Experiencing the life pulse as an Infintity Symbol

Posted by on Jun 2, 2016 in Blog

EXPERIENCING THE LIFE PULSE AS AN INFINITY SYMBOL. Combine the cosmic principle of expansion, stillness and contraction with individuality and connectedness, potential and resilience.   How can we bring the genius potential in each other into being? The answer is remembering this fabulous cosmic principle of the life pulse that exists in every living being and group being. What are the crucial ingredients of this magical infinity symbol? A pulsating potential A safe space Connectedness and individuality Resilience and vulnerability   A pulsating potential The life pulse is a cosmic principle that governs all of life in the Universe. It is pulsating and endless moving. It has three aspects, which are expansion, stillness and contraction. They follow each other, are intrinsically connected, one cannot without the other. An easy way to connect with the cosmic principle of the life pulse is silence. Bringing our attention to the stillness, the purple in our image, in the middle in the bottom area. This is the arriving out of the muchness of our current life circumstances, with all that happens to us and around us. In this fascinating silence nothing happens and yet everything happens. If you wish you can experience this silence in this moment. The stillness is the gathering of momentum for the next phase of the life pulse. The purple arrow shows how you move from the stillness into contraction (green on our image). It is an inward movement where you transform the outer potential offered through the exploitation into inner potential through nourishment, consolidation and integration. The wave continues and invites us to let go, which feels like a letting go of inner potential in order to achieve outer potential. We let go to create space. At the end of the contraction, we move into another moment of stillness (the purple on top in the middle). This is the silence in which we listen to guidance. What is the next step in our life, in our organization, our projects? The expansion is a moving outward, towards the other (orange on our image). What wants to be given birth to in the free space created through the letting go? The potential balances towards outer potential as newness is brought into the world. It is the pioneering. Expansion continues and makes a crucial turn towards exploitation, as you can see this is again accompanied by a movement from outer into inner potential. We have an ongoing wave, we reach again stillness in order to be leaded into stabilization, integration and consolidation. The potential that is touched into has to be integrated.   A safe space The virtual safe space is created energetically through the endless sign. As if the sacred geometry of this sign holds you. The geometry trusts that you have the answers for your own questions and challenges. The safety has the form of an ongoing wave always originating and always...

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A Constellation Reallocates Normal Human Needs.

Posted by on Feb 2, 2016 in Blog

A Constellation Reallocates Normal Human Needs.   It is normal and human to have needs. Growth is learning to own our needs and find appropriate strategies to meet them. This process releases our inner child from a huge burden.   This is the question of a courageous articulate young woman, ready to bring her unique bright essence and purpose into the world. How can I have a relationship and not loose my self? She explains: “It seems that often in a relationship a younger part of me occupies the stage of my life and requires a great deal of attention.” These are the steps in our constellation: Painting the scenery. Bringing consciousness into the entanglement What do we need to bring in? Completing the constellation   Painting the scenery The case giver decides to set up representatives for her self, her mother, her father and her young self.     When she places the representatives in the space, she sees how a triangle is formed between the father, self and young self. Mother is not included. You can see the first scenes on the cartoon.               Bringing consciousness into the entanglement When the facilitator asks the father to face his wife. He faces his daughter. This shows how a switching of roles happened. When the facilitator shares this observation with the case giver, it becomes apparent that this situation feels comfortable for her, she does not intend to exchange her place with her mother. The cartoon shows the next phases: The parents are in a conflict relationship and from that place both reach out to their daughter to get their needs met. Young self wants to escape the scenery, things shift when she is held in the triangle. We arrive back at our start point. We need something else.   What do we need to bring in? If we bring the focus on what self wants, this can change the entanglement. We bring in the consciousness of a passionate job.   This is the point in the constellation where you bring in order. Self cannot trust her passion, a job she really wants to do unless she gets out of the entanglement. Self is invited to address her parents and acknowledge that she got life from her father and her mother and that she is willing to take it to the fullest, with all that comes with it.   Completing the constellation  The case giver takes her place in the constellation, in order to have an embodied experience. She needs to acknowledge her father and her mother and the place of her mother next to her father. This often creates resistance in a case giver. Even if a pattern is not healthy, we are used to is and it is scary to choose for the unknown. She connects with her young self and...

