your heart without the risk to be hurt!” “The world is not a safe place and never will be, this world is not for softies!” “Stop trying to be so kind and gentle!” “Survival of the fittest!” These voices point to our wounding, our pain bodies and stories. They convince us that our natural needs to be seen, to be safe, to be recognized, to be appreciated are endangered and that we have to get into competition with others, close our emotion and stop trying to look at the world through the eyes of the other. They prevent an easy gratification of our natural human needs.   Voices of fear The voices of fear pretend to protect us from exposing ourselves into the world, from taking the risk to be abandoned, annihilated, rejected, betrayed, humiliated. Those voices can sound like: “You will be abandoned!” “You will be rejected when you keep on showing so much vulnerability!” “People will betray you and you will have asked for it!” “I have said...

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Our Physical Bodies: Complex, Evolving and Living Systems!

Posted by on Sep 26, 2015 in Aspects of life

Self-organization, wholeness and evolutionary purpose are embedded in our physical bodies and the resources to creatively express anew organizations and systems.   Our world news powerfully reveals the ecological, social and spiritual divides. These divides represent the separation between self and our planet, self and other and self and self. Consider the possibility to turn the camera around from what is happening outside of us to our physical body and be open to its amazing potential and its offerings. Our physical body is not a machine; it is a complex, intelligent living system. A cell has a high level of self-organization in order to deal with what is happening to her and around her. A cell strives for inner wholeness and a deep connection and love with all the cells around her. A cell continuously listens to the calling of the living system from which she is a part.   Our physical body is an intelligent being. Our physical body changes without us being able to affect that, our physical body is an intelligence of its own right and will change according to this intelligent design. Our physical body is not a machine like accepted in the Newtonian view. Fifty trillion individual cells define our physical body. They organize themselves as a complex, participating, interconnected, interdependent and continuously changing and evolving system. They mirror us constantly the structures and processes of self-organization, wholeness, and evolutionary process which define a Teal Organization as described by Frederic Laloux in his extra-ordinary book: Reinventing Organizatons. Our mind/personality often is a disturbing force in this fascinating eco-system.   Structures and processes reflecting self-organization. There are to many to highlight them all, let us focus on the nucleus and the cell membrane.The nucleus of the cell is not hierarchical more important than any other part of the cell. In the interplay with the rest of the cell, a protein switch activates specific areas of our DNA when that is of service for the highest good of all. There is no so-called dominator hierarchy and at the same time there are many natural hierarchies with organs as collections of cells that are very skilled in a specific area like renal function or endocrine function. Translated to an organization, we can state that a cell can take on a specific role through which parts of her DNA she activates and she can switch roles when that is appropriate, she is not defined by her role. The cell membrane is how the cell engages with its environment. The cell membrane is the boundary with other cells, with the outside world and the inside world, you could state with all that happens to and around the cell affects the cell membrane. This fluid structure of cholesterol, phospholipids and proteins enables the emerging of a practice of facilitating welcoming all that is happening to be part of the self-organizing...

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Easy User’s directions for this Magical Tool: Our Personality!

Posted by on Sep 16, 2015 in Aspects of life

We reveal the masterpiece of ourselves, by allowing our “observer self” to occupy the driver’s seat and by giving permission to all that happens to affect us.   Imagine! Your personality with all its flaws actually is the perfect tool for you to grow and fulfil your soul’s purpose without even figuring out what that purpose is.   It is a very sophisticated tool and like any other such complex tool it needs a manual, it needs user’s directions.   Our personality is an energy field. The different structures in the field are our character styles. We take the drivers seat through our “observer self”! We grow through giving a great deal of permission.   Our personality is an energy field. We are a spiritual being, a soul incarnating with an energy consciousness. Our soul partners with a physical body with an energy consciousness of its own and with energy consciousness from our ancestors. This energy consciousness is an energy field that surrounds and penetrates the physical body. It represents the different vibrations of ideas, thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, images, concepts. In fact this is the whole of our personality.   The different structures in the field are our character styles. Whatever happens to us and around us will affect our thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, images, concepts and thus our energy field. At different age frames of our childhood we create structures in our energy field. These become character styles, which each have a specific set of beliefs, emotions, visions, concepts, feelings, thoughts. This is an example. A rigid character style is a part of us that strives to be perfect. It originates between the age of 2 and 6 depending on what happens to us and around us in our family of origin. The energy constellation reveals itself as a very tight form that is perfectly fitting around and into our physical body, there are no irregularities, no weak areas. It is our belief that we have to be perfect to be accepted. Our vision is a world with a huge level of perfection, order, clarity. In our personality we have a mix of different character styles and how we are in the world depends on which of our character styles is in charge.   We take the drivers seat through our “observer Self”! This is a story about my inner family of character styles. I am awake during the night and an ongoing stream of thoughts moves through me. I feel overwhelmed and there seems no way out. It is chaos, several of my character styles are active on my stage. Suddenly when I can obtain the drivers seat with my “observer self”, I notice how thoughts, ideas, concepts, feelings visions and beliefs of different parts of me are all present and intermingled. Only with my “observer self” in de drivers seat can I create a safe...

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