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Back Pain Speaks to “Self” through a Family Constellation.

Posted by on Jan 17, 2016 in Blog

Back Pain Speaks to “Self” through a Family Constellation. Ancestral consciousness can assist our body to represent the conflicts, which we need in order to fulfil our soul’s purpose.   This is the story of an amazing young man, with a wonderful set of skills and accomplishments, with great possibilities to succeed in life and yet contained through a huge back pain since the age of 14. What is his back trying to tell him? We sit in a devoted group who is ready to delve deep into the constellation work in order to bring clarity to personal processes and through these into the world. Getting to know the current issue Setting up the representatives The unfolding of the process The climax of the constellation   Getting to know the current issue You start the constellation with an interview, the case giver is invited to speak from the “I” perspective, to share the current situation and to describe the different stakeholders. It is good to invite the case giver to share his intention with regard to the outcome of the constellation. How does he want to be after this session? Our case giver has a back problem, which started at the age of 14. At this age his parents divorced after having been living apart for several years. The divorce inflicted important financial problems on his mother. The case giver feels he has to protect his mother and behave perfectly. Recently his back pain increased and now is also radiating towards his shoulders, blocking his ability to live his life to its fullest potential. His intention is to understand how his back is serving him.   Setting up the representatives. The facilitator proposes to set up the primary family system: the mother, the father and the self. She intuitively suggests to also represent the grandmother on the father’s side. The first view of the positioning shows that there is no contact between self and his father and grandmother The mother is in search of something that seems to be on the ground and is wondering why nobody takes note of this. A pillow is brought in to represent this so-called “secret”. The grandmother hides something. A representative is chosen to be a body, which is lying on the floor, probably someone who died.   The unfolding of the process It becomes quickly obvious that there is a secret that the mother is obliged to hold in order to protect her son. This secret does not belong to the mother it belongs to the father. This secret however cannot return to the father. The only journey the secret can take is through the son. It takes a while for the self to be able to receive the secret from his mother. It is very painful without knowing what it is he receives. Huge terror is created in self. The back...

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A Family Constellation dispels the powerful force of Wetiko.

Posted by on Dec 11, 2015 in Blog

Embody this power of evil within you, be willing to receive all that it means including the ability to destroy. Allow this force to swipe through your defences.   We met with a committed group of people wanting to learn how to bring more awareness into the world. We invited from the very first moment that what is happening around us in the world into our circle. What unfolded was a confrontation with the evil that exists around us and within us. I use the name wetiko, which means somebody who terrorizes others through evil acts. This is the story of the constellation. The case giver shares her current situation. Different snapshots of the constellation. The case giver rejects what is revealed. Wetiko moves through the facilitator.   The case giver shares her current situation. “I am creating a website in order to bring into the world my passion and vision and so far it does not attract any clients or money.” “I block my passion.” “I need to resign to power, if I engage with power, I crush or destroy.” “I need to stay small in order to be safe, to belong. I project my power upon somebody else in order to not have to own it.” “There is a cage inside of me where I hold back my life force.”   Different snapshots of the constellation. The case giver chooses a representative for her website, the client, money, the cage and her self. Self is totally disconnected from money, and triggered by the client. Self does not want to take action, she is happy with her website and her cage. When money moves through the constellation and joins the website, it becomes clear that the website does not serve the client. More changes happen: Self is no longer connected with her website, she is connected with her cage. The constellation is stuck. The facilitator proposes to bring in a new representative for frustration. Frustration is a distorted form of life force and it helps to move things.     The case giver rejects what is revealed. The facilitator invites the case giver to look at the constellation. Self only wants her cage. Self reveals a huge resistance to let go of the safety of her cage, to own her power and life force. Her website is not meant to attract clients. The case giver cannot accept what she sees and disconnects. There is beauty and precise order in this act of the case giver in this moment. She disconnects from the whole scenery. It is crucial in this phase that the case giver is authentic and does not give in and stays with what is present for her, which is a clear “no”.     Wetiko moves through the facilitator. Shortly after this disconnection happening through the case giver the facilitator points out to the case giver...

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7 Lessons to Approach the Untamed Mysterious Force of Love

Posted by on Nov 11, 2015 in Blog

Love is not ruled by your will or what you do, maybe you often fear what love may say to you! Remember that “you” always have an intimate partner at your side! Love is like water; stored in clouds it has a huge overview, a perspective where it can see everything from a distance. When the cloud empties itself on the fields, the water deeply engages with nature. The water becomes a physical sensation, water can be a powerful cleansing and very nourishing, and it can be a destroying force. Water always somewhere somehow returns to its perspective high up in the sky. Love is such an amazing fascinating creative force in our lives, are you ready to be surprised? Love is not the opposite of fear. Love seduces and will never allow itself to be seduced. Love embraces contradictions and thrives through conflicts. Love is always different Love is a natural human need Love is an act of faith and there is no guarantee for exchange. Love is ongoing expressed from Nature towards us. 1. Love is not the opposite of fear. Fear can cause us to withdraw from love and it is an error to say that we can choose between love and fear. Voices of fear block your capacity to trust and your ability to heal. We can dance with love and experience fear at the same time. Fear is part of your personality. Love is a cosmic creative force. 2. Love cannot be seduced We often try to seduce love by submission, power, beauty, wealth, tears or smiles. You cannot seduce love. True love seduces and will never allow itself to be seduced. True love seduces through its magnificence and high vibration, you fall in love with love! 3. Love embraces contradictions and conflicts Love grows with contradictions and thrives through conflicts. Love transforms and heals and can end up destroying you, because your personality experiences love as a destructive force. 4. Love is always different Each meeting with love is different. You always start anew. The people who left you do not take the sun with them although that is often how it feels. With every person leaving you, comes a hidden hope for a new possibility to express love. 5. Love is a natural human need You love because you need to love. Needs are normal and part of your human condition. You can play with the strategies you apply to get this need for love met. 6. Love is an act of faith Opening the door for love is an act of faith and there is no guarantee for exchange. You don’t know how long love will stay or if your love will be returned.  7. Love is expressed through Nature Nature is a manifestation of the Love of Source or God or whatever name you wish to give that which is bigger than you are. Nature continues to love...

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How can we inspire our unique evolutionary purpose?

Posted by on Oct 23, 2015 in Blog

An inner listening environment offers the voices of judgement, cynicism and fears a safe space to relax and reconnect to their original purpose in our life. How can we invite our personality to inspire for the highest evolutionary purpose for our soul and physical body? Our personality is our magic tool to learn to maximally experience live as a soul partnering with a physical body.   And it is quite an endeavour: Voices of judgement tend to block our ability to change our images and beliefs. Voices of cynicism destroy our natural empathy and our ability to look through the eyes of the other. Voices of fear make it hard for us to let go of our habitual patterns to react to what is happening to us and around us. The invitation is to create a listening environment for the frightened parts of our personality.   Voices of judgment The voices of judgment continuously express judgment towards ourselves and others. They reinforce the beliefs and images we have of the world, ourselves, and others. Examples of those voices are: “You are not okay as you are!” “You do not belong!” “You make a fool of yourself!” These voices affect our ability to open our reason. Opening our reason means to create space in our brain for our marvellous ideas and concepts, give space to our dreams for our life. The act of opening our reason makes that we allow a creative flow to move through us in connection with ourselves and others. This act creates the possibility of a sacred listening environment.   Voices of cynicism The voices of cynicism make us feel ashamed of who and how we are in the world. They trouble our sense of being responsible and assimilate what happens to us and around us. They can sound like: “You don’t assume you can open your heart without the risk to be hurt!” “The world is not a safe place and never will be, this world is not for softies!” “Stop trying to be so kind and gentle!” “Survival of the fittest!” These voices point to our wounding, our pain bodies and stories. They convince us that our natural needs to be seen, to be safe, to be recognized, to be appreciated are endangered and that we have to get into competition with others, close our emotion and stop trying to look at the world through the eyes of the other. They prevent an easy gratification of our natural human needs.   Voices of fear The voices of fear pretend to protect us from exposing ourselves into the world, from taking the risk to be abandoned, annihilated, rejected, betrayed, humiliated. Those voices can sound like: “You will be abandoned!” “You will be rejected when you keep on showing so much vulnerability!” “People will betray you and you will have asked for it!” “I have said...

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